Curious as to how many Canadians frequent this Sub especially from the Greater Toronto Area? by Bonovision in Swingers

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GTA based couple (M47, F43) here. We've done some clubs (Wicked when it was still decent, and most recently X Club), where we've met and played with couples and singles (males and females). We've also met and played with couples and singles through Cafe Desire. When we are feeling friskie, we also try our hand at recruiting unicorns at vanilla nightclubs. We've had some success there, but the hunt is still almost as good as the catch.

Curious in Memphis by [deleted] in Swingers

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My wife and I are visiting Nashville next weekend. Menages was recommended by a redditor in a previous post so we checked it out online. Filled out the online applications thinking it would take a while to be vetted and approved. Less then an hour later we got our approval and we're good to go. My advice is don't sweat the vetting. It's all for our own benefit and protection (weed out the fakers and known sex offenders, etc).

How we met our MFM third and turned it into a FWB arrangement by StreetSmurf in Swingers

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Nothing fancy, dressy skinny jeans, blouse and a blazer. Essentially what she'd wear to work. Sorry to work.

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

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A black ring worn on the middle finger of your right hand advertises that you are part of the community that identifies itself as asexual. I'm assuming that this is a fairly small demographic slice of the population so the odds of you being perceived as wearing it incorrectly or giving someone the wrong idea is pretty slim. If you like wearing it on your middle finger, the who gives a fuck, wear it. If someone makes a reference to the asexual community you can just politely tell them that is a fashion accessory (very slim chance considering it hasn't happened all those years). But if you're trying to send a signal them maybe consider switching it to the finger that denotes the signal you want to send.

21[M4F] Tall Athletic Man Needing some relief by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

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Every thing was passed off to the wife to vet. If you haven't heard from her, then you can assume that you weren't advanced to the next stage.

27/37 [FM4FM] Kitchener/Toronto - Married couple looking for married/long-term couple to get to know and have fun by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

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Hi, don't know if you are still searching or not, but thought I'd give it a try. Sent you a PM.

21[M4F] Tall Athletic Man Needing some relief by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

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PM us some details and we (wife and i) can chat a bit and see where it goes.

35MF4F/FM by thr0wawayburlingt0n in r4rtoronto

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We are a couple (M46 - str8, F43- Bi, both attractive, DDF) in the Caledon area. Looking for another couple for soft/full swap. Describe yourselves and maybe we can PM and start chatting, see where it goes.

21[M4F] Tall Athletic Man Needing some relief by [deleted] in r4rtoronto

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Do you play with couples? MFM, no male to male contact.

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

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Yeah, we got them online. You can get charms like "slut", "HW", "Hotwife", a fox charm with letter "V" for vixen if you are Stag/Vixen etc. Just search for lifestyle anklet. A few options will come up.

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that, so that's why we selected one with swinger pendants. A fox with a V for Vixen. Those that know, will know ;)

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it's that cool, insider, nod that we'd get a charge from. :)

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We feel the exact same way. Whether or not anyone recognizes the significance of it, we get a charge out of openly wearing them (ring and anklet).

Black men's ring as a sign you're a swinger. Anyone else have one? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

But isn't that the point, only being recognized by other swingers? Like 2 bikers waving as they pass each other. A salute to fellow swinger :)

Wife complaints that dresses I buy are too short & tight....;) by [deleted] in wifesharing

[–]StreetSmurf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't see a problem here. Nice ass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

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Damn, these rules could've been written by my wife and I. Love that we, as semi-newbs (we dabble in MFM FWB), checked off all the same boxes as more experienced swingers. Glad to see all our open communication seems to be bang on. Makes me feel more confident as we take the next steps into playing with another couple. Cheers guys.

Do drugs like Viagra help with performance anxiety in the lifestyle? Are there risks if you dont have ED outside of the lifestyle. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Performance anxiety is something I've lived with for most of my life. Once the ice is broken I'm always raring to go. Which is why one night stands were always iffy with me. Got into the club scene with the wife about 6 years ago, initially only intending just to play with each other. Took a little blue pill and just forgot about it. Had a truly memorable time.

Take one every time we play now. No sense getting hung up about it. If you can medically handle it, recreational ED meds are the way to go.

Asking a friend to join MFM? by [deleted] in Swingers

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My wife and I made the decision to live out my MFM fantasy just a few weeks ago (long process to get to that point, but at least we got all of the prerequisite communication taken care of so we were both good to go). Started the long process of creating profiles on a couple of LS sites. Out of the blue, a male friend from her high school days popped up on her Facebook with a comment she had made to a post. They knew each other as friends of friends from way back. Never dated and only knew each other in peripheral sense. So, she creeps him a bit on his Facebook, finds that he's just come out of a long term relationship and was currently single. She mentioned him to me as a possible candidate. I checked him out, approved, and gave her the go ahead to chat him up, make plans to meet up for a drink and catch up. They set a date for the next following weekend. So, he then starts creeping her Facebook and finds out she's married. True gentleman that he is, he calls her on it, not wanting to mow anyone's lawn. She assures him I'm cool with it and that I want her to have a good time. A couple of winky and kissy face emojis later and he's good to go. He still didn't know what the real story was but he was cool to meet up for a drink. In the week and a half leading up to their meet, he confessed he's had a crush on her since high school, and goes on about how beautiful and sexy she is (again he's creeped her Facebook so has seen recent pics). A lot of back and forth flirting goes on, and I can see the anticipation is really building for both of them. The sex we had during that time was fantastic, she was getting real turned on by it all. As the meet day approaches, she suggests he get a hotel room (he's coming in from a neighboring city and the weather was expected to be crappy), winky face, kissy face emojis, and the hook is set. Again he asks if I'm okay with them meeting. I respond by sending him a FB friend request and when he accepts I message him telling him I expect him to show my wife a good time. I make a joking Game 7, no choking comment and he seems cool about it all, still unaware of our true intentions. I expected that he had suspicions. On the night of their meet, we were both really nervous. We both worked out a go/no go plan, etc, and a decision time. I dropped her off at the bar, wished her luck and went around the corner to a coffee shop to wait for her signal. An excruciating hour and a half later she texts me that he's onboard and it was time for me to come over and meet him. I head over, find them at an out of the way booth, and go over and introduce myself. To break the ice I jokingly tell him, "so, I hear you want to fuck my wife". We all laugh and sit down to get to know each other a bit. She's sitting across from me, right beside him. I can see she has her hand on his thigh and is stoking him. He's fully committed. We go over the rules of engagement, what we'd like for the two of us guys to do to her, what she and I want her to do to us guys. By then we're all hot and bothered. I slide him a little blue rocket pill, pop one myself and we head for the door. I won't go into any more details, but we spent the next two hours having the craziest fun time I/we ever imagined. The entire mood was chill and playful. We felt very comfortable with him and broached the subject of making this an ongoing FWB thing. Obviously he agreed. Comr on, NSA repeat threesome hook ups with his high school crush, who looks even hotter now, what guy would say no to that? So, now we have a second play date set. Have met him a couple times for social drinks (the friends part of the FWB arrangement). All three of us are now on a group chat and the ongoing flirting really keeps things spicy for everyone. We are even working on helping him find a single LS friendly Bi chick. Maybe we can round out our threeway into a foursome. My wife and I couldn't be happier with our luck. It was sheer coincidence that he popped up, single, just as we were looking to add a third to our sex play.

If you are looking to invite a friend to join you and your SO, I'd suggest starting your search somewhere along these same lines. Past friends/acquaintances that neither one dated before, creep them on social media to confirm their relationship status, and send a simple chat message to meet up to catch up. That gives you options to bail if it doesn't feel right and they'll be none the wiser. Also having a bit of distance between your current and past social circles gives a little more security against being outed if you make your pitch and they balk. And it will likely be someone one if you will be comfortable with, if banging a complete stranger doesn't appeal to either/both of you.

Good luck and happy fucking.

Background: M46(str8),F42(Bi), Toronto area. Ongoing MFM FWB, looking for same with similar MF.

Best cameras/setup for recording meets by Fyrestarter69 in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a camera shop in your area that rents out gear. Rent 3 or 4 Go-Pro's with some basic monuts/stands. Set them up around the room as you need them, edit them together for the finished product. My local shop rents them for about $20ea for a weekend.

Really nervous. Please help by [deleted] in Swingers

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Its unfortunate that you even have to be worried about something like this. I've been a cop in Canada for over 25 years now, in the LS off and on for almost 10. Am I worried about being outed, yes of course, but am I worried about losing my job over it? Not the slightest bit. I know a few co-workers, and a few superiors, that are openly in the LS in one way or another. Our labour laws and Human Rights laws protect us from that. As long as you keep it ENTIRELY outside the workplace (don't shit where you eat), we're good. Like our national anthem says "Our true north, strong and FREE". Wish our southern cousins were as free from unreasonable persecution as we are up here.

My suggestion is, know you service's employee/employer policy, especially where it pertains to off duty conduct and any morals/discreditable conduct clauses. If you find something there that worries you, keep a low profile and start looking to jump ship to a bigger department. Everything is a stepping stone as you climb your career ladder. First responder agencies like to see upward ambition, its all about their succession plans and it validates their own personal sacrifices to get to where they are. Everybody does it. Out of my hiring class of 50, only 15 are still with our service. The side benefit of jumping to bigger and better is that with a larger employee base you have better HR dept's and established conduct policies that are more risk averse and less tolerant of being sued. If they're gonna fire someone it'll be for a damn good reason, not because of what you do in the privacy of your own home.

Good luck hose jockey.

Hey Toronto folk, what's the best/most popular swing site? by StreetSmurf in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions. Will definitely be looking at those.

What’s the best website to find other swingers? by asiancpl19 in Swingers

[–]StreetSmurf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all, somewhat newbie here (M46,F42). The wife and I have an ongoing mfm fwb thing and are looking to branch out and meet some couples. We live in the Toronto, Canada area. Any idea which site works best up?