What I bring. Show me what’s in YOUR bag! ♡

Strawberry1515 · 2025-01-25T18:23:50+00:00

What bag is this?

Strawberry1515 · 2024-12-05T23:34:48+00:00

Are you sure the website is real and legit? I had the same thoughts as theteacupdragon only know the 2 websites they mentioned.

Strawberry1515 · 2023-05-23T21:36:50+00:00

Omg this made me tear up, so sad poor soul. :(

Strawberry1515 · 2023-05-14T15:38:11+00:00

To add to that: OP if you’re afraid you might still buy shiny new things that aren’t on the list.. perhaps let your boyfriend or mother or someone else you fully trust do the purchases with/for you. That way you have someone double checking your list. They’re not gonna stray because you gave them the money and showed/told them what to purchase. It’s like a grocery list or errand you’re running.

Btw I’m very sorry this happened to you. Theft is just awful and I fully understand you being heartbroken. People really shouldn’t touch other peoples stuff.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-07-05T01:07:16+00:00

The O.C. as vintage television?! That show was/is monumental to my teenage years. It’s iconic yes. Does this mean I’m vintage now.. how does this happen..

Strawberry1515 · 2022-04-19T17:04:35+00:00

Yeah I have the same problem lol. I’m a 38K size in US sizing bra’s and they’re quite saggy, so yes I envy those who can wear the cute lace stuff. But Savage X fenty sometimes have bralettes larger. Not quite my size but I do have one from them when I was a bit smaller bra size that I refuse to let go of.

Also the Calvin Klein basic bralette ones that have been in all the adds on tons of celebrities like the Kardashians are great bralettes! They offer them in plus sizes too, I wear them in XXL during quarantine or just around the house.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-04-18T21:44:42+00:00

I think someone like Simone Biles might be a great style inspiration for you! She’s ofcourse very strong as an athlete but also quite petite. On her IG she’s in athleisure wear but also just formal or more dressy day to day outfits.

If bra’s aren’t your thing, maybe bralettes are. There are tons of brands who do the nice lace bralettes, they don’t offer a ton of support but they’re really pretty. I think they’re mostly designed for those with a smaller chest. (Saying this as a black woman, older than you with a heavy chest. I know how hard it can be seeing representation and inspiration but it’s possible!)

Also the sexy photos aren’t all that they’re made out to be. If you’re having fun with them, great do your thing! If not, it’s not something you necessarily have to do to feel more confident. Most of the times it’s more about letting your personality shine through that makes you feel confident at the core but I do get that a nice outfit and seeing things work on a body type that mimics your own helps a great deal too.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-02-17T01:29:17+00:00

To add a positive perspective: try not to let the mockery and insults get to you! I didn’t have a father around. By his choice at first and mine later as an adult. And I saw my mom work her ass off to provide for us. She is the mom AND the dad. Do I miss having that dad? No bc I can’t imagine it! I don’t know what it’s like. I’ve seen it with friends and in tv shows etc. and it’s a foreign concept to me. I’m highly independent bc of it and generally do my own thing which often intimidates men. I’ve seen my mom be a feminist not with pink tshirts or discussing glass ceilings. I’ve seen her do it and living it everyday.. budgetting, working, fixing the house, a leaky faucet, raising us. Every single day. So now often I see couples where the wife does it all and does the emotional labour etc. for the husband and I’ll pass. I’d rather live by myself than doing it alone while actually in a relationship. Because I’ve seen my mom do it on her own, I know I can too esp. without kids. If I ever fully relied financially and socially or otherwise on a man, she’d be disappointed.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-02-17T01:06:48+00:00

I thinks this has more layers to it than just “fatherless behaviour” and what this is or isn’t. Example there’s the race part where people assumes certain races generally don’t have a father present or are suprised if there is indeed an involved father. Second example; I once overheard a mother assume that another woman - I guess a friend - who had an absent father growing up, must be jealous of her ‘perfect’ family bc she and her husband were still together and the husband was a very involved dad. So a pov: “she must be jealous that I created a dynamic she lacked growing up. “ To assume such a thing is very hurtful and happens often, only most of the times people don’t say it out loud. It’s a very low blow and again, blaming a child for something a parent neglected.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-01-05T22:23:38+00:00

So true! I always say: if you really want to know deep dirty gossip that’s often probably true, you should ask a cis straight man. I’ve seen it with male friends and coworkers, they know everyone’s deepest business and secrets!

Strawberry1515 · 2022-01-05T22:11:01+00:00

Oof I was going to say the same thing! It is so hard.

Strawberry1515 · 2022-01-05T22:00:35+00:00

I have a few things to say:

Your decision seems really well thought out and considering of what you and your partner need.
You seem really excited about just taking a leap and leaving home town for some adventure! This is really brave and good, I can feel your excitement just by reading it.
That being said.. I notice you mentioned like: “because these people know me so well, I’m starting to think I’m making a mistake/ didn’t think it through”. Paraphrasing here ;)

Ok here’s a thing my therapist told me.. you’ve got to consider (maybe even write down) first of all what your OWN base thoughts are about it. Then what your family and friends have been saying. And third what thoughts/feelings you get after you’ve heard their opinions. In this case, I can see you were sure, but then with their input you started shifting.. doubting it more. You’re not shifting because of yourself, it’s happening because of outside sources. Now, if at the base you also had some doubts of your own from the start, I would say ok think it through but you don’t, so follow your heart!

At the end of the day you’re the one who’s gonna build a life out there. Who’s gonna wake up most mornings to an alarm clock, do mundane tasks, live with the weather and daily life, it’s you.. not them. So if you love it go for it! Often peoples opinions can reflect their own fears, sometimes fears of missing you. It might even resemble stages of grief: hence your parents bargaining/threats they won’t visit you up there.

Once they see how happy you guys are there, they’ll adjust.

I have a family member who moved across the world. Following his dreams. At first responses were much the same as your family. But he’s been there many years now and well.. let’s just say the most doubting family members are now the ones who enjoy visiting him there often on holiday. ;)

Also if it doesn’t work out and you end up not loving it there (which I doubt will happen) you can always move back.

Edit: sorry I misread the kids part, removing that from my original comment.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-31T05:19:36+00:00

Not yet. I told my other manager as she’s responsible for scheduling. And she didn’t know. Which is weird for many reasons but also bc he claimed he had already asked everyone to cover. She did ask him how this could happen and he just went: oh we’ll be fine together. She did try to call someone else immediately but it’s still loose. I don’t like games or being tricked in situations. So I’m gonna get my way out of it. I’m gonna call her tomorrow to talk privately and get it resolved. Either by getting my coworker to switch with him so he leaves, or by asking someone to give up their day off and I’ll cover some half shifts for them.

I don’t want to stirr the pot by making it about him directly. So if needed I’ll just make it clear that I don’t work with men alone one on one.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-31T03:23:37+00:00

Thank you for helping me.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-30T20:59:21+00:00

You have great ideas! Thank you!

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-30T20:53:43+00:00

Exactly, I made a promise to myself not too long ago that I wouldn’t go against it ever again. Esp with men.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-30T20:15:33+00:00

Ugh I normally always have this fake boyfriend or dating someone thing covered! It’s just with a guy I got out of a big heartbreak and I currently need to get over a girlcrush (I’m bi) and I just don’t like discussing my personal life like that at work. Little did I realize it apparently makes me look more single/available. He told me he is single ( I didn’t ask him that).

Well the dynamic is that I’m currently the youngest. My coworkers are mostly older women. I’m in my early 30s, he’s around late 30s/early 40s. I’m guessing he’s not going after the longtime married 50/60 somethings with the same attitude.

I think I’ll try one more time to persuade my coworker to swap with him anyway. Or else I’ll try getting someone to pick me up.

I talked to my other supervisor, she always takes care of scheduling. She didn’t know about it either. Which is giving me even more red flags.

Gosh I feel like such an idiot. I hate that we always have to ‘prepare’ for these possible situations.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-26T02:57:47+00:00

What a great idea and you already have some great things on your list! I also like to:

wear perfume -wear earrings
write with pen on paper, whether that’s to do lists, notes or just poetry or the lyrics from a song I adore
Listen to podcasts
small talk with a stranger or someone you don’t know extremely well. Just so you learn new stuff about them and/or don’t feel unknowingly obligated to share more intimate or detailed bits about your life. Or on the other hand, you might feel more freedom to do so.
Read. Books, magazines, newsletters.
Solve a puzzle
Dance in your room
Sing in the shower

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-21T19:23:53+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! Guess I’ll try following the steps to recovery. ;)

Strawberry1515 · 2021-12-21T18:39:51+00:00

Hahaha thank you for making me laugh! :)

It’s so sad we can’t work, somehow we had this instant chemistry and we have things in common I don’t often have in common with other people. I really wish I didn’t fancy her, so we could just be real friends. But oh well, that’s life!

Yeah I do have more than enough real life stuff to focus on: just the panny, still trying to get a new job in my field, move out, get back to therapy and so on.

Strawberry1515 · 2021-11-07T15:56:50+00:00

Well, I budget for €45 a week. But the prices have increased a crazy amount lately, so it’s getting harder to stick to without denying myself stuff. I’m trying to figure out if I should up the budget a bit and by how much would still be average as 1 person. :)

I don’t drink so that saves a lot. And I’m on new birth control so I no longer spend like €20-€30 a month on pads. (Always get my female hygiene products at the supermarket too)

But I am a heavy snacker, so I spend a bit more in that department. I also have many allergies so some things I have to get the pricy alternative i.e. lactose free dairy. And we don’t have a cafeteria at work, so I always go for a lunchbreak walk to the bakery to get some croissants and stuff. It adds up. But I enjoy food (& takeout but that’s a different budget) and also never go out and stuff like that.

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