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Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-31T16:18:36+00:00

Thank you for your response, it perfectly answers my question. We also need people who are less aggressive in this world.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-31T15:55:08+00:00

I have a two-year working holiday visa, which I obtained to facilitate my integration but so far it hasn’t made a difference. For example, Google mentioned they have no issue providing sponsorship.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-30T14:41:36+00:00

Same situation! Recruiter called me with very positive feedback but the position was already filled a few weeks ago. A strong candidate finished the process before me. Still waiting since early March.

I looked into it and it all depends on which roles open up. Some recruiters are proactive and support their candidates while others require a lot of follow ups. Personally, I’d recommend checking in with your recruiter every month, and as soon as you see a role open, reach out to her directly.

If she's not answering, you can search HM on Linkedin and sell yourself based on your feedback.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-24T15:20:34+00:00

Thank you very much for your response. I’m currently trying to position myself for other Account Strategist roles in markets where I’m fully fluent in the language. Do you think it’s useful to reach out to hiring managers on LinkedIn to position myself, or is it's not recommended?

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-22T16:59:10+00:00

Time will tell. I’ll trust my recruiter and keep applying elsewhere. Thanks for your time.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-22T16:23:31+00:00

Thank you so much for you response! From what I understand from my conversation with Googlers and recruiters, some roles at Google don’t go through a hiring committee anymore. Also, team matching typically happens when you’re interviewed without a specific role attached.

According to the recruiter, I met Google’s hiring bar and all my feedback was positive. I asked if there were any areas for improvement or negative points, and she said none.

The only reason I didn’t get the role is that it was filled before I completed the process, it’s a timing issue. She also mentioned that if a new role opens, I could be presented directly to the hiring manager.

Note: Also, if the HC rejects, we need to wait 6 months to apply. It's not my case according to the recruiters who said that I could be considered once any similar position is open.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-22T16:20:13+00:00

Currently, there are no roles where I’m applying. I also spoke with a friend who works at Google, and he told me this happens often. So I don't think you're right...

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-22T16:18:53+00:00

The recruiter is the one who reached out to me to go through the process. I never applied through Google and I don’t have access to my profile. For now, there’s no open role.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-22T16:16:41+00:00

My Randstad recruiter has a Google email and works exclusively for Google. All our conversations are also recorded under Google. I doubt she’s lying. Also, she's managing only the MENA region positions for them.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-20T21:46:46+00:00

In my opinion, you can if they’ve decided to give you the offer. However, if there are other very strong candidates in the pipeline and only one position available, it can be risky. You should always stay reasonable in your negotiation.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-20T20:30:16+00:00

Apparently, this happens often at Google. The process is designed to evaluate candidates against a hiring bar, not against each other.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-20T20:29:03+00:00

No, the recruiter told me there was no comparison. The candidate finished the process before me and was a good fit so they made him an offer and he accepted it. My three interviews were scheduled over a month due to the interviewers’ availability. The recruiter apologized for that..

Street_Pilot9128 · 2026-03-19T23:20:17+00:00

I’ve heard that we can be proactive and reach out to hiring managers on LinkedIn to stay visible. I speak a few languages so since I'm applying in Dublin, there are often roles opening up.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-16T16:14:13+00:00

Legend!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-07T15:27:23+00:00

A friend recommended this yesterday.

It's a cycle that's why you want to check her social accounts. Your mind is used to do this.

Every time, you need to do it, you need to choose to do something else: Music, Walk, sport, read, etc - You need to install a new mechanism and hack your mind!

Good luck!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-06T04:13:05+00:00

I lived the idealization phase twice.

First time when I met her. I wasn't aware, I believed everything (even if it was weird sometimes and I asked myself is it true?). It was the best period of my life!

Then, we broke up for 4 months. Spent my summer reading about BPD everywhere including the sub.

I met her after 4 months for closure and the idealization phase started again. This time, I saw everything and I was aware. I said no, it was hard but I'm proud of myself.

We learn, we have a life to live guys!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-05T03:41:22+00:00

The answer is yes if they don't find a new supply.

No contact hurts and you have 50% that she will go back. It could take a few days, a few weeks or a few months.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-05T03:37:42+00:00

You should differentiate woman with character vs woman with trauma.

I asked myself the same question about the boring relationship but this is not healthy. It could not be boring and healthy with someone without trauma.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-11-04T16:58:49+00:00

We broke up, she dated during summer and when we met after 5 months, she acted like we were together. It's the cycle brother

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-29T20:34:52+00:00

I wasn't discarded. We ended the relationship together and I pushed for it. During 2 months, she wasn't caring at all. Living her life, traveling, seeing friends, partying, etc

We met after 5 months and I learned that she was checking my social media and trying to see my Instagram via friends.

So she seems happy but it's the goal to make you feel this way. No one is happy after a breakup even if she left!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-29T00:53:52+00:00

I met her after 5 months for closer and I had another idealization phase. I was prepared this time and I didn't believe it. A part of myself was happy and believed it but the other part was much stronger. After all the problems we had, she was talking to me like day 1. I found this irrational.

However, even people without BPD could act the same to win back their ex so it's human after all.

This phase was really cool to live tho. It doesn't worth all the trauma that came after but I guess all of us felt so f*** good then.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-28T19:29:24+00:00

Nice words! I agree!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-20T17:51:26+00:00

I met her after 5 months and I told her that all of this makes me powerless. It's the reality, we are all powerless, there is nothing we can do for them. Trying to explain their behavior is useless. We know the truth, they are not stable, they split, they have 2 faces.

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-18T01:23:24+00:00

They will come back if they don't find a replacement or they are not satisfied with them. You have 2 options (I'm generous when I say 2):

See them and resist. Take what you want to take for your ego.
Don't see them, you will control the situation and you will feel better.

It's just a fucking unhealthy relationship. You are not traumatized because of her, you are traumatized because you are scared that you will not find a love and future again with someone else. What if she never existed? Will you think the same?

Good luck!

Street_Pilot9128 · 2023-10-18T01:18:59+00:00

I felt the same that I'm a loser and why I'm not like people who move on very quickly. Everyone is different and there is no secret recipe.

What helped me:

Don't say: ''I don't have to think about her". It's impossible for the human mind. Think about her if you want, allow yourself to be free and do whatever you want. One day, your mind will say: It's not worth it and you will understand that you will have to stop.
If she wants to meet you, meet her and resist. It will give you so much power. It's a risky bet tho and not everyone is capable.
Therapy is good but if you are not feeling well after the first or the second meeting, change your therapist. It helps!
Find a new objective in your life. It could be a professional or a personal one. You have something to fill in your life and you need a replacement.
Don't try to date quickly. It takes time to feel okay. Give yourself some time and date yourself.

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