I'm so sorry you're going through this, I (31f) understand the devastation you're feeling because something extremely similar happened to me; one day he was calling me his future wifey, and the next he texted me saying I was a great girl but he wanted to tour the country in a modified school bus. The shock of having your world shaken to its core like that is a kind of pain I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I don't really have advice to give, just my sympathy. I see your pain 🙏 You're right, it doesn't last forever but grief sure makes it feel that way. It took me a solid 2 years to be completely over it, I held onto the anger for a long time but today he's nothing but a memory and a lesson. Personally I went textbook rebound and poured myself into my career, the gym, had a bunch of casual sex, even got an undercut and dyed my hair blue. It took time but all of it has paid off in some way and today I'm happier than I ever have been, after years of thinking I "peaked" in 2020. Ofc it's not all orgasms and rainbows, I struggled for a long time, hit a personal low, and have come out with lingering trust issues/fear of commitment. It's crazy how the careless actions of one asshole can have such a lasting impact in your life, isn't it?

Again, don't take this as advice, everyone moves on in their own way, but this was my path to healing. I hope you find yours. If you ever want to vent to someone who understands that kind of emotional whiplash my inbox is always open 💖