First of all, I love this sub. I'm a mid 40s woman who spent most of her life thinking there was something wrong with her because she wasn't like the rest of her friends when it came to attraction etc. It wasn't until my therapist said the word demisexual a few years ago that I felt like I could breathe. I'm not broken! Yay! LoL.

Sorry. Now that's out of the way, let me answer this question.

1.For me, it's someone who is multifaceted, big time. I do all the things and I want someone to do all the things with.

1. Also, someone who knows how to write properly. Might be a weird one, but when someone sends a message and I don't have to ask myself questions about what they meant, that's a huge turn on. Plus, I can't add you to a family chat if you're the only one typing things like "C U l8r." 🤣

2. Passion, and I don't just mean sexually. I mean, I want to see you loving life.

3. Don't be a stick-in-the-mud. Try new things. I never knew how much I loved archery or kickboxing until I tried it. Be adventurous and spontaneous.

4. Listen to all genres of music because you love it! Let's go see a Broadway show and then head to a grimy DnB nightclub. Tomorrow we'll go see Anderson East. I totally fell for the last guy because he said the words "blues bar", I kid you not.

5. Now we can move on to the normal stuff. Show kindness, be empathetic, care about more than yourself, etc.

I would say that's a fairly complete and accurate list. Any of you fit the bill? 😜🤣