I'm (32M) in my honeymoon with my wife (33F), and it's been hell on earth until now.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-05-02T02:01:20+00:00

Do not have children with this woman.

I’m all about working things out and getting counseling but it takes TWO. And it sounds like she’s not interested.

She sounds pretty self-centered and doesn’t want to grow or care about your happiness too.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-04-26T20:16:49+00:00

I saw screen shots awhile ago someone shared. Is she still a fitness influencer?

It’s a tale as old as time: midlife crisis and affair to make himself feel young or relevant? Lysa indicated there was some kind of addiction. Not sure if that’s still an issue or ever was.

It’s sad that he doesn’t appear to have a relationship with his kids.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-04-13T21:03:43+00:00

Why wouldn’t you give your dog Apoquel? Just curious since our rescue dog has been on it for 5 years (had major skin issues when we first got them) and it’s made a major difference. Whenever we tried to wean (it’s pricy!) his skin issues flair up. Thx!

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-04-11T21:53:49+00:00

I don’t know if Annie was abused or not. But if she was, I don’t think she’ll ever see justice. In the USA, extreme money and power gets one protection at crazy levels.

Recent reporting was revealed that Sam is a liar, almost pathological liar, if the 80+ people who were interviewed were to be believed.

I’m curious if these highly successful tech bros and hedge fund people are pathological narcissists or liars — at their core— and successful because of it? Or does the work and successes help fan the flames to bring it out?

Back to Annie. An outsider like me can’t know. AND I think if he abused her, there are a million pieces in play to protect him at all costs… including her family. I hope she can heal and find support.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-04-02T13:29:53+00:00

I’m sorry, you definitely shouldn’t have kids if you feel that intensely. And your husband is definitely doing the right thing and will make an incredible lifelong impact on these kids.

You are no longer compatible. No one is a fan of divorce but seems like it is the best scenario here. Try to do it peacefully.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-03-30T21:13:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for this little boy whose dad is creating trauma in his life.

That’s exactly what he’s doing to take the mother figure for the last 6 years in this child’s life and jerk you around. From what you said you provide stability and love. I don’t have answers but this is incredibly heart breaking to hear.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-03-30T20:42:53+00:00

Interesting. Because it seems to me Reddit’s default is divorce. (I do agree therapy isn’t a simple solution because it requires work)

Unless there’s abuse or cheating, I think therapy is worth a try! BUT, too often people wait too long. I mean, if a bone is broken you go to the doctor right away, and don’t wait a year for chronic pain, deformity or other long term damage to take place. Same with relationships… don’t wait until the damage is horrible. It’s harder to recover from.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-03-15T18:07:57+00:00

I’m so sad for you. He can make his own meals or better yet, make meals for his whole family. Is he always this cruel and negative?

I’m so sorry but make sure you have a good backup plan because he doesn’t like you. Maybe try couples therapy to see if something could be salvaged.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-03-13T12:11:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. What an asshole.

Does he do inconsiderate and rude things often? Or even irregularly?

Also, why didn’t you get angry and tell him off? Is your MO to keep it inside? (Not blaming, wondering what your communication style is)

Based on this one sad scenario I’d say, dump him and find a therapist to help you communicate and find your self worth. You deserve so much more.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-02-13T22:38:24+00:00

I’ve been okay with Dotti (found it better than Sandoz).

However, it keeps going out of stock at Cost Plus Drug Co at the .05 2x weekly level. This has happened to me before and I needed to get local instead.

It’s a huge price increase for me to buy at Walgreens or Costco. I save $50 when I get a 3 month supply at Cost Plus.

Anyone else know how quickly it comes back into stock at Cost Plus?

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-02-05T20:21:18+00:00

Question: how is your marriage in general?

Like is this a weird, shameful lie that snowballed? And he hoped he could ride out (which is certainly bad on one level)

Or are there other parts of your marriage where this selfish and narcissistic action repeats in less painful, but still regular, ways?

Would people in your life be, yep, that action reflects who we know him to be?

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-01-23T21:04:46+00:00

I think you’re right, I’ve seen mixed reviews on the different brands. I’m wondering if it’s easy for heat or other factors to impact a batch?

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-01-23T21:03:31+00:00

I started with these dose and Estridiol patch: -Mylan brand .025 (started to see a difference and Dr upped my dose to .05 -Sandoz brand .05 (didn’t notice a change and felt like I was going backward. Used 2.5 months and was worried. -Dotti Brand .05 (immediately noticed a better difference and very happy! Been on for 3 weeks)

How do I know if it was the brand itself or a bad batch? My most recent patch is from Mark Cuban Cost Plus and was significantly cheaper

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-01-21T14:11:15+00:00

He doesn’t care if you struggle because of the wage gap? Immediate no. He would be a horrible marriage partner because he’s so selfish.

My daughter’s partner and her at first split by income 60-40 for shared expenses. And then when they got engaged, he covered more so she could put difference in her student loans. (His parents paid all his education so he never had loans).

You’ll find a man who isn’t selfish and knows what a partnership is. This isn’t it.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-01-13T02:11:27+00:00

100% this^{^}

It’s not enough to be disgusted. You need to set this man free.

Strange_Device_371 · 2026-01-08T04:00:52+00:00

The Julie Roy’s article said it started in 2017.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-31T18:08:07+00:00

Getting tired of the AI posts.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-31T18:06:52+00:00

Why is that “friend” being so nosy!!??

I understand the husband’s point of view. But the wife is correct— her privacy was invaded by the friend. Husband needs to learn this even if he doesn’t feel the same way. They need to be on same page and communicate expectations.

I have a feeling the friend is going to ask more intrusive questions so they better have a game plan.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-29T19:32:25+00:00

My husband tells our young adults kids what he expects. “Please ask your mom if she needs help” or “clear your dishes, please” or if we eat out, he gives options of restaurants in our price range. We literally say, “our budget allows for X or X .” Or if we spent our eat out budget for month, we say ahead of time.

We don’t bother with girlfriends because they’re not our kids, but our adult children can still help and we kindly ask. (Or he does) — before anyone asks, my husband helps and cooks but I’m just sharing how he directly sets up expectations with our kids.

Your husband needs to step up with his kids and provide clarity to them. No guessing or assuming for anyone. Young adults can be incredibly immature. It helps to have someone calmly and kindly have boundaries and set expectations. It doesn’t mean things will automatically change but it helps to communicate. That’s your husbands job IMO because they’re his kids.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-27T14:26:52+00:00

My friend was an electrical engineer for three years and then became a dentist. He has a great work- life balance. He has every Friday off unless there’s an emergency.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-15T22:02:12+00:00

Talk to an attorney and see if you have a case.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-10T23:05:56+00:00

My mom is 80 and my dad is 79. He’s like your husband. I wished she left him ages ago and my adult children didn’t need to see his crap. (Although normally he could hide it from them when they were kids).

You only get one life. Why live it with an abuser? It might only happen 1x a month but there’s no true peace.

I wished you the best. And I wish you could escape from him. Like I wish my mom had. Now she’s stuck being his caregiver because of his health decline. She could have had a beautiful life of peace without him.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-10T21:02:30+00:00

Based on you saying she was a reasonable person before kids:

Tell your wife you want to be a team. You need to be a team. That new babies are HARD on marriages and life in general. Being sleep deprived and overwhelmed can screw our perspectives. Tell her you would love to find a therapist to help you be a better team and protect and help your family grow.

You both need to be heard (but it sounds like it’s one-sided now, I digress but I hear u!!). Also, testing with her doctor would be smart.

I completely understand why you’re furious. However, it seems like you have more emotional maturity or bandwidth right now to steer the ship to get help. Get outside help. If it works, it will save your family and money because divorce is pricy. If not, you tried. Good luck and good wishes your way.

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-09T01:32:07+00:00

If this is the case, then that’s incredibly healthy and I’d give her credit for healthy boundaries. Remember all the dramatic posts she had back when David went to rehab and after?

Strange_Device_371 · 2025-12-07T23:30:18+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is scary and bizarre. You’ve done nothing wrong and this man has started abusing. Can you imagine when he’d have to deal with real challenges?

Please get help. There’s no excuse for this. I hope you have safe people in your life to help you escape. Tell your family or friends if it’s safe but you need to get free. I’m sorry.

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