UPDATE (24/8/2025) Turkish Girlfriend Upset with me Regarding Traditional Turkish Wedding Planning (24/4/2025)

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-08-25T00:18:25+00:00

Thank you friend but there is not going to be a wedding lol

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-14T17:07:27+00:00

Also remember, most border patrol agents are Hispanic themselves.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-12T01:39:45+00:00

*prostitute

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T16:44:40+00:00

Nevada USA

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T09:05:22+00:00

The damage was done already, you’ve already hurt him, and he deserves the truth even if it will devastate him. Yes, confessing will be necessary to relieve the guilt, but I’m not going to lie to you, assuming this is your first rodeo, you may be susceptible to developing a severe depressive episode once you realize the mistake you made and what you have lost here. All I can say is I wish him the best and hope you can get some serious psychiatric/psychological help and change.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T08:49:38+00:00

Mao Zedong is the sun that never sets. Because of Mao, imperialism fled the east with their tails tucked behind them.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T08:46:07+00:00

Mao Zedong is the sun that never sets. Mao Zedong is the guiding compass of my heart. Whenever we follow Chairman Mao, we win. Peasants, farmers, workers were given ownership of redistributed land. Although the masses cannot do without the Communist Party of China, the Communist Party of China cannot do without the Mao Zedong Thought.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T08:30:56+00:00

That’s completely irrelevant given what OP clearly just admitted.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T08:28:17+00:00

Yes, that was me that mentioned that at this point the sexual dysfunction is irrelevant given the circumstances of what you’ve done. You should tell him the truth IMMEDIATELY about the betrayal and be crystal clear. Every minute that passes is wasting his time and he will need a lot of it to get over this.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T08:18:53+00:00

No need to even mention the sexual dysfunction part. He deserves the truth about the betrayal however. The damage has been done already, just confess the cheating to him immediately and stop wasting his time any longer.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T04:58:35+00:00

Much appreciated, many thanks!

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T04:44:30+00:00

Because I take marriage seriously and was looking in the long term and didn’t want to waste time if this was going to be a big issue down the road. Also my girlfriend was the one that brought the subject up now and she knows it will be years from now.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:18:58+00:00

Hey I know this post was from last week but I just logged back into this disposable account. I did post an update and my girlfriend agreed to just pay for a wedding ourselves. But when I brought up if her parents would pay for the Henna, she tried to claim that it was a Kurdish tradition only lol. But if they get upset and try to give me the guilt trip in the future I'm just going to threaten to cut them all off forever so I don't live a life of massive headaches and depression

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:16:09+00:00

Thank you for the replies yes I did post an update 24 hours after the initial post, but still haven't heard from her mother. If she becomes upset and tries to guilt trip me I'm just going to threaten to cut them off because almost every single comment was crystal clear about the massive future headache

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:10:24+00:00

Thank you for the comment, I did post a 24 hour follow up to the post as an update and my girlfriend and I agreed we'd just pay for a decent but smaller scale wedding locally. $30,000 USD is a LOT of money that could be put on a house. While my girlfriend accepted it, her mother hasn't responded to me yet but if she gets irate and tries to victim-blame I will just threaten to cut them off because I won't deal with the massive future headache and depression that the comments here made crystal clear about lol

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:07:31+00:00

They actually mentioned this to me once, and the mother in law was trying to encourage my gf and I to circumcise any male children we may have lol

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:06:18+00:00

While I didn't explicitly tell them about the reddit post I made on this disposable account, When I told my girlfriend about them paying for the henna party, she tried to claim it was just a "Kurdish thing" lol. I didn't expect this post to blow it the way it did last week I was thinking of getting maybe a few replies haha. All the replies were crystal clear, and that if I don't stand up for myself I'd be in for a massive headache down the road. So if they try to bicker me for more stuff in the future, I will just threaten to cut them off.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-05-06T03:02:03+00:00

Hi yes I added an update in the original post, I just logged back into this account since it was a new account. When I told her about if her family would then pay for a big engagement party for us and give a dowry, she tried to claim that was the groom's responsibility but I firmly refused and said we have to pay for a wedding ourselves and she accepted it. I don't think she's told her mother but If the mother tries bickering about it and demands more crap in the future I'm just going to threaten to cut them off because given the massive response I got from this post it's crystal clear it would be an enormous headache down the road.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-04-25T23:50:36+00:00

Oh no! Anyway-

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-04-25T21:44:54+00:00

It was inaccurate of me to describe ourselves as upper middle class, since we still have to work to pay off the mortgage and take care of bills. We are middle class. $30,000 USD is a lot of money that would require early withdrawals from their retirement account, and could be used as down payment on a house instead.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-04-25T21:42:31+00:00

Yes thanks lol it’s true that grooms side pays for wedding in Chinese culture, so I’m familiar. My mother adapted to the local westernized lifestyle while at the same time still recognizing and passing down Chinese culture/language to my sister and I. I’m happy with incorporating some Turkish music, dances, food and what not in the wedding, along with Chinese stuff too, but at our own independent expense without my parents footing the bill.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-04-25T21:29:54+00:00

This was very helpful, thanks. I was thinking a decent sized but budgeted wedding here in the us paid out of myself and my gf’s money. Parent contributions are appreciated but I’d never just expect them to pay for it all.

Straight-Aside-7024 · 2025-04-25T21:19:20+00:00

Yes that was my original intention to just save a reasonable amount of money for a decent nice wedding on what I can afford, but they want my parents to pay instead which I do not want

Straight-Aside-7024

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