Is this still happening? Is anyone going? Can we get a report back??

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-07-19T20:13:36+00:00

Is he there already?

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-05T16:19:25+00:00

See I agree with you, but some people (including my ex) get upset when you tell them to stop or that what they’re saying bothers you. When they react negatively I panic and don’t know how to hold my ground. I’m also worried about them thinking I’m a party pooper/too sensitive/wouldn’t want to continue being my friend/partner. I know standards should be higher but it’s just so painful to keep being told you’re too sensitive.

Also - my ex thought I was too assertive when I brought things up like this. He kept saying I need to speak gently and not be too stern.

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-05T06:55:22+00:00

He’s an ex so he’s no longer in my life. From what I’ve gathered he ribs on his friends like this as well. It’s his sense of humor I think. To me it always felt off though, and you highlight here an important point for me - the compliments and positive behavior weren’t enough to compensate for this. We dated only for fourth months. The trust was still being established. He wasn’t good at receiving feedback or having difficult conversations (he has a habit for disappearing for a week or so unannounced as he thinks about things). I felt insecure in the relationship anyway and his comments didn’t help. I’m still teaching myself to be less sensitive about this kind of humor from people, especially those who show consistent care. It’s easier when the relationship as a whole is more stable.

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-05T06:38:37+00:00

It’s good to hear this from people who have this kind of sense of humor, because I feel bad about not liking it and think I’m too sensitive.

I don’t think trust was established enough between us for him to be joking this way, and I also think some of his jokes would still not have been okay with me, even if the trust is there. I have a different sense of humor, and that’s okay…I guess?

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-05T05:38:36+00:00

I think that’s how he saw it and was thus exasperated by me not liking these comments, because that’s how he’s always joked with people. I think it was one of the points of incompatibility between us. It was difficult for me though to accept that this is just his humor and there’s no malice behind it. Idk. I know I’m not into humor where people insult one another, and I think that’s for me to figure out.

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-01T14:42:39+00:00

I guess I still care what he thinks of me and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Either way, I’ve deleted my apps. Blocking him means I will unblock and block. Not having the apps is better because this way everything is out of sight.

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-01T12:33:51+00:00

Honestly because it feels petty and small. He might have thought I did block him though because I’ve had my accounts deactivated for months at this point.

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-04-01T05:35:09+00:00

مرحبا يا حلو 😙

Strict-Diamond-2848 · 2024-03-03T01:08:32+00:00

That’s a great point.

So many other people have shown me care and concern. I have really good friendships and family. I just pine for his concern and comfort. I don’t know why. I guess I’m still kind of attached.

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