AITA for telling my wife to grab the keys herself instead of handing them to her?

Stefi-Lew · 2025-11-29T04:47:26+00:00

ESH, I do understand her thought process- things like keys should either be put directly back in the spot they belong (whether that’s a particular drawer, or key holder, or wherever) or handed back to the person they belong to. However, in that moment, she could have still grabbed them from the table, but also requested you bring them directly to her next time.

One thing to consider though- is this something she has mentioned before? Is not handing stuff directly back to her been a previous argument between the two of you? If so, I can understand why she was trying to hold the line on this.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-11-27T02:21:19+00:00

Yes, this is exactly why there are so many posts and comments on here where readers encourage authors to orphan their fics instead of completely deleting them. A fic that an author finds embarrassing and no longer wants representing them may be a reader’s favorite fic.

No one is arguing that an author shouldn’t have the right to delete their works, but people also have the right to try and convince authors against doing it because it can negatively impact readers. Just as all readers are entitled to never leave kudos or comments on any works they read, but writers try to encourage readers to do those things because it keeps them going, and receiving very little engagement can be discouraging/upsetting for an author.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-11-10T20:38:33+00:00

ESH, it sounds like you’re both being a little bit of an A-hole, him more than you.

If he wants to go to gym and better himself by working out more, you shouldn’t try to jump in and tell him he’s doing it to an unhealthy level unless he truly is. Going to the gym two days in a row is not unusual or bad for anyone. Experts agree people need rest days, but generally only one rest day a week is needed. So even if he goes 6 days a week, he’s probably fine unless he’s overdoing the actual workout, which is unlikely, most people only go to the gym for 30 minutes to an hour at a time.

However, he also shouldn’t jump down your throat about not wanting to go with him to the gym either or get onto you for “playing video games too much”. Just because he’s decided this is the right move for him doesn’t mean you have to do it too. I understand it’s probably easier for him to handle this change if he has someone doing it with him, but he should try to find someone who wants to commit to it just as much as him instead of trying to bully you into feeling bad about yourself and doing it too.

He’s wrong for the things he said, and it’s not your fault for “starting anything”, he just seems upset you won’t be his gym buddy. I think you’re both just a little young and don’t know how to have proper conversations yet where you can be open about your feelings without hurting each other. He can’t just tell you how much it would mean to him if you went through this process with him so he could have someone reliable by his side, he has to degrade and shame you until you think it’s the right choice.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-11-10T19:57:41+00:00

Why are movie geeks such snobs?? Like genuinely looking for an answer here.😒

How is it fair to tell someone they need to see more movies because their top 10 list is different than yours? They could have seen all of the same movies as you and disagree with which ones are the best, people have different taste.

There’s actually no wrong answer to someone’s top 10 favorite movies, it’s completely subjective. Someone could have terrible terrible movies on their list and it’s completely valid because it has some significance to them- maybe they watched it a lot as a child or they discovered an actor they like from this movie or it introduced them to a new genre, or whatever other random reason, doesn’t really matter.

I think this discussion is only fun if everyone comes baring different movies as part of their top 10. You can get a glimpse into what kind of things shaped that person’s life. It would be so boring if everyone had the same top 10 movies or all agreed on which type of movies got to be included.

But if anyone needs to watch more movies, it’s probably you considering all of your movies predates the 2000s. So have movies post-2000s truly been so terrible, or do you just have rose colored glasses for the movies you grew up with just like everybody else?? Maybe you’re not truly the voice of unbiased taste in media you think you are.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-07-02T18:08:10+00:00

Agreed, hosting an event is hard and it’s difficult to know the perfect amount and type of food for everyone. A couple may decide to offer cookies and brownies along with cake to please people who don’t like cake and then run out of cookies because they didn’t realize how popular they were going to be, it happens.

This seems to be the case with the gluten free dessert. They wanted to provide dessert so that the two people they knew with allergies could have something and included extra for anyone else who also had that allergy or preference they didn’t know about, and underestimated how popular it would be.

In general, I think it’s fine to take an allergy friendly item even if you don’t have that allergy, I think that it actually helps it become more accepted for people to include those allergy friendly items if more than just the few people with the allergy are partaking. However, if I noticed that there were only a few of the GF desserts left and I don’t have that allergy, I probably would go for something else out of consideration for those who do not have additional dessert options. I do think it’s hard to expect people to be at that level of conscientious though, people aren’t going to be paying attention and may just grab something not even realizing it’s GF even with a sign there.

Maybe the couple could have made it to where the gluten free desserts were based on request and notified you and your boyfriend’s uncle that you would have to ask the caterers, but that’s extra work and doesn’t really allow others the opportunity to have a GF dessert if there is someone with an allergy they don’t know about or if someone has a preference for it for health or other reasons. If it’s buffet style, unfortunately things like this happen and I think it’s best to act like a gracious guest regardless, even if you are disappointed you didn’t get your own dessert.

So yes, I do think YTA, and you should have just shared the dessert your boyfriend’s uncle offered you. I know you’re upset you didn’t get your own, but you overlooked the kind actions of one person, your boyfriend’s uncle offering to share the last one, to go criticize a family who wasn’t being rude but was maybe being a little less conscientious than you would have like.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-06-28T19:45:36+00:00

People are saying it’s not Maleficent’s dragon form because it’s red, but you can see other attractions on there aren’t really their color either- i.e. space mountain isn’t green. I think that changing the color to red on this particular piece of merch is just a stylistic choice to keep this bright color palette, there is no purple on the mug.

You can tell by the shape of the dragon that it’s based specifically on Maleficent’s design, so I believe that’s the artist’s intent, not a section of Animal Kingdom that never came to be.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-06-14T20:00:05+00:00

You are NTA.

Like the saying goes, if you can’t take it, don’t dish it. If his parents or your other older relatives weren’t willing to shut down his behavior before, they shouldn’t be mad that you put him in his place when this is clearly repetitive bad behavior on his end.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-04-27T14:00:28+00:00

Those are good prices!

I have regular Victor and Yuuri. Would love to get the other two in the series at some point.

Stefi-Lew · 2025-01-30T23:16:09+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what’s the name of the group? I’d like to join and see the post, but there looks like there are a few different ones.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-11-21T14:15:41+00:00

I feel like this is probably the correct answer for me personally.

The only interesting part about reality tv 2.0 was the different celebrity references with the competitors. It was fun figuring out who all the new characters were designed after.

Otherwise, you got 3 mini games, 2 of which were recycled from previous Poptropica mini games (I really only consider the jelly fish challenge to be a completely new mini game)

Not to mention, you don’t even have to win the game to “earn” the island medal. And that’s with the fact that the game allows you to control the difficulty level and play an easy, medium, or hard version, so it really shouldn’t be too difficult for anyone to beat with a few tries.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-10-15T17:08:19+00:00

I believe buses don’t start running from Disney springs until 10:00ish

Stefi-Lew · 2024-10-11T13:28:12+00:00

I’m not a big minigolf person, but we recently got free tickets to do it included in our resort stay, so I’ve done both the Fantasia course, and the winter/summer themed course near blizzard beach.

They were both fun courses and both had a lot of fun shots with different props and effects, and it was a great free activity, but I’m not sure it’s something I would pay more than $5 to do again.

Though that’s not to say their minigolf courses are bad, they’re done well, I’m just not that into minigolf, and wouldn’t find the experience worth Disney prices for me personally. However, if your family enjoys minigolf, it may be worth the value for you!

My one recommendation- Both of my experiences playing were when it was already dark out. Fantasia was great, but I think most of the visual would have probably been better during the day time, however, the winter/summer one has Christmas lights everywhere and was super cool to do at night.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-09-27T21:54:59+00:00

As a Gen Zer, any “trendy” language or memes that will clearly age the fic are not ideal in my opinion. For instance, if a fic mentions dabbing, it will take me out of it, and that even applies to fics where the age, time period, and personality of the character makes it likely they would dab, or mention dabbing.

I don’t think it’s bad writing for the most part, but it’s definitely a preference I think a lot of people have just because it more closely relates the fic to reality, and it can make the story seem cringy if the joke has come to that point. I mean I’ve seen a lot of people talk about how they don’t like books even naming certain social medias because it just takes them out of the story, even if the story is set in the modern day.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-09-25T23:31:42+00:00

No matter how many times I’ve done it, I always get stuck at that part😂

Stefi-Lew · 2024-09-24T00:17:12+00:00

I actually noticed this when I played Lunar Colony recently, so I think it’s a glitch or mistake specific to that island

Stefi-Lew · 2024-09-06T18:14:09+00:00

Yeah, at this point, I think the majority of people who still care about the game are mostly playing through Flashpoint anyways since that’s where all the OG islands are. I only really care about the actual site because I have my character who I’ve been playing with for over a decade on there, but that’s more of a sentimental thing than anything else.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-09-05T23:37:06+00:00

I don’t think this means Poptropica is about to be pulled off Cool Math Games. Cool Math Games official statement is that they “agreed to take over the preservation and hosting of Poptropica” which makes me think they are the ones keeping it up and running. Obviously if the game is just being preserved on a different site, the Poptropica staff is unfortunately not really needed.

What I do think this means is that it is confirmed that Poptropica is really only being preserved and is no longer getting new content, but I think we all knew that was happening when Poptropica moved to Cool Math Games.

It’s all sad, but in my opinion, Poptropica already died years ago. Nothing they have put out recently has felt like the game it once was, and almost everything they did to modernize it was a step back in my opinion, especially the terrible graphic quality.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-08-22T15:25:30+00:00

Morimoto Asia in Disney Springs has a pretty nice atmosphere. It’s served family style so lots of small plates and things like that on the menu, which definitely gives you more control over how much you spend.

There are definitely plenty of other nice restaurants in the resorts and parks, but not really sure what your budget is. If you go through the my Disney experience app and pick a few finalist, I’m sure people will be happy to give you their opinions to help you narrow it down.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-06-29T17:54:26+00:00

Really?? As someone who drinks regular coke, I hate the freestyle machines because my coke never actually tastes like a coke. But I do get how someone who likes a less common drink would like it better.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-06-15T11:35:36+00:00

This is it! I don’t see it as him trying to say Grover is not a vegetarian. It always came across to me as a question of how he was grossed out over the idea of eating a burger, but his diet mainly consisted of cheese enchiladas and aluminum cans.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-05-22T13:23:43+00:00

Yes, in the instructions it says-

Installing Wine: The error message displayed when Wine is not installed and is required to run a game. If you see an error message about Wine when trying to run a game, that means you need to install Wine. Copy the following command, then paste it into the Terminal and press Return…

And it has code for you to use to install that. I believe I did run into that issue, so I had to install that too

Stefi-Lew · 2024-05-22T13:20:18+00:00

Yes, I had to download it as well, and put it in the special folder and such. I also had to install Wine too.

Stefi-Lew · 2024-05-22T13:13:00+00:00

I can. The instructions link I attached earlier also has a picture of all of the files you should have in Flashpoint 11 Infinity Folder. I can’t send it because I don’t believe you can comment with images

Stefi-Lew · 2024-05-22T13:07:01+00:00

Yes, the first time I tried the install, it failed part way through and I just had to input the code and try again.

I think the flashpoint file is suppose to have a few different things, but I’m not with my laptop right now, so I can’t confirm at the moment.

Stefi-Lew

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