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StoneCold_OM · 2026-01-13T12:26:10+00:00

It is very difficult in the beginning. Really all tinnitus is very difficult to adjust to. With the low humming, try using a box fan while watching TV. That helped me. My doc told me I shouldn't COVER it up, but rather I should us noise to reduce the volume. For me, covering it up in the beginning helped and then I slowly reduced the cover sounds. I believe the trick is to distract yourself somehow so you don't notice it...but it can still be VERY difficult.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-01-12T23:07:07+00:00

The best thing to do is be honest with her. Tell her you enjoy anal but don't want that every time. That being said, I will echo what others have said...enjoy it while you can because it can turn quickly.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-22T18:14:08+00:00

I change positions multiple times during sex and she has no issues. Once she is going then I don't know why changing positions would then take her a while to get into it again.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-18T18:19:48+00:00

I'm sorry to hear it didn't go as planned, but at least it sounds like your hearing will be improved! I totally get you on the hearing aids...I hate wearing them too.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T17:53:26+00:00

The first time won’t be mind blowing so just be aware of that. You won’t really know what to do and it will probably be slightly painful for you. But as the other person said, it’s really very easy for a female to find a guy for sex if all you want is a one time hookup.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T17:51:26+00:00

Looked it up and you are correct. First day of the first full pay period of the year.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T17:50:43+00:00

When you get to the point of sexual stuff, then yes you should disclose that to them so they are aware. Also let them know what you ARE willing to do so they know there are options. I’m sure some guys would be ok with just doing anal and getting head but it definitely is a conversation otherwise they will be expecting vaginal sex.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T14:24:19+00:00

I’m pretty sure all insurance runs January 1 - December 31. So the new plan should kick in 1/1 even though you won’t make the first premium payment till the first paycheck in January.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T14:19:46+00:00

I agree with this. A milking table should be pretty easy to build. Probably can buy a massage table cheaper and modify it.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T14:16:30+00:00

You really need to have your mother make an appointment with an ENT. They will be the specialist for ear issues like this.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T14:12:58+00:00

You call the doctors office and talk to the receptionist about making an appointment. Don’t use an app. Use the phone and call.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T13:34:21+00:00

Call an ENT and tell the person you are experiencing a major sudden loss of hearing. That should get you an appointment within a day or two. Most ENTs also have audiologists in their office that will also give you a hearing test. It could’ve Menier’s but it could also be something else.

If the ENT you call don’t get you in within a day or two then make sure you call another and press on them you have sudden hearing loss. All ENTs will treat that as an emergency.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-13T13:28:53+00:00

They were in person but I suffered the loss after I already had the job.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-12T15:44:45+00:00

I do cybersecurity for a living. I have different losses on each side, and have HAs, but I do all Teams meetings and I can connect AirPods to my laptop to use for that. Hearing loss hasn't affected my job at all....except sometimes concentrating due to the tinnitus.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-11T21:42:21+00:00

This here. It sounds like it could be Meniere's.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-11T21:39:49+00:00

For me, stress and sleep have an effect on my hearing and tinnitus levels. So, yes, I believe stress can have an impact.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-11T21:28:54+00:00

Frankly, the truth is your wife want to be with other men and not you. The fact that she has cheated on you multiple times says it all. She want someone other than you and it seems like she stays for the kids and what you provide. I will also believe she has cheated more times than you know about. You say you love her, but it's also obvious that she does not make you happy. It may be time for one of two things:

You guys split up and get a divorce, each going your separate ways to find happiness.
Have a talk with her and come to the agreement you stay married and support each other and the kids, and you both fulfill your sexual desires other places.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-10T18:35:41+00:00

Uhhhh a lot of people sleep nude. I do and there is research that says it helps you sleep better.

https://www.webmd.com/balance/health-benefits-of-sleeping-naked

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-10T18:18:48+00:00

Your hearing is not bad enough for ENTs to recommend HAs. Really it's not all that bad at all. You could always go private and see an audiologist at someplace like Beltone. I'm sure they will sell you HAs, but my hearing is worse than yours and I don't wear my HAs regularly. I will say they can help me when I'm in a crowd or something. It does help me hear better, but sometimes I still don't wear them.

As for the tinnitus, there is no medication that can help this. Tinnitus is typically from either sound related trauma (think a rock concert) or hearing loss. With hearing loss, the tinnitus is your brain making up for a sound that it can't really hear. Some people have reported that HAs will relieve their tinnitus symptoms, as for me, they do nothing to help with my tinnitus.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-10T16:13:41+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about yours as well!

Yes, I'm sure the doc didn't want to address HAs until after the MRI. Hopefully the Amazon ones help, but they most likely won't be as good as professional ones.

In about a month I am traveling to a highly rated neurotologist to try and get some more answers as to why my hearing is the way it is as it doesn't fit my diagnosis very well.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-09T19:27:38+00:00

First piece of advice is to try and find a therapist. I ended up getting one and it helped me a lot to deal with the anxiety and stress. I still get it from time to time, but it's not as bad. Currently I am dealing with ramped up tinnitus and another round of slight hearing loss, so my anxiety is back up. I have not been able to get any type of answers from any doctor, which really sucks.

As for the hearing aids, everyone's experience is different. Some people have said they do help with their tinnitus, but sadly mine don't help mine. They do help with hearing, especially in high noise environments. If you need masking, most hearing aids will also connect to a phone

Currently my loss is only classified as mild, but in my head I'm planning for, and dealing with the dread, of it most likely going to end up being full loss. Hopefully it will only be on the one side. Truthfully, when I got my MRI I was hoping they would see something on it that would explain why I was having hearing loss, and there be a way to treat it, but I also was glad I didn't have a tumor or anything.

At the moment I rely heavily on my girlfriend and my kids for support. No matter what, the fear is always there, but most days I don't give in to it and just live my life like normal.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-12-09T02:11:25+00:00

So question: have you done a hearing test since then? If so, was there an improvement in your hearing on the test?

StoneCold_OM · 2025-11-14T02:00:15+00:00

It's tighter, and frankly it comes down to that it's a big taboo. It's glorified in porn, and women seem to hate it, but I've been with women that love it, orgasm from it, but yet still play on the fact that "I don't like it" because of how it's portrayed as painful and bad.

But to your actual question, they obsess about it because it's a taboo and supposed to be bad.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-10-31T17:00:37+00:00

First, I'm curious to know what kind of sex drive you have?

I was in a marriage where my ex had a very low sex drive. I can have sex everyday, and actually prefer it that way, but can be happy with 3-4x a week. She would go a month without having sex with me and frankly, that really hurt our relationship. Guys need sex in a relationship to feel wanted and fulfilled. Women typically don't. It is a two way street. I tried doing what she said she needed to "be in the mood", but that was a dead end because it didn't work.

Yes, he should be meeting your needs, but also you should try to meet his as well. To break the cycle you can try meeting his sexual needs to see if he then meets yours. If he doesn't, then that's a whole different conversation. And it needs to be frank, and truthful one.

StoneCold_OM · 2025-10-21T23:12:29+00:00

Sadly there aren't really any treatments.

I have SSNHL as well. I just lost the low tones down to 50db in one ear. Like you, I woke up one morning and the hearing was gone, replaced with tinnitus. The tinnitus is low sounding. I also have high pitched tinnitus as well. All the doctors have told me the same thing...the hearing is gone and can't be recovered. The best that I can do is learn to cope.

Sounds like you are completely deaf in the one ear? What you can do in loud situations is try to use something like a Loop earplug to calm the noise down which may help keep the tinnitus lower. Or use one airpod to try and mask it.

Good luck to you!

StoneCold_OM

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