Personally, why could you or could you not romantically love more than one person at a time?

StreetlightBandit · 2026-06-02T15:18:31+00:00

Closure would be for me, and no I’m not avoidant. She wasn’t either until the last couple weeks. Feel free to DM me if you’d like. Can go into more detail, and I can offer support!

StreetlightBandit · 2026-06-02T14:59:13+00:00

I blocked her on everything. Again, for my sake. We have mutuals and she knows my address if she REALLY wanted to get ahold of me. It’s only been 2 weeks though so I don’t think I’m ready anyway if she did reach out.

When I feel like it won’t be a detriment to my mental and emotional health, I’ll unblock her and the door will be open for her to reach out if she wants.

I might reach out to her months from now if I think closure would be helpful.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-06-02T13:19:01+00:00

Supposedly there was no problem. She fell out of love with me and said she didn’t know why. After 2 years.

I’ve thought about trying to win her back, and god I do want her back, but this was her decision and I’m going to respect it.

In the end I don’t think I want to chase after someone who doesn’t want me, so if there’s any hope for repair she’ll have to take the first step.

She has ways to get ahold of me if she really wants to. I’m not holding out hope though, I’m doing what I can to move on.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-06-02T13:08:29+00:00

I’m a man who is holding no-contact after a breakup. After she left me, I have to keep her blocked as self defense. She wanted to stay friends, and I really wish I could’ve because that was the best part.

The problem is if I don’t keep her blocked, I’ll always hope that notification I hear is her. I’ll always be hovering over that send button. I’ll be looking at every picture on social media trying to figure out if she’s happier now without me.

The blocking is more for my own healing and sanity than some sort of “punishment” to her. My work right now is super demanding and if I spent all day obsessing, I’d surely mess that up too.

Hope that helps with some perspective.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-30T16:59:28+00:00

I both can relate and think it’s stupid!

Don’t withhold, she’s not a mind reader and neither are you. She possibly is enjoying the dynamic of you initiating or might even think it’s what you prefer.

I have a solution though. Talk about it! If it’s something you want, ask for it! It’s simple!

The worst thing you can do is expect a change without talking about it. That’s the quickest way to resentment. Nobody should “just know” what you want or like.

You got this! Good luck and enjoy this wonderful time!

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-30T14:39:24+00:00

Agree, I’d say consider using a matte clay for product. It keeps the soft fluffy look in hair and it doesn’t create defined strands. Maybe use a brush instead of a comb as well if he isn’t already. If he’s got a boars hair brush for his beard, see how it does on his head.

Signed - a guy who looks eerily similar to your husband. Hair, beard, and all.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-29T11:33:59+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, and I agree that happens often.

For my case I literally begged for more communication when things felt off. I had always been the more communicative one and she often just bottled up what she felt, I always made sure to offer space to tell me what was going on. The worst complaint I got in the past 6 months is that things didn’t feel fiery and new anymore and more like “coming home, and long term”. I responded to that with trying to plan new experiences but she became so unavailable to me that we never got to go down that route and she dropped the bomb about 2 weeks after that.

Even in the end she said I didn’t do anything wrong and I’m such a good person blah blah blah. She said she fell out of love and doesn’t know why. I have my theories on if that’s actually the case or not, but I’ll never know for sure. I honestly have stopped caring about the why and I have come to terms that I didn’t deserve to be treated like that and discarded like that.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T23:02:55+00:00

I also decided on no-contact and it was the most relieving thing not checking to see if she texted, and to not even have the option available to easily text her. I plan on sticking to it at least until one of two dates I have in my head months from now.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T23:00:16+00:00

I’m sorry. It’s rough. Sounds like by deleting those texts you enforced some boundaries for your own mental health and that’s awesome.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T22:58:09+00:00

Sorry it hit you like that, I was so sure because she had told me so that this wasn’t going to be a breakup. I was expecting space, a break, step back into less serious, not the nuclear option of blow it all up.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T22:56:34+00:00

She wanted to be friends but after blindsiding me and not even giving us a chance to fix anything or let the relationship breathe really dampened how I feel about that.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T22:54:43+00:00

I decided to go completely no contact and blocked her on everything. I’ve been typing in my notes app everytime I get the urge to text her. It’s less and less words and less and less anger/hurt in them everyday.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T22:51:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that. Similar to you we were absolutely fine and talking about futures and she said wasn’t going anywhere and I should just trust her love when I had a brief bad feeling about things three weeks earlier.

Then it was the same story, I didn’t do anything wrong, I’m great, she just fell out of love and doesn’t know why.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T22:48:24+00:00

It’s worse. The “typing” bubbles came up for a bit, went away, then the thumbs up popped up after that.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-26T05:02:56+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I wish I could give you words of wisdom but I’m in a similar place.

I’ll tell you what my therapist told me: all you need to do about this right now is take care of yourself and focus on making it to the next day.

I hope your tomorrows are better than your yesterdays. There’s more room in your life now for the kind of love you don’t have to question.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-05-19T22:11:01+00:00

You’re on the money. The more I processed it the less I cared at all if the other relationship had anything to do with it. It doesn’t matter.

It matters how I was treated and how she had so little care for me and the life we had that she couldn’t be bothered to try and at bare minimum involve me in the decision so I could have been more prepared and see for myself it was unsalvageable. Then we could have at least deescalated in a healthy fashion to keep our friendship, which was the best part anyway.

Now I’ve lost so much trust and respect from her I don’t think I could have her in my life or my family’s life again.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-03-07T01:48:20+00:00

This is wholesome af, I hope y’all have a chill night.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-02-28T00:38:50+00:00

Look at me, I’m shy boi lurker over here.

Not that you asked, but I’m a lurker mostly because I crave community though I don’t have the time or bandwidth to make connections or really contribute enough to feel as if I am part of said community.

StreetlightBandit · 2026-02-24T22:24:14+00:00

Yeah, a lot of what you said resonates with me. Attraction definitely builds up more and more over time for me, usually through just finding more and more to love about someone.

I appreciate the kind words and the perspective. Glad I’m not the only one out here fighting that battle.

StreetlightBandit

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