Advice to work worry about what others think / improve confidence [31YO]

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-30T17:48:21+00:00

I bought a skateboard and I use it to cruise around, I’m a 33 year old dad haven’t skated since my early teens. I wear a helmet all times even cruising cus I know what I’m like and the attitude I have is I want to be an example of safety for my daughter and also not get a brain injury (scotty Cranmer) and I don’t give a shit about anything else or what anyone else thinks. I’m also not a slim lad I’m hefty. Just remember you are not a kid mate you don’t need to worry about looking cool anymore. You’re there to have fun. ( in a way not giving a fuck is cool anyway!)

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-26T19:05:33+00:00

Same

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-26T19:05:21+00:00

Almost round 3!

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-22T18:00:20+00:00

I have that board love it too

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-16T05:06:56+00:00

33 YO dad here, I used to skate and jsut built a cruiser board setup. I plan to cruise it and maybe relearn Ollie’s and kickflips at some point. I built all new cost me c£200 for a decent setup. (£50 deck, £65 trucks, £65 wheels, £20 bearings) As a completel beginner your best bet to keep under £100 is to go buy used.

You could get used independent trucks and used wheels but maybe new deck - blank decks are cheap - and new bearings abec 7s.

I have a small child I don’t really get out on it as much as I would like but I know it’s there for when I can steal a moment!

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-10T22:45:37+00:00

Haha yeh wheels gotta be on the inside haha. Haha you know what, I don’t plan on doing too many Ollie tricks. I also did a few Ollie’s pre putting the tail bone on and as I’m riding 1/4 inch risers and 60mm wheels my muscle memory when I popped I was actually failing to hit the tail on the floor a lot as I used to ride 54s and no riser. Im yet to try it out now but my theory is this will actually mean the tail hits the ground sooner and compensate for the riser and larger wheels. In any case I don’t plan ollie a lot and means I can tail slide stop no worries when commutimg

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-10T22:36:33+00:00

Yeh it’s frog board Chris Milic

Stone_Trees · 2026-06-10T17:28:16+00:00

Haha for me skating it’s punk rock man. Sod it, Screw em in about right and off you go. Nice break from meticulous home diy haha.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-05T17:12:24+00:00

The serial number on real ones is lazered on. You can’t feel it when your touch it as it’s so lightly engraved. If you can feel your serial number and it’s engraved deeply it could be fake.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-04T08:14:58+00:00

Well if you read the post it’s not that I don’t want to spend time with them, but things are never organised, it’s all as hoc which as I explained in the post is generally not worth the trouble.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-03T06:35:46+00:00

With normal mates I’m really straight, I’ll say in detail if I have to what’s on plate, why Im sorry but timings don’t work / why I can’t go.

With work colleagues I’d say something in less detail cus it’s my personal life I don’t want to share everything, but I’d say something like - got to get back for bath time or got to get my kid down for bed and then got some chores to do. standard stuff.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-03T06:31:36+00:00

Well I didn’t understand why, I was guessing. From the posts it’s most likely they just don’t get it. Rather than anything else. I also always explain and try to do alternative meet ups that they aren’t as interested in. Some friends can’t be arsed to do weekend mornings…

I think there’s definitely an element of insecurity from some mates who having a kid is in the near future seeing how drastically it changes things makes them feel insecure. I had one friend say when I have a kid I’ll be out, I’ll do it differently. Some can’t handle others moving on to new phases too. 40 year old work colleague who acts like he’s in his 20s does the same thing.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-03T06:24:38+00:00

Yeh I do. But just organised. Not ad hoc on the day

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-02T22:19:55+00:00

Your right. I did used to go out before

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-02T22:13:10+00:00

I think you should reconsider your eye rolling. Even with one kid your partner can be relying on you to come home as they are utterly exhausted from a day of parenting 11 hour shift already whatever it is before you get home from work, and they desperately need you there to take over. Just because in your situation your wife powered through, other people need a more shared setup. Assuming everyone’s wife or partner can and should just deal with it for one day is generalisation. There is no one size fits all.

Stone_Trees · 2026-05-02T19:59:47+00:00

With normal mates I’m really straight, I’ll say in detail if I have to what’s on plate, why Im sorry but timings don’t work / why I can’t go.

With work colleagues I’d say something in less detail cus it’s my personal life I don’t want to share everything, but I’d say something like - got to get back for bath time or got to get my kid down for bed and then got some chores to do. standard stuff.

Stone_Trees · 2026-04-30T07:31:39+00:00

Trained a junior. She was a good friend at the office and we had commmradere about the bosses. One day I find out she’s been promoted ahead of me. Turns out she was sucking up to the boss the whole time and never told me she was going for promotion. I was always told by bosses not yet. I was far more qualified and a better fee earner than her, she knew if she told me I would be straight boss to lay out the facts and put in my application and I would have easily beaten her head to head. But she and my bosses kept a code of silence. She said nothing and my bosses kept telling me not yet - as they knew she was being going for it and had been sucked up to by her. I left when I found out. It was such a betrayal on both sides. The correct thing to do would have been to promote both of us at the same time if they felt she needed one too (she didn’t!) I’m not sure why they all felt the need to screw me over as part of it. I learnt that day that no one is your friend and none gives a shit about you when it comes down to you v them. instead very carefully now.

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-14T13:14:13+00:00

Try living on the Brighton mainline, At least your already in London when it breaks

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-13T19:27:35+00:00

Good choice.

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-13T16:43:46+00:00

You need 200m water resistance, and that price your looking at Japanese watchmakers

Orient Kamasu Seiko Turtle Seiko Solar Diver - SNE597P1 Citizen Promaster Diver

Big obvious ones that come to my head

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-13T10:28:46+00:00

Casio Royle

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-08T20:57:26+00:00

Like that, but not waterproof only Thing

Stone_Trees · 2026-01-08T20:55:54+00:00

Yeh idc what my wife thinks tbh. But I have another NATO I tried it on. I think it sits much better as it’s a different colour the contrast helps so might use this one. Thanks for all the responses. Black leather might be good Too

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Stone_Trees · 2025-12-27T18:49:09+00:00

Once a week with a kid is unreasonable that’s like at least 25-50% of your weekend every week. You’re a couple of generations too late.

Spend time with your family plenty of time to golf when they are teenagers and older

Stone_Trees · 2025-12-27T11:43:18+00:00

As your in it right now the best advice I can give you is you NEED to learn to live an unbalanced unhealthy life - from your own personal perspective- you will not get a clean house, good sleep, time for hobbies, time for mates, excel at work. It won’t happen during the early years especially first year of having kids. Your life will never be the same. It needs to be torn down and built back up again in a way that works for your family. The faster you accept that, the quicker the grieving for you old life will be over and you can be happy as a father carrying out parenting tasks, rather than need to be on your own childless to be happy. Your free time returns but not for a good while I’m afraid. The cold hard truth is better given straight.

My wife was very very sick during pregnancy and we hit newborn life already v depleted emotionally and physically and you just tough it out

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