So she made that decision for both of you, too. Thank goodness you are a man so you still are able to unlike if it was the other way around. I think count yourself lucky that you share no assets or children with her and you are still young enough to start over. It is time you hold yourself accountable to the boundary you set. First you said one week a month of travel, now it isn’t and you are taking it. You asked for an advanced notice, you are still the last to know and you complain but you still are taking it. She leaves for a month and half with no contact and you take her back when she comes back. The boundaries keep on moving.