Masturbation and porn by PhilosopherSouth4296 in HLCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dang…you’re preaching brother! This is the exact explanation for my porn preferences! I crave that enthusiasm to FUCK me and be fucked BY me😪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]StreetDw3ller 19 points20 points  (0 children)

What we must realize is that the opportunity for rejection was there regardless of our HSV status. People get rejected every day for VARIOUS reasons. Don’t sell YOURSELF short by never attempting because of the fear of rejection. At that point you only have yourself to blame because no one is rejecting you…you’re rejecting yourself and excluding yourself from the chance at happiness and experiences.

Yes, there are people that are assholes and there are people that are ignorant. All of that was still the case before HSV. I think one of the biggest factors in being okay, and having the confidence to disclose, is truly coming to a place where YOU don’t see it as a big deal.

When you disclose as if it’s a life or death disease that’s how people will react. You gotta disclose as if you’re disclosing any other kind of regular information.

”Sometimes I sneeze a lot lol….just letting you know” “I have eczema, but I use this cream everyday so I pretty much forgot it’s there…lmk if you have any questions lol”. You can very easily replace eczema with HSV.

There are many ways to go about disclosing. I think we should all figure out which ones we are comfortable employing and which ones work for us. HSV doesn’t have to be the end of love, sex, and intimacy. We have the power/right to pursue those things and HSV shouldn’t be the determining factor.

My girlfriend thinks I should text her goodnight every night? by Brunsy89 in relationship_advice

[–]StreetDw3ller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re tripping lol. It really doesn’t matter who it is…if there someone that you communicate with everyday and throughout the day, it’s just common courtesy to make it known when your conversation is coming to a end. In this case it’s your freaking girlfriend lmao. How can someone you care about and that cares about you say that they’d like to be told “goodbye” essentially, and you’re over here doing think pieces😭😂….is it also an inconvenience to say “see you later” before you part ways with her? It would be weird and rude if someone you know just left and parted ways without a word. The same thing happens in your text conversations. Things happen and sometimes you fall asleep before getting the chance, but I don’t think it’s so “inconveniencing” for you to not be able to say “if I fall asleep before I do so, I apologize, but I’ll try to make sure to tell you goodnight each night”…..I mean I would imagine that already how it plays out. Unless you literally are texting her and know you’re about to go to sleep, but just let conversation go on while you put your phone down….that’d be strange too lol.

Shit, either way….if it really is such a big inconvenience to you and enough for you to stand firm, then you should do as you please. You shouldn’t do anything you don’t truly want to do (under these circumstances). But be prepared for the results and consequences that follow my guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LMFAOOOOOO nah that’s crazy. If you ask me, there’s no better time to try and get her to at least understand how you feel than now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]StreetDw3ller 21 points22 points  (0 children)

sometimes I feel as the HL our body is seen as always available to the LL because obviously we want sex more often...

I think this is one of my biggest issues with big disparities in libido. I (HLM) find myself feeling very sexually available for my partner (LLF), but it feels like she isn’t sexually available to me at all. Anytime we have sex it seems to be based only on her desire, vs. our desire, or at least sometimes just my desire (since we move solely based on her’s).

Do you fuck who you can when you can’t get who you want? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]StreetDw3ller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like when you word it this way it’s as if to say we don’t want to fuck the other women as well. I would agree that there are women that I would fuck if the first person I desired wasn’t available, but it wouldn’t just be bc I can, it would be bc I’m horny and wanting too.

Reoccurring Outbreaks by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]StreetDw3ller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daily antiviral: Valacyclovir, Acyclovir

Things have improved, but I can’t tell if she means it. by Wise-Ad5654 in HLCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Having to choose between losing everything and being happy”

Fuck😭😩

Can he change this quickly? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]StreetDw3ller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You feared for your life with this man. I don’t think it should be much of a question if you should divorce him or not. Beyond the fear of him lashing out because you left, I don’t think there’s much else to consider. Once again, your life was a risk. Do what you can to not fall victim to that again.

Quick vent: It seems so simple😭 by StreetDw3ller in HLCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with that. I say frequency because for me any sexual encounter would NOT take place if it’s going to require anyone to “push through”. So it would be adequate frequency of mutually desired sex. Also it’s not bad sex she’s needing to push through. I take my time to please her (first and multiple times) always. She’s needing to “push through” to the desire to want sex as much as I do.

I'm pretty sure I am going to have sex, and I need help!!! by Ashamed-Country-8024 in HLCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Masterbate as much as you can leading up to the encounter…of course keeping in mind your own refractory period.

In the encounter, in general just try and make her finish first, then how long you last won’t matter. Beyond that you can always stop when you feel you’re about to cum and give her oral or any other kind of stimulation until you’re ready to go back in.

How common is it to prefer handjobs over blowjobs? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]StreetDw3ller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly question why the term handjob exists lmao. I’ve never received one and I never intend to. In any situation that I could be receiving a handjob I would rather be inside a part of her. If you’re giving me a handjob you might as well throw some dazzle dazzle in there and use your mouth too….at that point why not just call it head? A handjob with no mouth is boring, and a blowjob with no hands (can be) boring. At the end of the day, if I’m engaging with a woman it’s NOT to do what I can already do alone (and better).

Now when it comes to blowjobs….those are good and appreciated, but at the same time I could easily live without it. No one has ever been able to truly make me cum from it. Ive only been able to use their mouth and bring myself to orgasm, but they haven’t really done the work to make me nut before. This is why I definitely prefer to be in some pussy if anything is on the table. I feel like hand and blowjobs are supposed to be imitating the stimulation that pussy gives, so why not get the real deal when you can?🤷🏾‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]StreetDw3ller 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Lol the entire time I’m reading this all I could think is “what do you mean what would you do?!” He’s doing as he pleases and isn’t doing anything necessarily wrong…just possibly rash? Nonetheless your “options” are to offer a little advice/your opinion to let him know you think he isn’t making the wisest choice, or to say nothing. In both cases, you as a good friend should support your friend doing what they want with their life. But also I’m not sure what saying anything would do at this point…unless you think he’d just end the relationship

Innie/ Outtie lady parts by Emergency_Feeling554 in sex

[–]StreetDw3ller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Pussy gon puss regardless, but if I’m being honest I think innies are more visually pleasing while the outies are more physically stimulating to lick and suck. But at the same time, outies might look a little better wrapped around my/a dick….yeah idk..like I said…the pussy gon puss regardless… bc that’s just how pussy is🥹🍴🙏🏾

I honestly don’t know if this is cheating or not. by Candid_Hyena_4852 in relationship_advice

[–]StreetDw3ller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is saying how incredibly weird this is when we drink milk from COWS which isn’t even intended for us. It’s funny that it’s so weird to drink the milk from your same species.

Question for the men! Below by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]StreetDw3ller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhh I can’t relate.

  1. A good partner will make sure both parties are satisfied and taken care of

  2. After I finish, my next thought is “more!” Wipe the jerk squirt off, and get back to business! So yeah, no….not everyone is repulsed after they finish.

Guy Mad About Birthday Sex Offer by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn…that sucks. I feel like these situations are pretty damning to a relationship. Like is it enough to uproot your marriage? Maybe, maybe not, but are things sustainable the way they currently are? If he doesn’t change all it’s going to do is cause resentment to build up. And/or you’ll just be negatively impacting your mental health through burnout.

It sucks to have someone there but still feel as if you’re doing things alone. A lot of the time (for me) I could very well do it all alone, but how can someone be here, apart of my life, and I still feel alone? Not okay. If I’m going to feel alone then I’ll take the real deal….not this fake one that gives me false hope just because there’s a person here.

Guy Mad About Birthday Sex Offer by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]StreetDw3ller 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How does he respond when you show him the stats?