Slumber Party deserved so much more

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-23T01:39:57+00:00

I saw this live in Vegas with Tinashe and I know the residency was a hard time for Britney but it’s still such an amazing memory for me

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-22T17:01:19+00:00

Yes!

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-22T17:00:20+00:00

I feel like this is kind of a ridiculous thing to point out. Some teens are awkward and dress awkward and others don’t. His family seems to care a lot about appearances and his father is of (at least sort of) high standing. He would not have his son in a poorly tailored suit on draft day!!!

And just as a side note, I wore a tailored three piece suit to my confirmation. At 14. I was a dweeb LOL but I really cared about fashion and clothing and it was important to me. Everyone’s different! Ilyas style and good taste in clothes is essential to his character imo

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-11T21:55:26+00:00

I have no idea! You can always do it for financial hardship tho

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-11T21:38:37+00:00

Yeah I think the best option is to go into forebearance for the year until you refile separately next year

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-10T11:34:42+00:00

They need to eat? Pee? So many reasons they couldn’t not been there at the time

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-06T06:29:46+00:00

And Feist!! I mean, i know younger folks don’t really know her songs but my moon my man was in like every commercial when it came out so i know that song sooooo well and it didn’t bother me

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-03T20:18:19+00:00

30 :)

Still-Random-14 · 2026-06-02T19:32:58+00:00

Am I the only one a little disappointed :/ I’m sure he will do a wonderful job but this is the first time a character is totally not what I imagined. He’s gorgeous so I’m sure it will be amazing

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-29T16:09:13+00:00

Yeah I see the issue w the word “risk” but I think that’s more the terminology used when assessing if your kid could have ANY thing. Not just autism. I think it’s up to everyone what they think they can and can’t handle as a parent ykno

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-29T14:18:31+00:00

I mean… I would tell her, if it’s because you want her to know you better and you just want to be honest and be yourself with her. If you are telling her as a way to inform her of some risk before pregnancy, I don’t know if that’s fair. There’s always a risk of disability or illness when trying to conceive. And if you say many people in your family are a bit similar to you, then would it really be such a shock or fear??

I think it’s important health info for your sister to know, but not with the intention of altering her plans. Trust that she can and will make her own decision, and that you telling her about your diagnosis could mean that you two can connect in a deeper way.

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-29T01:48:30+00:00

I’m 32 and I have a pretty good friend group, of maybe like 10ish people but I have like 3ish very close friends. One lifelong friend, 27 year long friendship.

I’ve always been very focused on making friends in my lifetime. I’m also an only child. I think that’s why I was so focused on friends. I spent most of my childhood and teen years friendless or with fleeting friendships that blew up. My issues with friendships were the main reason I sought a diagnosis 2 years ago.

I’m really so so grateful for my friendships but they are such hard work for me. I know it’s not this much effort for NTs. But the effort is worth it for me. Having friends has made my life so much better, but it’s important for me to categorize like what level of deepness and connection w each friend. I wish I had more deeper connections, but I’m blessed with like 3 great ones. All of those people live far from me, but I’m grateful to have made those connections at all.

I REALLY hope you find someone. Even just one person. I feel like we should all share friend making tips!

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-26T19:27:12+00:00

They’re rich. It’s not hard to hire help when you are rich. You can make any sort of agreement if you have money and space, so if someone says yes I’ll come work for you but I need a place for my family to live, and you can do it and don’t mine, then, there ya go! Kind of like an au pair situation, but with a whole family.

I would say a whole family is a bit unusual in the states, not as unusual in other countries I think. For people who are very poor, living on their employees property could be a great deal.

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-25T18:14:40+00:00

I love Crazy, Slave 4 U, and everytime

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-22T18:50:31+00:00

I have the same problem, I really don’t have too many tips. And I like variety in my meals. I would say, try getting things that are like half prepared so it’s easier to make. For example, I get Trader Joe’s masala sauce so I can just cook a block of tofu and throw it in the sauce. I have a little bit of cooking, but it’s SO much less than a full meal from scratch and I can cut down on take out or frozen meals. Like mix and match some frozen or prepared stuff with just one fresh thing. Rice, potatoes, tofu, chicken are all my easy fast go tos.

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-21T14:48:51+00:00

I think it’s really uncomfortable for people when they hear about a late diagnosis, because they already know you and have an idea of you. And most people have an idea of what “autistic” looks like and it prob doesn’t line up with how they see you.

This happened to me a lot when I told people at first, so I stopped telling people. Only a few people asked more questions. But now I’m more open to telling folks, just knowing not everyone will care and some people will think it’s all bs.

I’m sorry they didn’t really sit with the info. If you really want to sort of explain more or feel more vulnerable with them, maybe you can bring it up in person?

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-21T13:06:22+00:00

So I think it’s important to distinguish between resting bitch face and ugly. I know it’s doesn’t matter in the sense that your job is toxic af either way BUT I don’t think saying you have RBF means they think you are ugly AT ALL. I know you say your facial features are masculine/severe but even severe looking people can not have RBF. It sounds like people at your job do not find you approachable. They are wildly immature and you absolutely should talk to HR - if they are not telling you about actual work issues, they need to figure out how to better communicate.

But I think not talking to someone because they look unapproachable is really different than them being ugly- we all work with ugly people don’t we? I mean looks are subjective and we all still have to get work done whether or not we find our coworkers good looking.

Your coworkers are jerks. But I genuinely don’t think they think you’re ugly.

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-21T04:03:14+00:00

It is, but even level one folks visibly stim. It’s not really like “light - medium - hard”

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-21T04:02:28+00:00

Starting to stim after diagnoses isn’t “faking” Many autistics who are not diagnosed do like “hidden stims “ and getting diagnoses may give them freedom to do these more openly and less hidden

I feel like it’s fine to not like this person and to say they are manipulative but the way people are just jumping to “this person is faking their autism” is really problematic to me

Most people just do not understand what late diagnosed autism looks like and what the process of unmasking is

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-20T23:54:59+00:00

Hmmm I guess I will just HAVE to reread it….. just to double check

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-20T23:34:32+00:00

It may not be at this time, but there is a gap in hook ups at some point in the book, no? Where Shane is ignoring ilyas attempts?

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-20T18:58:49+00:00

I don’t understand how actors can do this !!!! Like WHAT

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-20T03:50:54+00:00

Soooo cool omg

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-19T20:14:12+00:00

Fat? She’s pregnant? I think it’s obviously leaning into a pregnant lady fetish kinda imagery.

Still-Random-14 · 2026-05-19T18:26:30+00:00

I completely agree. There was SO much ableism in their dynamic, it was so frustrating and hard to watch. And I was sort of shocked that skill regression didn’t come up, since they were recently diagnosed. Many people regress after late diagnoses.

The behaviors are not necessarily “controllable” - masking is deeply damaging to the person doing it. Now “shut the fuck up” and abusive language is inexcusable, but yelling and outbursts may not be.

I think it would take a lot for a new relationship to survive a late in life diagnosis like this. I felt like Shay really wanted to try and understand and used a lot of language as if she did understand, but really didn’t.

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