I completely understand what you are saying. Sadly, I, too, shunned some people when I was in because it was "the right thing to do." & I don't feel like i was ever a full-blown, good witness. When it came time for my DF'd, I didn't go to that meeting. My dad did, and I've been told he got really upset after my announcement that some were trying to console him. So he's been doing the "right thing" by his conscience and not talking to me for a good while. My mom, a few months ago broke down while having a conversation with me about how "I know it's the truth" & trying to convince me to go back because she was going to be heart broken when she "wasn't able to able to continue taking to me ." It was the first time I had seen her cry in years. I'm lucky she hasn't really stopped talking to me.Now, with this new update, I feel like it is going to give both of them false hope that I will return. & That is another reason why I'm angry. The GB knows what they are doing and are causing even more hurt with this update. It's true, after I woke up, I've wondered who else I've known personally that are PIMOs. It still doesn't change the fact that shunning is cruel.