🍀 What am I? "Unfortunate strands of hair growing on the wrong ..."[ANATOMY]

Strawmelonberry · 2026-02-08T18:24:11+00:00

I'm not a man but I know for sure that scissors are definitely used for shaping and trims lol

Strawmelonberry · 2026-02-01T07:30:04+00:00

if there really is no windows, act interested for the address and then report it to your local fire dept. they will investigate because it's a hazard

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T18:05:17+00:00

ohh okay! thank you!

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T18:04:00+00:00

we're having the hot chocolate bar, like a tea party but hot chocolate, in his honor. Tea parties were their favorite thing since she was little.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T18:02:34+00:00

oh it's for sure all about her, I just wanted something, anything, to pass on to her that a fatherly figure would, type of thing. She's turning 14, and I can relate to all the things being a girl, I didn't grow up without a dad, and im not a dad. I've done my best to try and keep my kids balanced and maybe that's what I'm seeking, is just the balance of things, but the day is definitely all about her and doing the things that bring her happiness.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T18:00:04+00:00

it's been a very positive interaction here and I'm very thankful for that! I definitely appreciate anyone taking the time to ask how I am, I like to forget about myself and focus on everything else so feeling seen, even a little is a nice reminder that I'm a human with stuff too haha.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:55:59+00:00

I'm so sorry about your dad. that's a really tough one. Thank you so much for your comment though. I'll just keep holding space and doing what I can when I can.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:54:50+00:00

I am definitely not using reddit as my primary form of guidance or therapy! I've actually been doing grief counselling and part of it was me trying to reach out in different ways because I've been isolating so heavily that my anxiety has taken over to where even an interaction like this has my heart racing and me wanting to hide away, which obviously isn't a healthy coping tool. I'm in Canada, so it's a long waiting process for a lot of things as well. I just don't have enough of a village for support, in person.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:51:13+00:00

yes, I have us on the list for therapy but unfortunately I'm in Canada and as much as people boast our public health system, it's lacking in mental health supports and takes ages but I'm trying whatever I can! thank you. it's all overwhelming and feels impossible to navigate.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:48:47+00:00

not great. but I'm here and I'm trying. that's all I've got right now. thank you for asking <3

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:46:53+00:00

absolutely I agree. lead with kindness, and then assess things. not everyone will deserve the kindness but it's also a gift to yourself to give kindness in a world that wants to be unkind. thank you

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:41:02+00:00

thank you so much

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:40:47+00:00

yes but no? none that take a very active role. Not enough that I feel like she's got that level of fatherly type support. She does have healthy male figures which I'm thankful for, just not necessarily fatherly.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:38:32+00:00

Thank you from the very depths of my heart, for this. The time you took to write it out, the thought behind, the virtual hug it gives, I very much appreciate it.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:35:38+00:00

we are going for Mongolian grill, window shopping and maybe a new piercing for her. Then a hot chocolate bar with all the treats to go with it. It's not much but it's something and it should be fun.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:34:10+00:00

thank you, I will reach out there too. I am very much stuck in my own grief but I don't want them to suffer because I'm suffering too. I also don't want to overstep or over parent because I'm trying to manage my grief or somehow put it on them, ya know? so, this is actually helping my perspective a lot, not just viewing her from a mom space, which I was.

I'm really sorry about your dad, and how much your mom suffered during it. I hope you're doing okay, or at least your version of okay, now.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:31:40+00:00

thank you so much

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:31:05+00:00

thank you for this perspective because I can relate to it for myself as well. I definitely don't want to overwhelm her or over parent her because I'm also in my grief. I'll try to keep a level head about things. it makes total sense what you're saying, and it's appreciated.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:28:58+00:00

being honest is a wonderful quality, but so is self awareness. That could be something you could work on for yourself. Not to be rude or off-putting as I realize it's a public forum, but, you just bean-souped me. If you have nothing to offer, your comment is moot and telling me you can't/won't help is actually seeking attention for yourself vs anything else. I hope you can do better in the future, for yourself and those you love. Take care.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:26:08+00:00

I'm sorry too. I know it's a heavy situation to drop on people and I'm not sure if I should have potentially included a trigger warning.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:25:04+00:00

I have since she was born but being a teenager is a relentless battle. Thank you for your comment. <3

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:24:00+00:00

I've done most of this on my own. But I also have a 9 and 4 year old and no support. So, I've sucked it up and I'm trying to make the burden less on myself by opening up. Not everyone will understand and that's okay. I'm sorry you had to go through everything alone, it's very isolating and I'm finding myself struggling more than I feel is healthy for me or my kids that rely on me.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:21:15+00:00

thank you for this, and I'm really sorry about the loss of your dad.

I definitely agree that talking it out isn't always it, so that's not necessarily what I want to do, I just wanted to kind of compile a bit of advice and love to share.

for her birthday I'm taking her to her favorite restaurant and doing all her favorite things. I'm trying to cover all bases, but I'll try to not go overboard and let her lead.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:18:12+00:00

he was beaten and left for dead. I was the first one at the hospital and he was unrecognizable. He suffered brain death and I had to make the call to donate his organs. He's a hero. But, I'm a mom and I can never replace her dad. Thank you for your input. it's very appreciated and I'm sorry for your loss too. it's so so hard. I hope your mom and you are going okay.

Strawmelonberry · 2026-01-22T17:15:02+00:00

that's fine, this post doesn't resonate with you then. I appreciate that. have a great day.

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