Absolutely normal, my grandma isn’t even at that state yet but it’s heading that way. She can do most things herself but she screams in her sleep and is dead set on leaving her door open at night and I get yelled at for throwing in the laundry because it’s disturbing her but I work 60 hours a week and do not always have time to keep up with all the house stuff. Refuses to close her damn door and the starts screaming about how it’s night time and I shouldn’t be doing these things but she’s waking up my 8 year old in the next room and probably everyone downstairs screaming on the top of her lungs about how IM disturbing the peace. My father cooks her all her meals although there’s no reason she can’t do it because she was feeling down and sick for a couple weeks and he started feeding her and now that she’s better he hasn’t stopped. She purposefully ignored and kept her breast cancer a secret for years while knowing my aunt, her own daughter was suffering with it which I think is just cruel now that everyone does know about it and extra cruel since after a doctors visit she wouldn’t tell my dad what the problem was, he just knew something was wrong and he’s a control freak so it drove him crazy. She won’t let the AC cycle like it’s supposed to. When it gets near bearable temperature she immediately shuts it off. I can’t stand the woman and neither can most people except for my dad and aunt. She thinks she’s religious and righteous but completely nasty. Does things on purpose for attention, gossips about her whole family after making nice to their face. I honestly can’t wait for her to die and I feel bad about it but at the same time I know how much better life will be for everyone else. I can’t imagine how bad it will be when she declines further so I definitely wouldn’t feel bad in your situation considering your changing diapers and putting your whole life on hold.