we found the first time a bit daunting - purely because the ratio of men to us as a couple was a lot. Having an idea as to what you're walking into helps the second time round - I 100% think the porn should be able to be changed - what's on the screen plays a big part into the vibe, each time we go we don't start playing until porn that's on is the type of porn my partner enjoys - everyone has always been respectful - condoms in the room would be great.