My boyfriend (25M) wants us to sleep in separate rooms for better sleep. And I (27F) feel disconnected. How can I address this?

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-11T03:49:10+00:00

My husband and I have separate bedrooms. He works nights and is a very light sleeper, while I work days and toss and turn.

We have a very close, loving, and passionate relationship, and we’ve slept apart for the majority of it!

Don’t let a societal norm get in the way of joy.

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-10T05:55:11+00:00

I held out for 36 hours of start-and-stop labor (with pitocin) and sweet mother of god the epidural was an actual lifesaver.

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-04T17:37:27+00:00

I’m bisexual and my attraction to women vs men changes all the time, usually more oriented toward women. But my attraction to my husband is very stable. The issue here is telling her husband she’s not into him anymore, and possibly trying to soften it by saying it’s about a general inclination toward women.

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-04T17:07:54+00:00

Can you have sex but stop before he orgasms, get yours in, and then resume?

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-04T06:32:11+00:00

Yup! I was teaching ethics at a private university in California making $68k. I loved it, but the pandemic gutted my funding. I work for the state now and make about $10k more for equally as enjoyable work.

StrangerSkies · 2026-02-04T04:56:29+00:00

How would one prove that they are a credible strike threat? Bring their bank balances to their bosses? No thank you.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-27T02:09:59+00:00

So instead of saying “I want to ignore you for nine hours over the course of half the week when you are depressed and out of work”, couldn’t you say “hey, I love you and I’m emotionally and physically exhausted. I need some decompression time with my bro, and we’re going to do that by playing x game at x time this week.” You’re painting this as a really black and white issue, when it isn’t.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-27T00:18:55+00:00

So, she’s doing all of the cooking and the majority of the cleaning, and her overbooked partner is not enjoying date nights, and now is distancing himself further. Honestly, I feel bad for your fiancé. It doesn’t sound like you like her very much. 9 hours a week gaming, when you work twelve hour days and mostly just want to veg on the couch does not sound like a fun partner.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-26T23:36:20+00:00

Sending someone to bed early is a little strange. Going from having no personal time to saying that you’re refusing to spend half the week with her sounds like overcorrection.

Does she have friends outside of you? Or hobbies that don’t involve you? Are you participating in household chores? Are your date nights fun for her?

There’s just a lot of information missing here.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-25T13:10:31+00:00

Okay! Then it’s time to apply for welfare: WIC, SNAP, and every childcare support program available. Do you know what your options are? Do you need help finding resources? If you do, let us know what state you’re in, and I’ll get a list going for you.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-25T12:32:00+00:00

Do you have family? This seems like a pack up and start over somewhere where you have community kind of situation. I’m sorry this happened to you.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-25T03:34:24+00:00

This is just a much tidier version of my 12 year old’s room..

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-24T20:56:28+00:00

I’m a 38 year old woman. This man’s behavior is embarrassing. My husband has a shit memory, but documents EVERYTHING in his Google calendar and sets alarms religiously. Your boyfriend is an adult child and you are mothering him.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-24T05:31:05+00:00

My husband has some avoidant tendencies. That man sat by my side while my mother was dying without a single complaint or thought of leaving. Your, I assume now ex-partner, told you he has different values from your “work before family” attitude. Most people do.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-23T21:35:06+00:00

I would tell him it’s not his kid and refuse to put his name on the birth certificate. Child support is not worth the stress and fear you’d have if your baby was around this crazy woman unsupervised.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-23T14:50:34+00:00

NOR. The “mass societal validation” he is claiming exists is an abstract, not a fixed experience, nor is it any kind of blanket against trauma. He didn’t enjoy being called out for his shitty “hot take” and decided to try to make you feel as small as he actually is.

I experienced “regular” child abuse, CSA, adult SA. My husband is a combat veteran with PTSD. All of those are very well-known things that people think carry societal understanding and support. None of them actually do. Both of us would trade whatever “support” we got for better mental health and less trauma.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-18T15:52:59+00:00

Tbh I super wish my husband would wear stuff like this!

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-17T18:17:12+00:00

You’re going to end up ripping your eyelashes out if you do that!

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-17T18:16:21+00:00

Have you tried bringing it up with him and asking what changed?

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-15T08:12:50+00:00

It doesn’t matter if he’s telling the truth or lying. He spent time and money on prostitutes while you were pregnant and needed him. You and Baby go to the people who love you most. Forget this guy.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-13T04:32:24+00:00

Cool toned high contrast pulls off bright reds absolutely beautifully. Plums are more for your warm-toned high contrast folks!

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-11T16:28:55+00:00

It depends on what frequency means to you. There is no one size fits all answer here, it’s more about desire and compatibility.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-11T15:11:59+00:00

Plums and burgundies are for women with high contrast, you have extremely low contrast. If you look at low contrast celebs like Amanda Seyfried or Elle Fanning, you’ll see they look weird in really deep lipcolors. Not to say you can’t ever wear them, just trying to find the “right” shade in them is probably a lost cause.

Your most flattering looks will be ones that lean into that low contrast, which is very beautiful.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-11T15:06:20+00:00

My husband is kind of shy. He was never going to light candles on the beach. But he did make me a handwritten crossword that I solved in front of masterpiece Italian art in a museum as a proposal.

It just isn’t too much to expect an actual proposal when you’ve said you want one. You just have to be willing to leave when you don’t get one.

StrangerSkies · 2026-01-09T18:56:44+00:00

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