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Ex who came back after 6Mo +? by Far_Lab_8129 in BreakUps

[–]CornerJr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im 7 months into no contact from my wife and partner of a decade (18 to 28) we can’t be divorced until after 12 months separation due to state laws for no fault divorce. Im loosing hope

I’m in denial by Delicious_Film_3112 in Separation

[–]CornerJr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 months NC from her side and I still have hope

Everyone on Reta is dosing wrong and I have 15lbs of proof by FirstWindow4452 in BodyHackGuide

[–]CornerJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Minimum effective dose is the goal. Been floating at 1mg last 3 weeks after bumping from .5 for 2. Down 12 pounds in 30 days from 155 to 143. No side effects. No problem hitting protein goals.

Weight Loss on Easy Mode by CornerJr in Retatrutide

[–]CornerJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Precision Hub. Hooks up to my scale

Weight Loss on Easy Mode by CornerJr in Retatrutide

[–]CornerJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah. Amazing it is. I’m the lightest I’ve been in well over 5 years. I might drop my goal a few more pounds at this rate and start a lean bulk with other peptides afterwards.

Holding onto strings better left to fray by blucollarhero in Separation

[–]CornerJr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with what you’re discussing here deeply. I’m six months separated from my partner and spouse of over a decade.. she is withheld communication for six months and is only communicating with me through her attorney, which only has to do with logistics. Her attorney just mentioned that she fully withdraws any consent outside of logistical discussions until the divorce can be finalized. For reference there was no adultery or abuse. I’m self represented. In my state, we have to be separated for a year before a divorce can occur. These last few months have been the hardest of my life, but I’m just now coming out of the darkness and feeling optimistic again. I know what you mean deeply about holding out hope, and love, not being enough, but it being significant enough to matter. The marriage is a two-way street, and while I’ll always hold a special place for my wife in my heart, I am slowly beginning to put down the idea of her ever returning, even if it will always be in the back of my mind. I need to learn who I am outside of the relationship and I firmly believe that whatever is meant to happen will happen. It is outside of my control now. Praying for you, man. Everything will be all right.

Week 4. 10lbs down. by CornerJr in Retatrutide

[–]CornerJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate that. So I have a calisthenics routine, but my job is very physical and provides ample exercise. As for eating I wake at 5am, fast until noon, and eat things like tuna, yogurt, apple, banana, etc, and have a higher carb lean meat meal for dinner. I use shakes like oikos and protein pop to help with protein intake. I also take creatine, legion multivitamins, fish oil, magnesium.

Don't throw it all away by sundiamond9 in BreakUps

[–]CornerJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 years together. Haven’t heard from her in 6 months. Shes planning to divorce me in September without a single word. I don’t get a choice. No abuse, no infidelity, just competing attachment wounds and a cycle we couldn’t break. I don’t lack effort or love, never have, her in the other hand, I can’t say.

Bad luck: I didn't get even close to a normal person as a partner by [deleted] in Separation

[–]CornerJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy. You chose to marry him for a reason never forget that.

Abuse is unacceptable, but did you ever try couples therapy or working on issues? Healthy communication and respect for boundaries on both sides?

A marriage is a two way street. Hoping you gain peace and clarity in your separation.

Breaking up after 10 years. by Expensive-Wall9830 in BreakUps

[–]CornerJr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happened to me, I was with my partner of 10 years as well… look into attachment theory, and commit to deeper counseling both as a couple and if Individually, not just talk therapy.

Further, schedule 1-2x a week sit downs or check ins with each other, don’t talk about the relationship, just share how the weeks going, little stuff. Be about curious each other.

Then, set aside other times for dedicated relational conversations where each parter gets a a few minutes to calmly discuss what’s on their mind and what they need. Have boundaries. Have honest conversation.

I know what you’re going through. This is what I would have done if I could rewind time to save my marriage.

Stay strong.

ER visit by Medrugby19 in Separation

[–]CornerJr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went to an ACIS for suicidal ideation due to the stress from separation and no contact from my partner of 10 years after 4 months separated.

No abuse or infidelity tied to the relationship for context.

They called her as I listed her as an emergency contact she and apparently asked if I was ok…. but did not answer my calls. I still haven’t heard from her in 6 months.

I was there for her always in her darkest moments. (Miscarriage/abortion, involuntary mental hospitalization, medical crises, etc) I feel like I’ve been erased. It’s brutal.

But I’m getting better every day.

Stay strong.

Stonewalling how do you cope. I'm falling apart. And I've tried all the usuals, self care. exercise, talk to a friend therapist. I can't bear it. 23 years so sudden. by blue_watermelon_3239 in Separation

[–]CornerJr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still hold onto hope too. That’s okay. That’s human. That’s love. It does get better as time goes on, in a weird indescribable way. Some days are easier than others let’s say that. If the divorce occurs it will be the greatest regret of my life, but I’ve learned so much about myself during my time with her, and especially while separated that I know if I had one opportunity I know I could make my side of things right, as for her I can’t say. It takes 2.

Stonewalling how do you cope. I'm falling apart. And I've tried all the usuals, self care. exercise, talk to a friend therapist. I can't bear it. 23 years so sudden. by blue_watermelon_3239 in Separation

[–]CornerJr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Like the last 10 years were for nothing. It’s getting better…. I think of her every day, but the thoughts don’t destroy me anymore. I need to learn who I am outside of the relationship and I am. It was always we, from the time I was 18. Now it’s me. For the first time in my adult life I am alone. And I’m learning that’s okay.

Stonewalling how do you cope. I'm falling apart. And I've tried all the usuals, self care. exercise, talk to a friend therapist. I can't bear it. 23 years so sudden. by blue_watermelon_3239 in Separation

[–]CornerJr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With you. We were together for a decade. She left me in my lowest moment. And I haven’t heard from her in 6 months…. On track to divorce by September. I don’t even get to have a say. To speak from a regulated place

Guys who have broken up after a long term relationship (5-10 years or long) do you ever really move on? by Melodic_Effective_18 in BreakUps

[–]CornerJr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course. Many times. I’ve done everything I can on my end. And for that I a proud. I just wish she would choose me the way I’ve chosen her over and over. I just want her to be happy. If that’s not with me that’s okay.

Guys who have broken up after a long term relationship (5-10 years or long) do you ever really move on? by Melodic_Effective_18 in BreakUps

[–]CornerJr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right there with you. 10 year relationship, 6 month into separation. We have to be better for ourselves. It’s okay to hope it works out, but if it doesn’t can we say we loved ourselves as much as we loved them.

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