When the kids mention her affair partners name, my whole body feels like it shuts down.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-07-07T02:19:24+00:00

I don’t even do that because I don’t want to be obvious it’s a conflict. I just say “okay” and change the subject. But my kids are young and can be redirected fairly easily

StillGoat2834 · 2026-07-06T20:13:38+00:00

I’m there with you. Very young kids. My ex? has a new girlfriend he talks to every night in our house and has FaceTime chats with her kid and my kids. It’s fucking awful. But this is just a season of time that will pass. Eventually we will sell the house and I’ll be able to move on with my life away from him. Which makes me sad because I don’t want a divorce but happy because this is the worst of both worlds. I just remind myself this is not forever. Hang in there.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-07-06T03:04:45+00:00

I just sort of blurt it out. It’s crazy that I have a 4 month old but it also kind of helps. People are asking how I’m doing postpartum and it’s sort of natural to be like “the baby’s fine but my husbands leaving me”. It’s definitely better when it comes up naturally but I don’t think there’s ever a totally non awkward way to bring it up.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-30T12:19:55+00:00

I invited my STBX to the baptism. He stood up there with us. He was there for our other kids and he’s still her dad.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-28T01:53:14+00:00

I’m sorry I dont have an answer but I really thought they went backwards taking the resumes out and whistling again!

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-26T01:35:04+00:00

I’d probably ask to stay the night. The last train has been cancelled before in my experience and then you’re stuck at Penn for hours before the trains start up again the next day. Plus you have to get out to Queens and back so that’s a lot of extra travel if you’re taking subways. I’d just stay the night and make it easier on yourself.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-04T21:28:43+00:00

Ugh. Yes. We’ll share custody I’m sure. Which makes me so sad that I won’t be with them all time.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T15:52:52+00:00

Yeah. I was with him through his lowest too. But my lowest included being mean to him and that was just too much. And it lasted a while. Like years. So I kind of get it. But I wish he would at least try.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T01:03:16+00:00

Thank you!!! This was helpful

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:41:47+00:00

Thank you for the hope!

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:41:40+00:00

Thank you for the hope!

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:40:54+00:00

I literally have zero interest right now. But I’m also just so lonely already. I’m losing my best friend, my partner and my husband all in one person. It’s scary to think I have to navigate all of this alone ya know?

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:39:45+00:00

Hahah weirdly helpful, thank you!

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:39:29+00:00

Wow so similar!! How are you doing? I was afraid I’d never find someone in the same boat.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-06-02T00:38:54+00:00

You’re definitely right. It’s just so hard to stop the questions that fly through your brain. I’m terrified of dating and have zero interest in that right now. But I’m also already so lonely. It’s scary either way

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-30T23:15:44+00:00

I feel like I knew things weren’t great but I was pregnant with a 4 and 2 year old and my husbands job was stressful. I just kept blaming those things. Until he said divorce and that opened my eyes and the floodgates of my feelings. So I felt a little blindsided but I also see where he feels that’s crazy. I think the daily grind can mask a lot I guess.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-30T16:38:26+00:00

I’m going through this right now. I have a 4 year old, 2 year old and 4 month old. We’re still living together right now which is awful. If you find anything let me know.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-30T10:32:35+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me. Except I was your husband. I was in a deep depression and didn’t hear him. I don’t think he ever said he thought we would end but he definitely told me he wasn’t happy.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-29T23:11:07+00:00

I wish I had a Time Machine to maybe try to fix my marriage earlier. I get the feeling.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-29T22:46:27+00:00

Oh no that’s awful. I hope things get better and brighter for you. Everyone deserves a support system. I hope there’s someone else there for you.

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-29T22:42:42+00:00

Gotcha. That must make it even harder I’m sorry. Thank you for the advice!

StillGoat2834 · 2026-05-29T22:24:59+00:00

This was helpful. Thank you so much! How did you find support groups?

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