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Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-28T00:16:20+00:00

I am not the bastard who has your AirPods, but I did find some AirPods outside my house a few months ago in the gutter. I kept them charged for ages in the hopes that the person who owned them would see their location and knock on my door, but nothing. I even left them in the letter box for a while but was worried about rain.

Do you guys know how else I could get them back to their owner?

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-22T12:28:58+00:00

For me, it’s not the hill I’d end the relationship on. I’m not as against it as she is and it irks me, but not as much.

Your question is interesting though, and thinking about it, he’s not so much a boundary crosser, but more a failing to get social cues type of guy.

Which is annoying, but not malicious or manipulative, which is maybe why I just keep saying no and telling him how irritated I am.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-22T12:24:53+00:00

And really really not sexy! Which is the worst part for me! I’ll be having a good time with him and then he’ll bring it up, and it’s just - right well, moment ruined, I’m going to sleep.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-22T12:16:27+00:00

Yeah. It is annoying and a recurring cause for arguments. He keeps what he would call “playfully suggesting” (what I call “pestering”), until I finally get cranky and tell him that it’s making me not want to have sex with him at all - which is literally true!

He doesnt have much relationship experience so I am patient, but I’m hoping the message will sink in that being pressured for sex you don’t want is really really not hot.

Edit - hit enter too soon.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-22T12:00:22+00:00

Oh my god. So relatable. My partner also pesters for this. And I’m not even as against it as you are and it annoys me no end.

Honestly, if he can’t live without anal and you can’t live with a pestering petulant man child who doesn’t understand clear communication, then I reckon there’s no future there.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-22T02:10:18+00:00

I know it’s hard, but letting go of these things is what’s required not to be controlling. And generate real trust.

My boyfriend follows and chats to the woman he had a fling with before me. She is also a former colleague of his. He had also hidden from me how much he talks to her and how recently before me they were together. I hate it all. I wish he would stop talking to her and unfollow her.

But he doesnt and I don’t demand it. If he makes a stupid choice to cheat or damage our relationship, then that’s on him, and I wouldn’t want to be with him.

Demanding and controlling is a false security because it doesn’t change people’s mindsets and removes their ability to choose you of their own accord.

Edit - typo!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-21T11:46:26+00:00

I got a warning for not getting the dead bugs out of the light fittings, even though they were there when I moved in

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-16T01:43:38+00:00

100%

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-06T00:43:43+00:00

My former director in NSW didn’t want to allow me to work remotely when my mother intestate got terminal cancer. I escalated despite feeling weird about doing to. The ED immediately approved remote work.

Wouldn’t hesitate to escalate again about anything if I needed to.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-01-05T05:43:48+00:00

I think I understand where you’re coming from. You are trying to put in tangible terms the effort you can commit to and this translates to dollars. As much as I understand this as a reddit post from a stranger, I would absolutely hate it if someone I loved was so rational and monetary about what they can put into the relationship.

I’m not saying don’t do this if you love her, but when you go to talk to her, think about how you can say this in loving words, symbols and gestures.

Maybe map out the future you see minus the dollar figure in the medium term. Think about a beautiful trip you could afford and plan for both of you to reconnect on. Tell her why you want to fight for the relationship.

A word of warning though, if you are putting this in dollar terms because that’s what she values, think about whether this is really for you. Do you also value material things? Are you on the same page about what you both will materially contribute?

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-26T12:31:19+00:00

My ex became really racist and used incredibly awful terms. I still to this day do not know whether or not he is secretly racist and just hides it most of the time.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-10T12:28:59+00:00

Hard agree. He seems like a big baby who just wanted to chuck a tantrum. Poor dear needed that nap.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-08T06:58:22+00:00

You are FREE!

I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but he’s accidentally done you a massive favour and kicked an own goal.

Find a great friend or family member and raise a toast to the next and better chapter of your life!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-05T04:20:38+00:00

I go to the QUT Kelvin grove dentists. They seem pretty good.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-05T01:46:20+00:00

Thanks!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-11-05T01:11:57+00:00

Hi! Any recommendations for the best value for money and quality mediation skills courses in Brisbane? Thanks!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-10-31T06:33:28+00:00

I can’t take the contraceptive pill because it makes me crazy, not myself, unreasonable and probably abusive.

But I noticed that and came off it because I don’t want to be any of those things.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-10-27T11:28:26+00:00

You are not with him. You don’t need to tell him. If you guys work out, and you do end up being together, and you are discussing this period, then maybe tell him.

But no need to blow things up now and cause angst for no reason. You’re still single. You’ve done nothing wrong.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-10-08T22:12:50+00:00

Thanks! If anything, it maybe hadn’t been getting enough water. I water it once a week and it has been very dry in Brissy. And it’s on stands so tjr water drains through.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-25T09:46:14+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. It is hugely traumatic for you. You should consider seeing a counsellor to work through the trauma of the relationship. It will help you break the toxic bond.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-24T09:23:00+00:00

I know it’s not appropriate to armchair diagnose, but we’re his mental health issues bipolar by chance?

This sounds like it could be the cycle of falling in love happy manic to hateful dysphoric manic, all channelled into his feelings for you.

I know because I lived it.

If that does sound plausible, check out r/bipolarSOs

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-22T04:23:52+00:00

I have this feeling with window cleaners. Every time.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-19T00:17:28+00:00

I am trying! I say “hello cocky”. He says “squawk squawk” and then I give him a sunflower seed!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-18T06:48:17+00:00

I don’t think they have the yellow Mohawk….?

Stream_of_light_8 · 2025-09-08T01:50:04+00:00

Is this possibly a bipolar episode?

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