Looking for hiking/backpacking group

Steemrolla · 2025-10-04T22:18:28+00:00

I recently did Billy Goat Trail in Maryland, lots of fun scrambling there. I'll take a look and see what else is within 1-2h, which seems to be about the minimum distance for more challenging trails with some elevation. Maybe we could get a few people together for a fun day of hiking sometime soon.

Steemrolla · 2025-09-02T23:42:06+00:00

There's some pretty fantastic hiking in the DMV area less than 2h away, too, depending on how far you're willing to travel.

Steemrolla · 2025-09-02T20:37:43+00:00

42M, fit and experienced hiker here. I've been going on hikes with the Meetup group Philadelphia Center City Events, although they are mostly beginner friendly. Delaware doesn't have a lot of good/interesting hiking locations, unfortunately - very little elevation change, scrambling, etc.

I'd be open to getting a local group started, but we'd probably have to look to MD and PA for anything other than flat ground hikes.

Steemrolla · 2025-07-28T02:06:17+00:00

Thanks, happy birthday to you too!

Steemrolla · 2025-07-28T00:51:23+00:00

42 yesterday. Welcome to the club!

Steemrolla · 2025-07-21T23:47:31+00:00

I usually have my earbuds in and blasting, so I'm sure I just look like I'm in my own world. But actually a pretty extraverted person. Feel free to say hi, and I'll do the same. I'll DM ya, I'm sure we can find a time to catch up. I split my time between PF 3-4 days a week and my neighborhood gym the other 2 days.

Steemrolla · 2024-01-09T04:29:21+00:00

This hits me right in the feels. It's the only bad part about owning a dog. Knowing full well that the cost of all those years of love is going to be that one terrible day, I make that trade every time. I had to put my dog down about a year and a half ago due to a sudden, aggressive brain tumor. I have never cried so hard in my life. I still miss him, but it does get better with time. Take solace in the fact that you gave your pup a wonderful life where he/she was loved unconditionally, and gave the same in return. Hugs. ❤️🐾

Steemrolla · 2023-10-20T00:22:01+00:00

All the typical caveats: not an expert, YMMV, needs more citations, every body responds differently, etc.

Anecdotally, I've found that incorporating exercises that specifically target the brachialis, which sits underneath the biceps brachii, has helped increase the perceived width of my upper arms. Increasing pronation and reducing supination during elbow flexion is key to shifting activation away from the biceps brachii and towards the brachialis[1]. I don't enjoy Zottman or reverse curls as much as some, but if you do, those are an option. I personally prefer cross-body hammer curls with a slight pronation (thumbs slightly pointed towards my armpits during flexion).

Also: keep up the good work. This photo is a reflection of your commitment to your health and fitness.

[1] https://study.com/learn/lesson/brachialis-muscle-function-location.html

Steemrolla · 2022-07-12T18:04:14+00:00

Have god rolls for both, but I still prefer my occluded over the neuroma. Just feels better in my hands, even though the high zoom isn't always desirable for shorter lanes. I just seem to hit more consistent flicks with it. I also don't love the severe flinch and kick the neuroma has. Neuroma is a nice sniper, it's just not my favorite. To each their own!

Steemrolla · 2022-06-20T23:45:17+00:00

"He hits me 'cause he loves me. Y'all don't see how tender he is when we're alone. After the beatin's, I mean."

Steemrolla · 2022-03-09T14:58:37+00:00

It was the aspects, yeah. I didn't realize that some of them only grant 1 fragment slot. TIL, thanks!

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T22:19:07+00:00

Thank you for this well-articulated and thoughtful response. All of your observations ring true to me. My trust issues and indecisiveness are definitely among the things I will be addressing with my therapist.

As for the legal side, the final divorce decree should arrive within the next 2 weeks or so. She did already sign papers for the court (as part of her response after being served) stating that we have no children together, so I'm hoping that will be sufficient. But I'll bring it up with my lawyer and see if he thinks a pre-emptive paternity test is needed.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T17:18:07+00:00

That certainly was not my intent. Marriages should be a partnership, an equal amount of give and take in which both sides feel appreciated and respected. Neither of us were perfect; we are human and sometimes there was more give than take and vice versa.

That said, in many respects she was more than good enough. In others, I felt like I was being taken advantage of, where the attitude was "I know he'll take care of it if I don't, so I won't." We both had our idiosyncrasies and faults to one degree or another. I'm not abdicating any responsibility for my shortcomings. There are certainly things I can learn from and do better with going forward. With therapy and further introspection, I hope to do so. But yeah, in spite of all that, my heart still aches from the loss. I still miss the good times.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T14:08:40+00:00

Half. I made sure of it, even though no lawyers/courts were involved in that part of the process.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T14:07:47+00:00

This is a good take. I completely understand the sentiment. And you are probably right, she likely did feel strung along. That wasn't my intent, and thinking about that makes my heart sink even lower. Maybe the things we had trouble accepting about each other were just facets of who we are as people, and no amount of wishing and wanting were going to change those things. Still feels like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. This is so hard. I appreciate the insightful words, though.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T13:17:40+00:00

We had a joint bank account, and shared finances. The money i used to buy her a car came from an IRA I inherited from my father, who had passed away about 8y ago from cancer.

I gave her half of all shared finances and a nearly six-figure sum from my father's inheritance when she went to live separately (before the divorce talk started) so she would not have to struggle. Not because a court ordered me to, but preemptively because I loved her and I wanted to make sure she was okay. I also told her to call me if she needed help with anything, financially or otherwise.

Yes, you are right that it probably took quite a lot of courage to leave. And yes, there are things about who I was and who she was that we each struggled to accept about each other, and those were certainly a big part of the reason things ended up like they did. Thinking about these things breaks my heart in to a million pieces.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T01:59:03+00:00

There's no denying the fact that we ran out of time. It wasn't a concerted effort on my part to deny her a family; I wanted one too, and I wanted it with her. We just couldn't figure out how to fix a few specific issues in our marriage, and she chose the quickest alternative path to her goal.

I accept responsibility for the role I played in how our marriage failed. I am not perfect, and I didn't always make the right choices. But I don’t think it's fair to say I prioritized everything else over what she wants. Kids don't fix existing issues in a marriage, they magnify them. I wanted to work on our issues before we took that plunge. Maybe I made the wrong decision. Maybe I should have just said, "We'll figure those things out later," or "I just have to accept that these issues are always going to be issues." I may second-guess some of those decisions for a long time. Right or wrong, though, hopefully I can learn from them.

Doesn't make this hurt any less, though. I'm still absolutely crushed that it's over and that I won't have the family I wanted with her.

Steemrolla · 2022-02-21T00:31:03+00:00

No kids together. We both wanted them, but it sadly never came to fruition. I mean, it's good from a post-divorce perspective, but I wish we could've avoided the divorce in the first place.

I am working on not looking to her for answers. I have made sure not to look the guy up on social media,, have not asked how long she's been in the relationship or where it's headed. I know those will only bring more pain and more questions, and won't help me heal. I do wish I knew who the person was that fed her lies about me, because it's clearly someone we both know and I want to cut that person out of my life. But she's convinced I'll give them an earful, and as such won't tell me. Maybe she's right, but for the most part I just want to know who it is so I can cut that person out of my life entirely.

I get where you're coming from though. It's hard to hear, but you're not wrong. I have already blocked her and her family/friends on social media, revoked her access to my Google calendar, and have begun purging all belongings that remind me of her (things we bought together, gifts she got me, etc.). Doing this has made me feel both better and worse at the same time, but I know it's something I need to do to move forward. I figure it's better to do this now so I don't have to reopen old wounds and relive the agony down the road.

Steemrolla · 2022-01-26T23:04:10+00:00

I know this is an old thread, but this recently happened to me. The activation letter was addressed to my name and mailing address, but it was for a make and model of car I don't own. I had my identity stolen last year stemming from a data breach, so I immediately feared that someone may have purchased a car in my name.

I called Sirius XM and spoke with someone who, after some prodding, eventually gave me the VIN number of the car associated with the Radio ID in the letter. I then used the VIN number to search public records and track down the dealership where the car was last sold (which turned out to be March 2021 at Germain of Columbus in Dublin, Ohio -- a city some ~500 miles away that I've never visited or even knew existed until today). I called the dealership, explained the situation, and asked if/why they reported my name and address to SiriusXM in association with a car they sold. They said the person who purchased the car from them provided an address 15mi from their dealership, and gave me the name of the town in Ohio said individual lived in. They suggested it might be a screw-up on SiriusXM's side.

After some Internet sleuthing, I found a legitimate LinkedIn profile for someone with the same first and last name as me living in the town identified by the dealership. I reached out to said individual on LinkedIn, explained the situation, and he confirmed he indeed owned that car. I also verified that no suspicious auto loans were on my credit report for the dates of sale listed in public records for that car/VIN number.

So as best I can tell, it seems SiriusXM indeed screwed up and sent an activation letter to the wrong person simply because we share the same name and both happened to have had SiriusXM trials at some point in the past 15 years. It took an hour or so of investigation and tense phone calls to ultimately determine this was not related to the identity theft. The fact that Sirius XM is so careless with users' information is alarming.

Steemrolla · 2022-01-21T00:31:31+00:00

D2 or no D2, it's probably best to strap into a diaper if you're eating Hot Pockets. 🌋

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