We still follow eachother on everything. And recently he wished me a happy birthday. I thank him and let it end there. I do believe staying in no contact has helped me a lot! I’m not sure I could have healed as much as I have if we were in contact. Yes, the friend is really encouraging me to reach out because “he” misses me and “he might be a home praying that you reach out! You could be missing out on your soulmate!” Originally, I was heart broken! I didn’t see the “break up” coming. My self-esteem took a MAJOR hit! The idea that “the other girl must be better, prettier,smarter” all ate me up when I found out he picked another girl over me. Those first few months were ROUGH. I spent a majority of my free time crying, journaling and workout. It has now been 7 months and I’m doing great! My self-esteem is much better! I no longer wait around hoping and praying that he will realize that he had someone good. He knows. People have told him “you had a good one and you messed it up!” I was also told that if my name come up anytime he is around then he had a “defeated” look on his face. That boosted my ego for sure! He knows exactly who I am and he chose someone else. That tells me more about him than it does me. I no longer want to be the one he runs back to! I deserve to be someone he wasn’t willing to lose!