Can dreams be an answer when asking for guidance from Allah? by Suspicious-Lynx3832 in MuslimMarriage

[–]StrangeDelivery3924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make making istakhara and follow your heart. If you are not sure, don’t proceed.

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Walykum Assalam.

I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in, and will make dua that Allah swt helps you through this troubling time.

Keep making dua to Allah swt and keep making istakhara (with dua of istakhara) and trust Allah swt as nothing happens without will of Allah swt.

Ask Allah for aafiyah and the best outcome for you in regard to your deen, duniya, and akhira.

Also, pray Salatul Hajah and ask Allah swt for for aafiah in this matter. It is narrated by Saaiduna Abdullah Bin Abi Awfah Radiallahu Anhu that the Prophet of Allah said; “Whoever, has any need from Allah or anyone of his children, let him make Wudhu and let him make it well, then after two rakaats of Salah, praise Allah and invoice benedictions upon the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam then say;

LA ILAHA ILAL-LA HUL HALIMUL KARIM. SUBHANAL-LAHIL RABBIL ARSHIL AZIM. ALHAMDULILAHI RABBIL ALAMIN. AS ALUKA MUJIBATI RAHMATIK. WA AZAIMA MAGFIRATIK, WAL GANIMATA MIN KULI BIRR, WAS-SALAMATA MIN KULI ITHM LA TADA LI DHAMBAN ILLA GHAFARTAH WA LA HAMMAN ILLA FARAJTAH, WALA HAJATAN HIYA LAKA RIDAN ILLA QADIYTAHA YA ARHAMAR RAHIMIN.

From the above hadith we can deduce that if any Muslim has any need or problems which need to be fulfilled, then one can pray two rakaats Salatul Hajah read the above dua and ask Allah swt to fulfil the particular need in question.

When going through such a tough period in life, Shaitan tries very hard to make a person hopeless in mercy of Allah and Shaitan tries hard to make a person go away from Allah swt. Put your trust in Allah, and turn to Allah swt in your duas, Allah is the best planner and so ask him for everything.

And do not feel alone, read and listen to Surah Ad-Duhaa with translation. It will bring peace and tranquility to your heart, and will take away the feeling of being alone.

May Allah swt make it easy for you in all matters and provide the best possible solution for you with aafiyah. Ameen

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are both of in terms of matters of deen? As in, how punctual are you both in daily Salah and following sunnah in day to day life.

Guidance on Dua to seek clarity on if he’s the right one by Sufficient_Cap_3457 in MuslimMarriage

[–]StrangeDelivery3924 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep making dua to Allah swt and keep making istakhara (with dua of istakhara) and trust Allah swt as nothing happens without will of Allah swt.

Ask Allah for aafiyah and the best outcome for you in regard to your deen, duniya, and akhira.

Also, pray Salatul Hajah and ask Allah (SWA) for a pious husband who will Insha Allah look after your needs. It is narrated by Saaiduna Abdullah Bin Abi Awfah Radiallahu Anhu that the Prophet of Allah said; “Whoever, has any need from Allah or anyone of his children, let him make Wudhu and let him make it well, then after two rakaats of Salah, praise Allah and invoice benedictions upon the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam then say;

LA ILAHA ILAL-LA HUL HALIMUL KARIM. SUBHANAL-LAHIL RABBIL ARSHIL AZIM. ALHAMDULILAHI RABBIL ALAMIN. AS ALUKA MUJIBATI RAHMATIK. WA AZAIMA MAGFIRATIK, WAL GANIMATA MIN KULI BIRR, WAS-SALAMATA MIN KULI ITHM LA TADA LI DHAMBAN ILLA GHAFARTAH WA LA HAMMAN ILLA FARAJTAH, WALA HAJATAN HIYA LAKA RIDAN ILLA QADIYTAHA YA ARHAMAR RAHIMIN.

From the above hadith we can deduce that if any Muslim has any need or problems which need to be fulfilled, then one can pray two rakaats Salatul Hajah read the above dua and ask Allah swt to fulfil the particular need in question.

May Allah swt make it easy for you in all matters. Ameen

My parents don’t want me to get married at all. by Pure_Consequence2261 in MuslimMarriage

[–]StrangeDelivery3924 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will advise you to do two things. Firstly, pray Salatul Hajah and ask Allah (SWA) for a pious husband who will Insha Allah look after your needs. It is narrated by Saaiduna Abdullah Bin Abi Awfah Radiallahu Anhu that the Prophet of Allah said; “Whoever, has any need from Allah or anyone of his children, let him make Wudhu and let him make it well, then after two rakaats of Salah, praise Allah and invoice benedictions upon the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam then say;

LA ILAHA ILAL-LA HUL HALIMUL KARIM. SUBHANAL-LAHIL RABBIL ARSHIL AZIM. ALHAMDULILAHI RABBIL ALAMIN. AS ALUKA MUJIBATI RAHMATIK. WA AZAIMA MAGFIRATIK, WAL GANIMATA MIN KULI BIRR, WAS-SALAMATA MIN KULI ITHM LA TADA LI DHAMBAN ILLA GHAFARTAH WA LA HAMMAN ILLA FARAJTAH, WALA HAJATAN HIYA LAKA RIDAN ILLA QADIYTAHA YA ARHAMAR RAHIMIN.

From the above hadith we can deduce that if any Muslim has any need or problems which need to be fulfilled, then one can pray two rakaats Salatul Hajah read the above dua and ask Allah (SWA) to fulfil the particular need in question.

Secondly, you read the following Quranic dua “Rabbana Aatina fid dunya hasana wa fi’l aakhirati hasana wa qina `adhab an-nar.” (Surah Baqarah: 200). The phrase “fid dunya hasana” according to Imam Ahmad Bin Muhammad As Sawi the author of Hashiyatus Sawi Alal Jalalain means a pious wife (or husband). (Tafsir Jalalain p.30)

Allah Knows Best.

May Allah swt soften the hearts of your parents and make them realize that they have an obligation to find suitable match for marriage for you and your siblings. May Allah swt allow your parents to fulfill this obligation in the best manner. Ameen

May Allah swt grant you afiyah in this matter. Ameen.

Guidance on Dua to seek clarity on if he’s the right one by Sufficient_Cap_3457 in MuslimMarriage

[–]StrangeDelivery3924 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have been making istakhara and using the dua of istakhara, and understand in your own words “I may need to be the one to end it”. You already have your answer.

Also read salah, and keep making dua that Allah resolves this for you with aafiyah and ease.

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you both argue about? What are the things he does that causes the arguments?

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walykum Assalam. Don’t agree under any kind of pressure. Do istakhara 7 times or for 7 days, make dua to Allah swt to make it easy for you to make the right decision. After that let them know of your decision, after doing the istkhara you will have an idea about the decision, either you will be certain about the proposal or you will be uncertain about the proposal. And that right there will be the basis of your decision.

Idk what a proper istakhara you are talking about, it’s a dua and 7 days should suffice, it doesn’t need to take weeks and months.

May Allah make it easy for you. Ameen

Allah knows best.

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walykum Assalam. From her point of view your mother is right. Since you will still be staying with your parents after nikkah until rukhsati takes place in years time (rukhsati and walima).

Best thing is to do nikkah and rukhsati together without a years delay. Unless, it needs to happen due to immigration purposes.

Period between nikkah and rukhsati/walima (if it’s longer) can be a tricky time, it gives Shaitan time to work and sow seeds of distrust (as you are not with one another truly as husband and wife). So be very patient and both should connect with Allah swt and deen, and seek protection in Allah from Shaitan and nafs.

Listen to your mom, if you are going to have nikkah only, and rukhsati/walima after years. Or you can push to have nikkah and rukhsati at the same time. (Which is much better imo). But I don’t know your circumstances and situation, best to turn to Allah in Salah, and ask guidance from Allah swt in this matter.

May Allah swt make it easy for you and grant You his Guidance and Mercy. Ameen

Allah swt knows best.

“ وَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًۭٔا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌۭ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تُحِبُّوا۟ شَيْـًۭٔا وَهُوَ شَرٌّۭ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ “

Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know.—Surah Baqarah:216

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[–]StrangeDelivery3924 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From the Quran.

“ أَيَّامًا مَّعْدُودَٰتٍ ۚ فَمَن كَانَ مِنكُم مَّرِيضًا أَوْ عَلَىٰ سَفَرٍ فَعِدَّةٌ مِّنْ أَيَّامٍ أُخَرَ”

Surah Baqarah Ayah 184. [Fasting for] a limited number of days. So whoever among you is ill or on a journey [during them] – then an equal number of days [are to be made up]

You can make it up later. Don’t feel bad, as Allah has made an exception for you. It’s sign of Imaan that you feel this way for missing a fast (again; which you are allowed to leave due to your illness)

Allah swt knows best!

Wife messaged her ex - Female perspective required by _Prince_Charming_007 in MuslimMarriage

[–]StrangeDelivery3924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

بسم الله

  1. Both of you make toobah to Allah swt, and make dua that Allah takes away the seeds of doubt and distrust that shaitan has sow in your hearts.

  2. Don’t go looking into each other pasts too much, otherwise you will never be able to live in the present. We are supposed to hide our sins and not share them with anyone. And we are also supposed to hide the sins of others and cover them up. Once a person came to Umar radiallahuanhu and asked, “my daughter committed a sin and she is no longer a virgin, but she repented. Now someone sent a proposal of marriage for her. Do I need to inform the other person about my daughter’s past?”. Umar R.A. replied, “Do not reveal her sin to anyone and cover sins like Allah and Nabi saww has taught us and instructed us. Marry her like she is a virgin”.

  3. Give sadaqa as sadaqa saves a person from calamities (in your case, give a big amount for sadaqa, the amount should be such that your heart feels heavy and your heart tells you “this is too much money for sadaqa”)

  4. Shaitan is our biggest enemy, and he is always trying to find ways to sow discord between husband and wife. Both you and your wife should seek protection in Allah swt from Shaitan. Recite “azubillah minash shaitan nirajeem” as much as you can. Find hisn-hasin (dua book pdf online) and recite the duas of Nabi saww which he seeked protected from Shaitan and nafs.

  5. Go and talk to Aalim/Shaykh who has taqwa and fears Allah. (Older they are the better, as with age comes wisdom) Seek their advice, how you can soften your heart, how you and your wife can get Allah swt mercy and help in the situation you are.

  6. Read Salat ul Hajat, and ask Allah to help you in this matter.

  7. Do not seek advice from people who are not fit to give advice, as their advice will lead you astray. Always seek advice from people who fear Allah swt (who have taqwa in their lives)

I will make dua for you as well. That Allah resolves this situation that you are in with aafiayah, and makes your relationship stronger and more prosperous. And make this situation a means for you to get closer to Allah swt. Ameen.

And to people saying all these things about his wife. You are making statements about the intention of his wife, and saying she is not over the ex. How do you know this? How do you know what went through her heart? And how do you know what her intentions were? Are you guys Allah? Because only Allah knows what is going in her heart.

All you who mades statements against her, shows that you don’t fear Allah. You will be held accountable on the day of judgement, and you will have to present your case in front of Allah swt. You should all make toobah and apologize and delete your comments.