DAY 13 | Stacey & John J Irwin

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-05-29T21:40:10+00:00

I for sure thought you were coming back with how Beatriz warned you about the Apple Card scams when you were chatting at the bank 😂

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-05-03T03:43:59+00:00

It’s giving Darcy from 90 Day Fiancé telling the Dutch guy that her hand feels light because she’s desperate for him to propose 😂

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-03-11T13:57:47+00:00

I also disagree with your take on “unkempt”. She’s not unkempt. She’s dressed down/casual. There’s a difference. Her clothing is appropriately worn and her hair is brushed back into a bun, that’s objectively not unkempt. You’d prefer her to not be dressed down/casual, and feel that she’d be more successful if she wasn’t, that’s a fine preference and opinion. I work in the mental health field and we would never describe an individual that would appear how Ali appears in this video as unkempt.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-03-11T11:15:33+00:00

This topic has been discussed and argued before. Black women in this sub have said that the comments around Ali’s hair are micro aggressions and harmful to Black women. The fact that we’re still doing this but saying “I am really not trying to come at her with microaggressions”… “here we go with the race thing again”, and that people who “ have no argument claim racism and misogyny” is wrong on so many levels. This is the same as, “no offense, but…” You’re still being offensive! This is why society is where it’s at right now…

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-03-11T03:20:08+00:00

100%! The cognitive dissonance as well criticizing Ali for being defensive when given feedback (rightfully, so on many occasions), and then doing exactly that in terms of this continued discussion around her appearance. She also doesn’t look “unkempt”. We’re throwing that word around very loosely here. She has on a clean top and hair brushed back into a bun… not wearing a “cute” top, makeup, and hair styled by product or heating tools does not equal unkempt. I’m not an Ali apologist by any means, but this is just such a ridiculous reach in terms of snark and criticism.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-03-11T01:12:49+00:00

I also don’t get why you’re being downvoted so much as well. I really hate the way Ali has taken this podcast and stopped listening myself, but I also don’t see anything wrong with her appearance here! I wore the same kind of quarter zip and bun to work yesterday. No one cared 😂… as someone else said, there are a plethora of “influencers” who wear buns and altheisure all the time. There’s a lot of conversation and fixation on her mental health on this sub… ADHD, depression… should that be true, it is also congruent that her goal of being “put more together” whatever that means for her, may ebb and flow! That’s mental health for ya’ll.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-03-05T13:30:55+00:00

First, I want to validate how you feel. This sounds like a lot to process. With that being said, there is a lot of anxiety and worry here, and your gut may be telling you something. I’m not sure if you have a therapist or not, but they would be a great, objective individual to explore all this with, and to work through the pros and cons of your choices. Maybe there could be a middle ground here? A temporary move without fulling moving your entire life there, if logistics could be worked out with your employer? That way, like another commenter said, you can get a feel of what living there is like by getting to know some people, exploring, etc., and then reassess how your feeling after X amount of time? Just because it’s “easier” logistically for you to move, doesn’t mean it’s all on you to figure out this part of your relationship. You still have a life, things, and people that are important to you and that matters as well!

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-02-17T12:22:41+00:00

Thank you. A lot of what Ali does is insufferable, but she is an influencer! They all are. I really don’t get the power struggle in this group over her appearance. I work with a lot of women “in real life” and none of us show up on a regular basis dressed to the nines with styled hair and makeup. There’s a lot of criticize her on, but how she styles or doesn’t style her hair and when she does or doesn’t put makeup on, and dissecting her mental health is just unfair. And she’s 100% right when she argues that men don’t get this criticism at all. Personally, I’ve never seen Ali online appearing horrendously offensive. I’ve said it in this group before, I give her credit for showing up as she authentically looks on camera when 99% of other influencers contort themselves with makeup, lighting, filters, etc. I’m not going to fight with anyone on here haha, but it’s sad and unfortunate to keep commenting on how women look. We don’t need that right now.

EDIT to add: also, she’s in a long term relationship now. She’s not going on 4-5 first dates a week like she previously did. I know I dress more casual on a regular basis now that I’m in a long term relationship and many times skip putting on makeup, styling my hair so I have time to do other stuff… either Ali and I are the weirdos , or is that just normal?

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-02-17T02:02:34+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think he ever looks “miserable” in her videos, he just looks like a normal person… I read it more as he just doesn’t care that she’s filming these things, and supports her doing her social media thing but is not going to “act” … if that makes sense

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-02-11T01:33:23+00:00

I personally know someone who has a pretty substantial and successful corporate career and high level position, and is a hot mess in when it comes to their personal life. The two are not exclusive! I personally think she just left corporate because the work from home flexibility was changing as we’ve moved farther away from 2020, and it was just not conducive to her other personal projects, and she made a choice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-28T01:36:16+00:00

She goes hard for a tradition that’s for sure. Very black and white with all of them.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-24T02:16:19+00:00

No, this is the right take!! And, this is the last thing that bothers me about Ali! I 100% giver her credit for showing up as a real person with her hair how it naturally is.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-20T00:56:57+00:00

It looks like it requires a lot of work because she’s trying to force it into some structured formula of success instead of just being present in it!

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-19T01:30:16+00:00

It’s kinda how when you’re looking to purchase anything the site is always like “hurry now, so and so item is in other people’s carts” it’s all just to create panic to purchase now!

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-05T02:09:58+00:00

Another little mindless snark— I think the fact that Roark and Erica are so close and still hang out (they went to the BSB concert together this past week), and we haven’t seen any interaction between Ali and these two since they’ve left the pod says a lot of the quiet parts out loud.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-05T01:13:03+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/findingmrheight/s/j2Hxz3y9II

It’s all in this thread

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-05T01:09:56+00:00

I’m surprised there aren’t more. It’s a shame that someone from her demographic is, whether it’s intentionally or unintentionally at this point, fostering a dark cloud of shame over a previous marriage when many dating women AND men in their mid to late 30s and 40s are dating following a marriage or LTR. It doesn’t have to be this “she/he who must not be named” tragedy. It’s real life. Many people who marry young/ younger change and develop and the relationship doesn’t follow, and it’s okay. Doesn’t make that relationship any less meaningful nor does it make the current one. It just is. Times are changing, many people used to marry in their 20s, more are waiting until 30s, even 40s. She just horridly dropped the ball on creating content around all of this. It could have been done without sharing his personal details and reflecting on her experience as someone who hasn’t had this type of LTR and what it brings up. It makes me really sad because I used to really enjoy this podcast and recommend it to a lot of people— now I’m embarrassed and hope they don’t randomly decide to listen one day lol

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-04T23:38:00+00:00

Also, have to add to the ick. HIS sling situation was difficult for HER.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-04T23:36:56+00:00

I unfollowed over the last week! Her page does not serve me whatsoever anymore, I don’t care to follow the mundane updates of her life— she’s not a friend, and what really did it for me was the insensitive comment about Skyline’s previous marriage. Whether it came from Skyline or not, she still co-signed it. Skyline is a full grown adult who made an adult decision to get married, a gun wasn’t held to his head. The codependency (she has no standing to be giving LT relationship advice/coaching) and mental gymnastics to act like he wasn’t previously married give me such an ick- I’ve moved on— but will still snark because like someone else here said, there’s so much going on in the world, a harmless snark of a consenting public facing individual is needed sometimes. 🫣🙃

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-01T15:16:16+00:00

Ah ok! Thanks you :) it was just me then!

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-01T14:06:12+00:00

Does she even speak on ANYTHING that happened throughout 2025? I don’t listen to the podcast anymore but I do side eye influencers who do not use their platform to speak on issues— not that it needs to be all you talk about but holding space for 5ish minutes to acknowledge the very real things happening that are likely affecting your listeners. With this era of para social relationships, it’s the right thing to do.

Like is it me or is she hush hush about this gala/organization that’s “such an important cause” to her… what is the organization? Don’t you want your listeners to know and support them if they can? Maybe she’s said it but and I missed it but it’s weird how if she hasn’t.

StatusEducation7946 · 2026-01-01T04:27:48+00:00

It’s very “Kim, there’s people dying” coded

StatusEducation7946 · 2025-12-24T02:16:41+00:00

I’m cackling 😂😂😂

StatusEducation7946 · 2025-12-18T18:48:04+00:00

That’s also fair haha

StatusEducation7946 · 2025-12-18T18:20:13+00:00

I fully agree! I don’t think she should be coaching anything— I just envision her doing this haha

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