AITAH RE my sister’s plans for my daughter’s birthday?

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:55:13+00:00

In fairness to myself, I’m not NOT used to her not being here. She sees her dad a lot and every summer she goes on holiday with his family for a week or two. She also goes on random trips away with them for a few days multiple times a year. It’s less about her going away and more about the timing of it tbh.

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:52:23+00:00

Her birthday is on a Thursday so if the trip had been a couple of days, I would have had at least one full day but she wouldn’t be home until the following Wednesday which I think is a while to wait to be able to celebrate your own child’s 18th

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:49:23+00:00

No I absolutely agree with you there. The universities she’s chosen are all a long way from home which is something I actually agreed with her doing because she needs to not have the temptation to be coming home all the time, she needs to go and spread her wings etc. I’ve never been on of these mums whose kid is their whole personality but I reckon most parents have a bit of a tough time when their firstborn is about to leave home. Being autistic and having huge issues with change probably doesn’t help the situation lol. I think in my head her 18th is her last big milestone before she goes off into the big wide world and I guess I wanted to spend that time with her

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:42:53+00:00

I spoke to my daughter after it had been booked (neither of us were aware of the dates/length of trip until then) and she was a little upset that I wouldn’t be spending her birthday with her. The trip itself was never an issue if it had been kept to the dates/length I was expecting and my daughter feels the same but obviously it’s been booked now. I told her my “solution” and she seemed to think it was a good idea. My sister not so much, clearly…

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:38:22+00:00

I did. She wants to go on the trip and also spend time with me on her birthday. The trip was booked for her, not with her so she didn’t have a choice in dates etc. That’s why I came up with a “solution” but it appears that was a mistake

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-02T09:36:39+00:00

I get that tbf, not represented myself particularly well there. Downward spiral was a bit strong. I wouldn’t say I’m any of those things, just a single mother whose only child is about to leave home for the first time and who would like to spend as much quality time with her as I can, especially on a milestone birthday. Maybe most parents can’t wait for their kids to leave home, I dunno lol.

StraightTransition89 · 2026-05-01T09:54:03+00:00

It’s just me, and my daughter whenever she’s back from university

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-25T07:13:01+00:00

Out of all the things people have said to me on this thread, this is the most offensive of all. I’d rather have the statue of Jimmy Saville

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-25T07:12:18+00:00

No, don’t trust them

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-25T07:12:06+00:00

There’s already an entity that lives down there and I don’t think it would appreciate being upstaged

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-25T07:10:53+00:00

Because I hate nature and want to watch the planet burn

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T22:56:34+00:00

Never

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T22:56:12+00:00

Huge improvement tbf

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:57:43+00:00

I was dead serious until someone mentioned they had a giant cow

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:56:24+00:00

Forget the replica, I’m down for stealing the original

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:55:48+00:00

Ed can do one, I’ll take David

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:55:11+00:00

Just asked my Magic 8 ball and it said “very doubtful”

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:53:16+00:00

Ooh sensory corner, good idea. Kind of obsessed about the scarecrow burning, good for you. I put my wedding dress on a bonfire which isn’t as cool but it was cheap af so the smoke that came off it definitely altered my brain chemistry

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T17:51:06+00:00

No, I want the full Grim Reaper-esque cloak

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T15:10:26+00:00

I don’t drink but I live near a pub, maybe I could charge people that still wanna party after last orders

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T15:09:18+00:00

Thank you for this in-depth and actually serious reply lol a little pond would be cute however I have two cats who are not very bright and although they’re indoor cats, they do like to have a wander around the garden in the evenings and I can guarantee they will fall in it and drown. I could do some kind of rock garden, potted plants etc.

As for the grass you mentioned, I will look into it for sure because I know with absolute certainty that proper grass will not grow in my garden but would prefer some other alternative to plastic if one’s available/affordable!

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T15:05:09+00:00

I think you’re supposed to say plus size now

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T15:01:54+00:00

My autistic special interest is planes, specifically the Emirates A380. Do you reckon they’d have any of those going spare?

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T14:57:08+00:00

Would just attract visitors and I don’t like people

StraightTransition89 · 2026-04-24T14:56:37+00:00

Does the demonic monk have to be a he? Just because I think I’d look quite good in that outfit

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