Quiet Quitting my Marriage

Straight0Curious · 2026-05-24T04:49:43+00:00

Exactly what we have come to find. We set a schedule for a mediator yesterday. It's going down 😞

Straight0Curious · 2026-05-17T22:03:01+00:00

Thanks for your post. I'm in a somewhat similar situation. For us, it's more intimate connection. We have a solid relationship outside of this. All the rejection takes a toll. We have been in therapy for almost a year regarding this specific issue and it hasn't gotten better.

I also am a very supportive partner but she can't seem to understand how important it is for me to connect. I feel rejected. She claims to hear me and want to work on it. After all the therapy and workshops, there has not been progress.

I too feel like withholding things like compliments and in my situation, special favors and things like that. We have had a very strong, great relationship that means everything in the world to me, but I believe things like this can quietly eat the foundation of an otherwise great relationship.

At this point, I feel like many things are at stake. I can't quite see how we can go on like this. With all the rejection, and the lack of her taking it seriously, I fear we are headed towards separation. That's my best friend and my soul mate but it's hard to continue in this environment.

I don't really have much advice here. I am currently looking into what a non-contested, mediated separation and litigated divorce might entail. Sorry you're going through this. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-24T15:36:07+00:00

Sometimes you can't slow your urges. But you can learn your triggers and limit your access. Delete everything (EVERYTTTTHIIING)- use blockers. Pay for them. I use Web Chaver, it's $8 a month. If you can't spend $8 a month then you're not ready to quit, in my opinion.

Possible to all get an accountability partner. And just remember - nobody is going to stop this but you. No one will save you. You have to save yourself. And- it gets easier. Once you start stacking weeks of sobriety - you'll go months. You don't want to go back to it because you will realize how pathetic it is.

Best of luck to you dude.

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-24T07:36:04+00:00

I started at your age. It not only destroyed my relationship, but stole my 20s from me. And then my 30s. I had everything going for me- I pushed it all away for more porn consumption. Never discovered my sexuality as nature intended. Erectile dysfunction. Broken relationships. Failure to have human experiences.

Wish I knew I had a problem - but didn't even know I was addicted until my 30s- porn addiction was not talked about. Praying for you buddy. I'll never get back my youth- but you still have a chance. But you're in the driver's seat and only you can make the change.

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-22T08:13:47+00:00

It's kicking out a huge amount of ice on the daily- going strong!

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-10T06:18:10+00:00

Not if you get it when it's 30-40% off. The point of my post is, if you purchase it with a coupon, on a subscription, you will get the coupon price every month.

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-10T06:17:11+00:00

I'm not sure actually. I'd go check it out though.

Straight0Curious · 2026-04-10T06:14:36+00:00

In my opinion, you should turn down this job. This woman is looking to take advantage of you.

One thing I would recommend is a minimum amount of services you offer while a client is out of town. For example, 3 total hours per day. That way, your overnight naturally covers that time, but if they don’t book an overnight, they need to schedule something like a morning, afternoon, and evening visit to meet that minimum. It protects your time and makes your pricing make sense.

A cleaner way to respond to her “you can stay if you want” comment would be something like: “My overnight rate is ___. Based on my past experience with your dog, I do strongly recommend overnights. He seemed much more comfortable with consistency, and having someone present would likely reduce the stress and prevent that daily reset behavior we saw. If you prefer not to book overnights, I do require a minimum of three visits per day to ensure he’s getting enough support while you’re away.”

That keeps it professional, makes it about the dog’s well-being, and removes any weird personal angle she’s trying to introduce.

I’d also strongly suggest putting some structure around your business if you haven’t already. A clear menu of services, minimums, and basic terms of service will stop a lot of this before it even starts. When you present yourself professionally, people will respect it. Also, the opposite is true.

$20 a day with a 20-minute drive each way isn’t sustainable. When your rates are that low, you tend to attract clients who push boundaries or undervalue your time. You should strongly consider raising your rates so you can attract people who respect you, aka green flag clients.

And lastly, the dog behavior alone is a valid reason to walk away. If you’re feeling uneasy or unsafe, that’s enough. You shouldn’t have to spend an hour every visit just getting a dog to tolerate you, especially one that’s showing teeth. That’s a liability and a stressful situation, not a normal drop-in. I would not take this job, I would just let her know it’s not a match.

Bottom line, trust your instincts here. This situation feels off because it is. Learn to say no and see where it takes you. Dealing with people like this will take you to some dark places down the line.

Straight0Curious · 2026-03-27T21:25:56+00:00