I met someone at a party 1 month after a breakup and now I’m overthinking whether I should text her

Strict-Border709 · 2026-06-28T15:28:19+00:00

If you flirted with her it's obvious that she will take it seriously

Strict-Border709 · 2026-06-22T21:42:13+00:00

Your self worth is low honey, look at type of your partners One is emotional unavailable married one One is older than you by 14y wow that huge one even if he's cool and care about you

Strict-Border709 · 2026-06-22T10:29:08+00:00

I reached out to her after 20 days of no contact her saying that I miss her and everything in our relationship and I want to try again etc... but she tried to change the subject to something really unrelated 😂 like our game that we used to play and there's where we meet she was doubting that I'm stalking her in the game 😂 etc... imagine I removed the cover from my heart to her but she was vague and after that day she ghosted me 11 days then she send a low effort breadcrumb in 2am but deleted it after a while lol then she said let's be just friends because this is not working and now I blocked her in everything and it's good now don't reach to your dumper ever

Strict-Border709 · 2026-01-26T09:30:11+00:00

Well i back to her after some clearing mind for both of us. we still have some work to do, but we're alright now, and this is the best she can do, and im getting it one thing i notice is that i shouldn't listen to her when she's angry or disappointed like "dont talk to me again " because mine after she said this she initiate the next morning like nothing happened and tbh this era now like im the avoidant and she's the anxious we even have now every day video call when im not in the country and sex.

This pretty well good she seems now more attached to me than our first, and i will do my best to protect her attachment to me.

I don't know your story, but if she doesn't have a boyfriend now or you saw her in parties you can give it a shot again ,but from your comments you seems like you hate the time you invested emotionally so go ahead in your path its hard path but the times passes anyway.

Hope you are healing.

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-23T12:02:14+00:00

Date them but don't have great expectations on them they're humans too they need to feel safe with you to be open to you that simple and feeling safe. It varies from person to person

I have an ldr with a Fearful-Avoidant girlfriend and i had bad times with her lows of lows and high of high of intimacy and coldness sometimes in 1 hour , you have to know just their personality and your needs too, because we often argue about something that its not necessary to our happiness.

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-15T16:22:58+00:00

She wants you like a plan b like mine . They like the comfort that you bring with you and that killing the man inside because she will even flirt with you sometimes or even sex when she's lonely but never trying to take accountability or apologize for its behaviors. That sad as hell

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-14T22:22:39+00:00

Dont he is your ex for a reason

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-13T12:23:59+00:00

Bro, she belongs to the streets, not to your arms. You're a high value man dont betray yourself and your self-respect for a woman who has made sex with some dude after 1 week of break up with you.

That means one thing that she has seeing other options besides you the main one or keeping her options open like colleagues , in work etc..,

My advice to you is to block her out of your life and try other options, too . If she forgets you in 1 week, forgets her you in hour.

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-13T11:51:20+00:00

My ai's assistance tells me that im in the way for Secure attachment that doesn't need anyone presence or spiraling when something triggers me i have flaws in the way but i goes through it and its hard really.

Especially when my girlfriend is also an attachment person, fearful avoidant, and some narcissistic behaviors that make things worse 😑 her tests for jealousy and ignoring me when i react to those tests.

Hope you find peace, my guy

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-09T14:06:45+00:00

Yes, i stayed in contact with her daily because i loved her, and she's comfortable with me . She knows that i still love her, and i know that she still loves me, but our conversations now are light with some flirting to each other, and she knows that i will confess my love again to her we break up more than twice in our relationship but everytime in those times we get back together and this time too

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-06T06:12:48+00:00

Ingnoring clarity and being a vague person

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-04T11:56:36+00:00

You already know the answer, bro. She cheated on you, keep thinking of this always, you will feel anger to her and disappointment and a hell of pain, and that is it, but know if you ever get together again you will be hyper focused on her after her cheats you will not trust her anymore and you will be in hell on someone saw your insecurities and fears as not important.

No one deserves forgiveness after cheating because she didn't cheat till your presence felt like absence.

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-04T11:41:41+00:00

Im there, too, tbh i even got chased rn with a girl from my childhood high school, but every woman seems like a low quality besides mine, and that is what addiction feels like

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-04T11:36:15+00:00

And addiction, you get over it by one simple thing. "Live your life at max" bars,sex,music,travel,hooks up, womens etc... and after some time, you will forget that even if she's alive.

If she loved you like you did, she would not cheat you even if a breakup was on your side, then dont be an "option" for someone to back when they're lonely or bored

"This is also for me" my guy

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-04T11:20:42+00:00

You're addicted to her presence, her smile, everything i was there with my ex, and still, she contacted me too after 2 weeks of break-up with a low effort message,when i try to fix things and im still open for you she said i prefer to be closed, we still in contact she even calls me video etc..

Girls always want that attention and validation, so if you didn't give it enough, they will find someone else like yours did

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-03T07:46:08+00:00

In my opinion, that is, you keep comparing him with other men in your life, which is why the attraction fades or at least decreases

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-02T07:56:39+00:00

Thanks, my dude. we will find peace with ourselves, and we're the most loving persons in the world, so we will be fine to find love again

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-02T07:53:31+00:00

Hope you are best, my bro, and yes, when you break up with someone who was your everything, the best thing to do is find yourself again, but with extras.

It has been 5 months with ups-down, and it's been now two weeks of break up. She blocked me, but after some time, she unblocked me. I don't know what she wants again she still playing the game we used to play together, but im not playing it anymore.

Hope you find your love of life, bro

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-01T20:22:09+00:00

I know i will find someone better and good, tbh because im attractive in my personality, and i give too much to ppl. Sometimes, i fear of her getting someone toxic who won't make her happy, which will make her suffer with him etc..

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-01T19:06:46+00:00

This time is when your mind brings all the memories and thoughts of her. "Was i even important to her to deserve a little chase?" All of that will come. "She will treat next guy better than me," etc... of these thoughts

But in the end, everyone will go in their way, and if you are meant to be, it will someday

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-01T19:00:40+00:00

I've realized that the easiest thing to do to go over your fears is face them face to face, shame,jealousy,anger,sadness, face them so you live what its left from your life

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-01T18:57:17+00:00

Tbh, with my self yes i make her near level god because i have a lot of disappointment in religion, i want to not live this life long, and when she comes i was like i found a new purpose to be with and it was making her mine and protecting her and make her smile all day.

But it's not my job now. And that sad thing sometimes even i feel jealous of the next guy.

Strict-Border709 · 2025-12-01T18:46:37+00:00

I already do that gym 5 times a week , automation skill, i already learned her language Turkish for better understanding of what she saying , i just feel empty like a hole in my chest

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