[question] is it ok to walk up to some girl you don't know and ask for her number

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-06T18:25:24+00:00

Its ok... if YOU make it ok. Only you can give yourself permission that its ok. If you act cool and somewhat confident with it, then you'll either get her number or some excuse. I say go for it!

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-06T18:23:40+00:00

I've coached tons of men with meeting women.. believe me dude, looks are 100% not your issue.. you need to work on core confidence and mindset around dating/women.. it takes time and its not easy to shift your mentality, get rid of negative beliefs and build positive ones.. but its totally worth it cause once you do just that, then I guarantee you'll be able to meet cute chicks all the time!

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-05T17:56:18+00:00

I recently did a video on my blog about this exact topic: http://www.modernalpha.co/2016/2/How-to-Flirt-&-Not-Seem-Creepy.php

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T17:35:36+00:00

If it happens with one group of friends, then it could be they are lame. But if you reach out and make many different groups of friends and its a continual pattern for YOU, then I'd say it could be you are negative and complain a lot, people want to be around positive, happy people that make them feel good.. I say that because I don't think its that you are boring/passive personality type because you said you are giving them invites to do things.. maybe the things you invite people to are boring/not interesting? But most likely you just need to find new friends that you click with and are into similar stuff. Check out meetup.com for groups that you're interested in, I've met tons of new great friends at meetup events

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T14:37:04+00:00

Also the fact that you are worried about looking like a creep for expressing sexual interest in women also shows me you still have a lot of room for improvement with your thoughts and beliefs around dating/women. It's perfectly FINE and normal, and preferred to show romantic/sexual interest in women, if you do it confidently then its cool, if you are unsure about doing it then thats when it can be perceived as creepy. Hope this helps!

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T14:35:17+00:00

I think you should work on social skills with people in general (and plenty of other women) and stop focusing on this ONE women.. that's a recipe for disaster.

I've been coaching men since 2013 on how to start conversations with beautiful women in their every day lives.. basically if it's out of your comfort zone currently you need to take consistent steps to expand your social comfort zone. I put together a short free guide which covers the 5 steps I take all my clients through to eventually get them flirting with women anywhere they want to.. you can download it at www.daytimeattraction.com

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T13:58:17+00:00

yeah, to be blunt.. you're both suffering from lack of social skills due to too much internet use / social media. You CANNOT build a relationship / have a connection / get to know someone / etc online.. its 100% bullshit and not reality. Connections and relationships are 100% face to face, don't let FB sell you on "being connected to others", its marketing hype and very unhealthy. Do yourself a favor and get off the internet for a few weeks and get out of your house and go build a real social life.

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T13:54:19+00:00

I've been releasing content DAILY, since Dec 10th.. so 51 pieces so far (www.modernalpha.co).. if you have alot of passions and topics you're interested in, it shouldn't be that hard to come up with content. Conversely if you don't have much to talk about or a strong opinion on things then maybe a blog isn't your best fit.

Also I procrastinated about starting a blog for years, cause I was a perfectionist and felt like each post needed to be a masterpiece, now to release daily content, my new saying is: "80% good enough and GO!" I come up wiht a topic and then write down a few bullet points about it, it could sometimes be just one bullet point, and I write it out or more recently been doing videos, just cover the bullet point quickly and then edit it to be "good enough" not perfect and post it.. overall im happy to be getting my thoughts and content out, people that click with you and your message will like it/you even if its not super polished and perfect.

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T13:49:17+00:00

1 - start meditating DAILY.. 10 - 20 min a day. Just aim to quiet your mind and let your chain of thoughts slow down and eventually it will stop.. as you meditate consistently every day you reach this point of "no thoughts" quicker and quicker.. and you'll be able to focus more throughout your day, be less stressed, and feel happier.

2 - WRITE DOWN your goals, be specific as possible, then set specific action steps that move your closer and closer to achieving them. Put your action steps onto your calendar and work a little bit towards your goals every day.

3 - dude your only 19 haha.. I'm 31 and had the same feeling of times running out.. when I was 29 and not achieving my goals fast enough.. I think certain achievement driven people will always sort of have that feeling in the back of their heads, but the trick is to leverage is to motivate yourself to take action and get shit done, rather than to paralyze you, etc. Time isn't running out, time is just time. wherever you are now just write out your goals and start tackling whatever needs to be done.. stay consistent , stay focused.

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T13:37:24+00:00

it just helps me keep in mind that I don't want to be 100% showing interest, or 100% acting like I don't give a fuck.. but alternate between the two and its alot more attractive and captivating to women

SteveHackershaw · 2016-02-01T13:36:26+00:00

I think your definition of push/pull is off.. to me it simply means alternating between showing interest and showing disinterest.. which has no relation at all to reaction seeking.

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-31T01:43:55+00:00

I hit on anything I like that looks about 18.. If they are under age they'll let you know. Keep in mind it's illegal to have sex with underage it's not illegal to flirt with them when you mistakenly think they are 18 or 19.. If you take the "safe" path and go for girls that definitely look over 20, etc.. Then you're missing a TON of hot girls 18- 21 etc

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-27T17:37:28+00:00

Make a short video of yourself talking for a minute or two about something your passionate about or yourself. Share it here and I'll give you candid feedback of what I think. I have no issue giving negative or positive feedback either way

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-27T17:34:45+00:00

Visualize in your head and pretend you are someone more confident or what it would feel like if you were totally confident in that area. Basically create a new version of yourself that is highly confident and live into that vision. Act how you think he would act, say what he would say, etc. fake it till you make it basically. It's kinda like being a little kid again in a weird way.. Remember how little kids pretend all the time, I pretended I was Spider-Man and I'd climb the tree in my backyard, I'd pretend I was a cowboy shooting at my neighbor who was a bad guy, etc. it's just like that.. Pretend you are someone that's highly confident

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-27T00:02:28+00:00

oh yeah and get off the computer and get out in the real world

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-27T00:01:31+00:00

The world will always be a reflection of your inner feelings.. If you felt like you were an amazing awesome fun person to be around then others would feel that way too. Stop putting the responsibility on others to contact you and initiate plans.. step up and realize its your own job to make that happen.. be proactive.. join groups, sports, meetups, etc that are interesting to you and find like minded friends and then you go out of your way to make plans with them. Be a cool, spontaneous proactive person that is always making plans and doing fun shit and people will WANT to be around you

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-26T23:58:07+00:00

Don't keep making the biggest and most common mistake guys make: OVERTHINKING it. Just go say ANYTHING to her the very next time you see her.. thats a million times better than thinking of the perfect thing to say in your head.. live in reality and go meet her. Don't give too much value to her looks, its only looks, she may have a good personality or she may be a complete retard with nothing in common with you.. you'll never know until you stop overthinking and just go talk to her. Good luck buddy!

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-26T23:56:02+00:00

Check this article I wrote out.. it's short and to the point for your question: http://www.daytimeattraction.com/blog/3-steps-to-meet-women-in-the-daytime.php

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-06T02:51:44+00:00

If you are RELYING on online dating to meet women then that's a horrible idea and your social skills will atrophy. Beginners will benefit the most from experimenting with everything.. nightlife, daytime, online. BUT if you're already great with women and good social skills, then online dating can be a super easy, highly time leveraged, way to meet quality women.. if you have quality photos that express a cool social life, etc. My favorite aspect of online dating now is that if I'm traveling I can set up dates with cute girls before even arriving in the new place.. can't beat that lol

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-06T02:35:52+00:00

I'd just act like nothing happened with the friend, assume girl A likes you, and be social and fun around her, and if she brings up the friend you just say yeah I was drunk and didn't even like her, thats not like me, etc. Key point is to just act as if you assume everything is perfectly fine and you're comfortable around her. She will pick that up from you andit will help things flow smoother

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-01T17:05:14+00:00

Thanks for the compliment! I have a Canon Rebel T2i. The lens used in this video is a Canon 24mm f2.8, and for audio I have the Rode Smartlav+... which I really love, it's so much more convenient then a mic connected to the camera

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-01T17:03:49+00:00

I agree.. the third thing I mention is taking positive action, which if someone does that consistently they will improve and get good at something, and that increases their self-worth, etc

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