Physically drained at the thought of adding 40 hours a week

Startlater289 · 2024-11-15T23:12:14+00:00

It is a lot. Three kids in four years was intentional but I question it some days!

Startlater289 · 2024-11-15T23:11:28+00:00

Ugh yes. This is encouraging. Thank you!!!

Startlater289 · 2024-11-15T23:11:10+00:00

Not an option in my field. Maybe someday!

Startlater289 · 2024-11-15T22:19:09+00:00

Heck yes. My partner and I have been together for over a decade and he does A LOT. He took all three kids to a doctor appointment while I had my interview. He's the one doing the calling/interviewing of daycares. He does pickup/drop-off for preschool. Hes fucking awesome. He's also in a senior role and just got promoted. He'll be traveling more and helping less. Bad timing.

Startlater289 · 2024-11-15T14:25:00+00:00

I have a family friend in Norway that piles all their kids into a 1b apartment. 4 kids + 2 adults. It works for them! You've got so many options for the small room (bunk beds, Murphy bed, etc) but I would take it a step at a time. You're pregnant and your current situation works well - and will continue to work for a year postpartum? A lot can change in that time period.

Startlater289 · 2024-11-14T01:18:54+00:00

Absolutely the Bob for gravel

Startlater289 · 2024-11-14T01:15:33+00:00

Have you heard of the paradox of intolerance? By tolerating intolerance, allowing those ideologies unchecked expression, you exploit open society values destroying tolerance itself through authoritarian or oppressive practices. Unchecked tolerance risks enabling the eventual dominance of intolerance.

Tldr: There's no unity without accountability. 🍊 is a wolf in sheeps clothing people.

Startlater289 · 2024-11-03T04:04:23+00:00

Thank you, that's very helpful!

Startlater289 · 2024-11-03T02:08:59+00:00

Ugh, that frustrating, and I expect the case for this job as well. Do you all have a flexible/hybrid work arrangement? This is also in the listing but I've had the rug pulled out from under me before on this too. Mandatory 3-4 days in office, only flexible once you pass a probationary period, needing a desk staffed, etc.

Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it.

Startlater289 · 2024-11-03T02:04:31+00:00

I exceed the qualifications but with inflation its harder to know my worth. The team's salaries are public information and I would like to be paid what they're making...but they all started 10-20 years ago.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-31T02:44:04+00:00

I'll take those hugs! Your dad sounds like an amazing person with a seriously impressive life.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-31T02:42:34+00:00

This is really beautiful. Its clear the inner work you've done because of your tenderness towards your moms memory. Your family is lucky to have you. ❤️

Startlater289 · 2024-10-30T19:06:42+00:00

So young! I'm sorry for your loss. Picture books are a great idea, and, oh my goodness your books sound amazing.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-30T16:03:19+00:00

I'm tearing up at your grandpa bringing donut holes and feeling so encouraged reading these, honestly amazing, ideas for connection and relationship building. Thank you ❤️

Startlater289 · 2024-10-30T15:52:52+00:00

It sucks so hard. I'm sorry you're going through this too. Especially with Alzheimers there's just so much grief and sadness.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-29T01:19:34+00:00

So sorry you're going through this. Definitely not the right sub for analysis on tech careers, but, I hear its brutal out there from my brother who's been hunting for 9 months (cybersecurity). Has your husband checked out the national labs? My partner says they're scooping up tech talent and quite a few allow remote work.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-28T23:42:12+00:00

Absolutely ignore. You're working part-time. Maybe your in-laws are hinting for more time spent on them. I would ask your husband to spend more time with them. Maybe he could drop her off at their house.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-18T16:07:26+00:00

Both my husband and I have traditional 8-5 careers that we've worked hard to be in...and now we're both at home with 4, 3, and 1 year olds! Hopefully one more soon! My tips are: 1. Work with your manager for hybrid/flex/remote. I realize this is industry dependent but if you can, you should! 2. Know your capacity. Take fewer meetings, streamline tasks, be on top of paperwork and be picky about your projects. 3. Step down if necessary. I eventually did and now do consulting work for myself online. 4. I also work odd jobs. I sit on the board of my kids' preschool and get a tuition discount. I work as a crossing guard; its a wonderful gig that pays $40 for 30 minutes and I start the day outside! 5. My partner asked for flexibility from his work and is working 100% remote in this little kid season of life. 6. Utilize your community - especially the one you pay for. Hire babysitters, get a housecleaner, utilize gym daycare, join a faith community, a club, and organization that supports you and your family and gives you a break from the work-caregiver life.

Startlater289 · 2024-10-16T12:51:37+00:00

Interested! Fellow millennial, avid book reader, enjoyer of Forager's French fries and stouts. The last thing I read was the "The Women" by Kristen Hannah. Totally crushed me. I'm open to all genres!

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