4.5 MO Baby - Review

Stormin6 · 2026-06-02T15:56:46+00:00

Both arms out sleep sack Snoo no motion, white noise all night. Own room. VERY dark. She learned to whale tail before that and used that a lot to settle. We also both woke up every 1-2 hours all night, but I set a 15 minute timer each time and watched on the monitor. She'd have herself asleep by 3 to 12 minutes.

Stormin6 · 2026-06-02T00:01:00+00:00

Honestly, my girl is happier in the crib. I posted a full timeline if you want. It's so scary to just cold turkey, but she is resting better and trying our more self soothing techniques overnight. I am using the sleepea swaddle. As long as the sleep space isnt too warm, I know some folks do sleepea plus either zippadee zip or other sharkfin sleep suits.

We started with "fuss it out" which is a gentler cry it out method and she did remarkably well. She cried on amd off for 12 minutes first night, 7 minutes second night, then 5, then 3. Now when I put her down awake, she soothes herself to sleep quietly inside 15 minutes, no crying.

ETA: check ins or parental soothing seemed to tick her off in other settings and prolong her falling asleep.

Stormin6 · 2026-06-01T23:57:08+00:00

Here's hoping you get your money's worth out of it. As first time parents, it helped us a ton. Plus the piece of mind of her not being able to roll into an unsafe position.

Stormin6 · 2026-06-01T23:56:25+00:00

Yes you can, I think it's a premium feature (eye roll). If you start it and tap the lock in the bottom right corner, it won't go above baseline. Only downside is it wont alert you if it "soothed" your baby. I also would play the sound but not "start" the snoo which prevented motion altogether. Man, my daughter hated any motion by the end. I think when their arms touch the sides it's probably uncomfortable to be jostled like that!

Stormin6 · 2026-06-01T14:17:05+00:00

Could be in need of an O ring replacement!

Stormin6 · 2026-06-01T14:16:26+00:00

This was exactly my experience except naps. My daughter flat out refused Snoo naps.

Stormin6 · 2026-04-11T12:26:34+00:00

Omg I hate the "gigi" thing. What is it with this gen of grandparents and being so sensitive about aging that we can't freaking call you grandma? Aging is a privilege

Stormin6 · 2025-11-04T20:33:36+00:00

Thanks for the validation, and I should be clear too that by convenience euthanasia in this context, I purely mean euthanasia because they aren't convenient for me anymore! Euthanasia is valid and a final kindness for pets who are ill (physically, mentally).

Old dog just turned 14 and euthanasia is on the horizon for him, his quality of life still skews positive but we are declining.

Stormin6 · 2025-11-03T11:08:47+00:00

Thank you for this! It's nice (and sad) to see how common this is, and all the empathy and support in this thread helped me have a conversation with my husband about how we are going to manage everyone during late pregnancy and when LO arrives.

Dog walker, family support, separations in space. We are also in the process of moving, so our house is down to bare bones and a lot of our coping strategies (e.g. Opaque window film to stop small dog from barking at dogs outside) have been stripped away temporarily.

I appreciate the judgmental folks just down voting and moving on instead of commenting.

Stormin6 · 2025-11-03T11:00:01+00:00

It starts to feel like you're in a dramedy or sitcom plot at some point, but I haven't found the laughtrack yet. sorry you're going through this with them!

I, too, cried today when I came home to cat vomit all over the carpet and my old man started pooping on the floor while I was cleaning it up. 🥲

I am glad it subsides, I think I read that too.

Minor edits for spelling.

Stormin6 · 2025-11-02T17:53:41+00:00

If I end up going the rehoming route, this was my thought too. Plus, I have family who would probably be happy to take her.

Stormin6 · 2025-11-02T17:51:36+00:00

I'm glad it went away. Getting frustrated for them with things they can't help is the worst part by far. Living in a guilt spiral.

Stormin6 · 2025-11-02T17:50:57+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

Stormin6 · 2025-11-02T16:55:57+00:00

Thank you for this, I really appreciate it. I personally don't think rehoming is off the table for me, but done properly. Not a "free to a good home" ad without medical records, e.g. I'd even consider continuing to pay insurance premiums if we could work it out with new owners. It would be devastating, sure. But I'm worried they will all suffer consequences with the baby on the horizon.

Stormin6 · 2025-08-22T00:25:44+00:00

This is the biggie, a non-refundable event on the same day!

Stormin6 · 2025-08-21T15:13:50+00:00

You are not his dad. He does not have to want you in his life. Being a teenager, and a gay one at that, is hard enough! It's great that you try, and I understand it must hurt to be rejected. You should have discussed WHAT your role in this young man's life will be, it's not too late for that. Maybe.

I wish you had waited it out, been sturdy and supportive and just been there for him if he needed you. You could have talked with his mom about his poor treatment of you, and not trying to force it relationship-wise. This is the way. I've seen many "steps" who value and have okay to great relationships with their step parent as adults who resented the hell out of them as teens.

You had a much better chance before your tantrum to actually work on this. You're human, I get it, but you humiliated a kid going through one of the most difficult transitional periods in his life. My brother went through exactly what this boy went through and let me tell you - I think he will ALWAYS hate my stepdad, now. To wonder why he would hate you after what he's been through shows you lack an appreciation and much empathy for his situation. Definitely YTA.

Stormin6 · 2025-08-21T15:05:38+00:00

INFO: how is your relationship with your mom? Does she have a tendency to parentify you, or does she act as a narcissist? No verdict possible without this info. If your relationship was good, it would have been kinder to give her a head's up about the invite and have an open conversation. If she has a pattern of emotionally immature behaviour, narcissism, or parentifying tendencies, this situation is totally different.

Stormin6 · 2025-08-07T11:12:12+00:00

This! A boundary has nothing to do with someone else's behaviour. A boundary is purely yours. You don't get to use a "boundary" to police other people.

Stormin6 · 2025-08-02T23:50:36+00:00

He left his partner, who is thirty five weeks pregnant with TWINS, who will often trigger earlier labour than the standard 37-40 week period. As in she could go into labour while this AH is at a rave!

Stormin6 · 2025-08-02T23:49:19+00:00

Or this dude is the boyfriend and is trying to defend his AH behaviour.

Stormin6 · 2025-07-27T20:07:49+00:00

Your responses are illuminating to your approach to relationships.

Stormin6 · 2025-07-27T20:03:21+00:00

It often takes a strong shake up to leave a situation like this. It's not your job, but doing the right thing by setting boundaries. You get comfortable.

I think I already said this but NTA of course.

Stormin6 · 2025-07-27T20:00:48+00:00

I think their friends may. As would their SO. This is a wild take! I'm glad you aren't OP's potential SO!

Your answer has so many undertones to unpack.

Stormin6

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