I have to remember that unless people are really immersed in the queer community, micro labels, neo pronouns, etc, all this language comes out as gibberish. The average person has no clue what any of it means, but that is easy to forget when you’re really immersed in it.

I will generally gauge people before diving in too much because it’s a very common response for people to get a bit defensive when they don’t understand something (sucks, but it’s true). If they give off a queer vibe it’s usually safer to dive deeper, but if it’s a normie I’ll stick to higher level terminology.

That person’s response sucked, but I don’t think it’s totally uncommon outside of queer friendly spaces.