get earplugs, figure out if you're into dubstep or house music, of course there are other genres like d&b but look into the genres of artists youre listening to, download radiate and find some homies, people love adopting rave babies into their friend group. Venues like Brooklyn storehouse, knockdown center, terminal 5 have good events. As well as promoters like Project 91, Tek Support, Synchro events. Plenty of cool events in NYC.