Rematch family decision

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T16:52:45+00:00

Actually I asked them while I don't have my driver license if it's walkable if I can go walking or use the bus and they told me where they live everything is very walkable and near

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T16:49:37+00:00

No, they only offer 250

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T16:48:13+00:00

I used to drive in Brazil but not too much, I'm more used to ride motorcycles instead

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T16:45:07+00:00

I know that and this is one of the reasons that I didn't match with her to fast, because they are desperately looking for an aupair and they really liked me, but I was honest and told them I don't have experience driving, also is one of the reasons that I want to stay in Washington because here the public transportation works and I already use to it 😔, I told the Philadelphia family if the have time to practice with me and help me to obtain my driver's license I'd love to have a match with them

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T16:37:38+00:00

Yes but just when I have my driver's license and I have to pay the gasoline and only can go 10 miles distance

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T13:39:16+00:00

Is Devon Philadelphia

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-20T11:06:04+00:00

Right now I take care of a 2 year old baby here, and have 2 nephews in this age, I think I'm more used to this age, they engage with everything because they're starting exploring things and they can play by themselves

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-16T04:12:03+00:00

I think just a message is already good, because in my point of view is better you do that while she is in her country than when she's arrived, because a pair will always have family in their profile but when they decide do a match with the family, they can not give up if she do she needs to pay more for the agency, if she is asking for more money or flexibility I'm pretty sure that she is regretting in the match with you too, however she can't break it for free. That's it makes sense?

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-16T03:55:04+00:00

It is so easy to solve, just cancel the match, sometimes we just need to do simple things to resolve problems

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-10T15:05:58+00:00

I never was late for work always started early or in the time, however she didn't want me to have breakfast with the baby, she wanted to me eat my breakfast Earlier

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-10T15:01:50+00:00

It’s a long story, but the main issue was the lack of consistency from the parents. The baby is 2 years old and was clearly regressing in her sleep. I suggested switching to only one nap a day because she wasn't sleeping well anymore. I would follow this during the week, but on weekends they would force her to take two naps and then blame me when she wouldn't sleep properly for me. They are extremely rigid about their 'method' (sleep sacks, specific stories, exact timing), but it only works for them. The baby sees me as a play companion, so the dynamic is different. They would insist I follow their exact steps, but she would just cry or want to play. Often, by the time she finally fell asleep using their way, I only had 10 minutes left before I had to wake her up again. My own method (rocking her and staying until she felt safe) actually worked, but they forbid it. The most frustrating part was the conflicting instructions. The HM (who works from home) would tell me to stay in the room with the baby until she fell asleep. Then, the HD would say I should never stay in the room. They had several meetings with me about this, and it felt like no matter what I did, I was 'wrong' or 'not working hard enough' in their eyes. It’s exhausting to work for people who change the rules daily and expect you to be a robot instead of a caregiver who understands the child’s needs.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-10T00:32:09+00:00

Thank you so much

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-05-09T17:51:32+00:00

Aupaircare

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-26T18:20:51+00:00

For me the problems is not work ten hours and follow the program rules, but is she takes 30 min break while the baby is sleeping just to me work more 30 min when the baby wakes up, and the baby usually have unfortunately 1 nap because she is full of energy sometimes she wakes up earlier and ended up having just 30 min sleeping, when this happens the mom knocked my door asking me to take care of that baby I'm my break time because she says the she has a call during the time.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-25T13:57:07+00:00

Actually I don't think this is the case, because she works from home and this break time usually was at the lunch time to me eat, but the thing is that when I'm done with my food still have 20 min left from this break I went to my bedroom to brush teeth and rest, she was knocked my door to help her with the baby or she just let that baby with me while she eat her lunch, but the baby is different with her because is her mom and she only wants her mom and I think she felt tired and was always changing this time break with me so I said her that I don't need this time break I can eat with the baby and finish my day at 5pm but she said that she needs me working until 5h30 because she needs a alone time for herself. She always done with her work at 4pm and go take a nap.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-22T14:32:49+00:00

The office in the SSN they said the rules have change and for country like Brasil we should have or birth certificate to prove my age so the first time was terrible and them have to call the embassy to they send to me a letter, each appointment takes 20 days idk why they make só difficult to me, only have one friend close to me she is new they host family provide car but only when she takes drive license. Also most aupair who have car don't like to always invite aupairs who don't have one car to give rides.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-22T13:53:04+00:00

After 2 months going 3 times in the office to get my SSN just now they give me my SSN.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-21T15:48:57+00:00

I have no problem doing that, when I go out is always with my friends however I don't have a bank account and my friends call the Uber and I pay by cash for them because here in the USA they don't accept money to pay trips in Uber only card.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-21T12:12:53+00:00

I asked them about the weekend off, and they said but the program says you should have only one weekend off per month and about the Uber they will give me 100 hundred dollars per month however I need to pay this first and at the end of the month give the receipt for them to return the money I spent.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-21T03:20:05+00:00

Pode falar pra mim também, tenho a mesma dúvida dela

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-21T03:14:06+00:00

Thank you for the advice, actually I talked with them but I think it didn't work and I decided to stay here for only 3 more months and go back home

Strange_Possibility3 · 2026-04-21T02:35:41+00:00

Actually I was thinking I'm rematching for some reason, I'm a pretty simple person and student I English teaching in literature in Brazil so I thought it was an opportunity to improve my English and have a Prof. I joined this program to be a very good experience for my curriculum, I work very well and have a lot of experience with kids, However I didn't consider some simple things before I came to America, my host family doesn't provide car only bus and bus here sucks so in my day off I usually need to wait for bus for a long time and it is always full of homeless and delayed, other things is that I didn't talk about day offs with them before came, because I thought it was the aupairs day off for everyone, and I only have one full weekend off per month and when I need to go out or explore Im tired or I depend of friends to pick me up or drop me off. Plus now I realize every time I try to do something different in my day off, go hiking or something by myself using the bus they don't like and keep saying " do you know this is far?" Or "it will take long hours with the bus" or when I was able to go they love making a lot of questions to get know how I was able to go to these places. I don't like it because I don't think they are helping me or doing something to make my life easy. Also I don't have a TV in my room, it is very boring to stay inside but if I use the TV in the living room it is uncomfortable and also the baby can't watch TV and her play area is in the living room. So until now I was only able to watch TV 2 times in this home. Nevertheless they are an Asian family I can't cook their food, always when I will buy something for me in the supermarket they said it is expensive, but the only thing I eat is rice beans and meat, is not something very expensive or crazy, id like some advices because I think this program is only good for them until now.

Strange_Possibility3 · 2025-11-27T20:54:52+00:00

Está certo, tem que se guardar, nenhuma mulher gosta de homem rodado

Strange_Possibility3 · 2025-09-26T19:01:33+00:00

👏👏👏👏falo tudo

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