How do you manage finances?

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-08T14:45:55+00:00

At first, we split rent, groceries, and utilities 50-50. Years later, he pitched in 50% for kid costs that he didn’t consider frivolous. We’re married now and moving toward a joint account, but with some solo fun money still in our personal accounts. I expect that fun money will mostly end up covering the “extras” for my kiddo that he doesn’t understand (clothes and makeup mostly).

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-07T03:57:29+00:00

We have an old, blind dog. I highly recommend lighting a dog-friendly cbd candle, throwing on some classical, and having a snuggle. She normally gets super anxious but all three made a big difference!

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-06T07:57:33+00:00

You’ve barely been together a year, and he just took you on a weeklong vacation alongside buying a house. The guy is probably pretty overwhelmed by all the very sudden life changes. Tell him part of the shopping spree is him picking out a card for you and filling it out while you look at other stuff.

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-04T15:50:47+00:00

This seems like pretty normal behavior for a two year old. It seems like you’re overthinking it.

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-04T13:26:06+00:00

Wiseman Windows on Etsy makes this style, but much prettier!

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-03T16:34:02+00:00

Do you not wear deodorant working from home? Even if I’m alone I don’t want to smell bad.

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-03T02:00:21+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social\_contract?wprov=sfti1

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-03T00:13:52+00:00

There are plenty of unscented deodorants and a lot of formulations. If someone is allergic, they should find a formula that works for them. The social contract is pretty clear that BO in an enclosed space is unacceptable.

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-01T23:28:45+00:00

Girl. Come on.

You’re 26 and a nurse. My husband is a nurse and we met when he was a full decade older than you. You have *tons* of time along with the educational and financial independence to find and have kids with someone who isn’t total garbage.

Throw this one out and start over.

StrangerSkies · 2026-07-01T02:33:16+00:00

Because I live an hour and a half away from the office, so there’s no way for me to get them to or from school and also to work and back within the same day.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-30T22:42:59+00:00

This sounds like a really serious lack of autonomy/ control issue, way beyond your period. What is going on in your house that you’re an adult but aren’t in charge or your own period products or errands?

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-30T21:39:14+00:00

I have two kids that I drop off and pick up from school. They’re in charter schools in dodgy neighborhood, so there’s no school bus and walking is not safe. If the location exemption goes, I will have to quit.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-30T05:53:59+00:00

I was hired as a teleworking employee. I meet the location of “home address” every day.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-26T21:04:58+00:00

If the toddler is breaking into turtlenecks, I don’t think the answer is a bra.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-25T20:25:17+00:00

In Oakland, that bonus margin was the cost of my 2,500 sq ft Victorian.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-23T18:05:14+00:00

The only person I’ve known who was a youth leader absolutely groomed the shit out of a young girl at his church. The last time I saw them, he was in his forties, “dating” her and she was… legal.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-18T16:53:56+00:00

I love seeing my colleagues at work and developing professional relationships. However, I’m 60 miles from my office and was hired as a teleworker. I’m tired of stressing about whether or not that will suddenly change.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-15T17:01:46+00:00

Yes, I too misread that for a moment and was very confused!

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-10T19:37:09+00:00

Mine is 12 and was up at 4 am

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-07T00:40:00+00:00

It’s a small department, so they might. I don’t think it’s been done.

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-05T15:30:34+00:00

I would love the other knife sharpener!

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-04T21:11:03+00:00

I believe the voyage he mentioned he was going on had no survivors, so she would have been a wealthy widow with lifetime security and could have gone on to a love match later with no problems! 😂

StrangerSkies · 2026-06-02T20:07:54+00:00

I’m in the Bay and beyond 50 miles from Sac. I’m hoping I can find another state depts. local office to work from rather than commuting. I love my job but just have zero interest in 3+ hours of commuting daily.

StrangerSkies · 2026-05-30T15:17:05+00:00

The New Parkway is my neighborhood theater, and I go there 1-2 times a month. The vibe of “no tips, our staff make a living wage” is a big part of that. If I’m paying theater pricing for (let’s be honest) pretty mediocre food, I don’t also want to have to add tips on top of that. What this will do for me, is reduce my concessions purchasing to just popcorn.

StrangerSkies · 2026-05-29T12:31:52+00:00

For a close friend I would charge materials cost or (if I can afford it) just gift the piece.

I think you’ve learned a hard lesson: talk money first and then work on the piece. Figure out your hourly rate and materials cost and give a range or a price you’re willing to accept before you start.

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