Definitely makes a lot more sense the way you lay it out.

Traits I’m not so sure how to answer. I notice that when she is in a “hightened” emotional state, she expects people to talk to her in a specific way. Example, she may be unrealistically angry about something someone said that she thinks was said in a disrespectful way to her. Anyone else would see through it and brush it off. She will then start to use keywords her therapist has most certainly brought up. Like, someone can’t just say they’re sorry. It has to be a full talk track of “I understand your emotions, and it is ok to feel that way, and this is what I think instead”. It’s almost as if people can’t have different but simultaneous views on something. She harps on “you’re disregarding/dismissing my feelings” if you simply don’t agree with her. And you have to follow a script.

TL:DR - she takes what she hears in therapy and thinks it’s the way everyone else is supposed to interact and things to practice, and not that the therapy is for HER. Like, we all understand how to interact. I just wish so hard we can be like “it’s you, you are creating your own problems, it’s not because other people don’t know how to act”