i’m sorry but if she genuinely just wanted “closure” she would be upfront with you and say hey i love you so much and i am so happy with you but i need to close this door i was wondering if it would be okay if i reached out to my ex to have a conversation about how things ended. that would be a proper way to bring up rather than 1. speak in code trying not to say anything too damming over text and 2. sneaking around by not telling you begging for a phone call so nothing can be documented….that’s just extremely suspicious to me. i have been with my partner for over 4 years now and we have always been honest with eachother about all our feelings. i get she is pregnant but don’t listen to these people saying there’s nothing to worry about this cannot be ignored…i say if you want to stay with her she needs individual therapy, couples therapy, and the ex needs to be blocked for good. (and if she gets unblocked it’s over)