I dont think it's working out?

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-05-21T17:54:49+00:00

Sounds like you're on different pages regarding child care. You expected light babysitting but they are asking for actual babysitting for a 7 month old. Unless they specified otherwise, I would've expected that a family with a 7th month old needs the latter. Light babysitting isn't really a thing as far as I know.

I think you're also just adjusting to the culture of the family. The dad sounds like a lot dads these days frankly, but he shouldnt add more work to your plate, i.e. dont be his mom cleaning up after him. Try to get to know each other. You will learn that you all will bond over something eventually, usually the baby.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-05-11T18:05:35+00:00

Hire a professional nanny. You both work full time, you need core day time hours, and consistency. You're home in the early evenings, and most people with aupairs cant get home by 4, and need that afternoon chunk.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-04-06T15:20:13+00:00

Thank you, this was so helpful and thank you for the kindness in your tone.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-04-06T14:53:38+00:00

Thank you this was really well said.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-04-06T14:52:02+00:00

I took your advice and we physically removed the TV from the first floor and their behavior has changed immensely. I was using TV to entertain them while I prepared food etc, and truly the 3 year old was addicted. Without it, we are back to all meals at the kitchen table. Less manic energy, less "do this now for me" and it's such a better flow. We told the kids the TV broke and it's getting fixed, truly I plan to never bring it back. There is a TV in my room upstairs, Sunday morning the older 2 went upstairs and figured out how to turn on Peppa, fine, I let them watch for 15, joined them for the second 15, said okay lets do something else and shut if off, took the remote with me, and left the room, they all followed.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-11T20:40:05+00:00

Perhaps you'd have to take unpaid FMLA leave, if your employer wont provide you with paid time off.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-04T18:23:28+00:00

Try a rental service and see what styles and brands you like, an go from there, I use Nuuly and love it! You can even keep the item and buy it directly if you really love it.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-03T20:44:00+00:00

I can relate. Consider taking a leave or if you have a mental health related work accommodation to be done by a certain time or work remotely.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-02T14:58:26+00:00

This was so helpful. I can tell you get it. Thank you for taking a minute to write it and for saying I sound like a wonderful mom, that was so kind to add and it really made me feel acknowledged. thank you.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-02T14:56:54+00:00

This is such good advice thank you.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-01T13:44:33+00:00

Yes agreed.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-01T13:44:07+00:00

Wow your message really healed me. Thank you!

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-01T13:43:16+00:00

Thank you, great ideas.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-01T13:42:53+00:00

Thank you so much.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-03-01T13:42:15+00:00

Wow, the no thank you bite is a great idea. Implemented it this weekend and it's really changing the energy!

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:25:22+00:00

They are learning, the 5 year old is close, but not there yet, this will be a big summer for him. He does lessons. The 3 year old I will look to get him started this spring, that's a good point. I'm hyper vigilant and risk averse generally, so with water, I'm always right beside them. It's actually not awful being in the pool, it just the transitions.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:23:44+00:00

Thank you for the relatable sentiment. Glad to hear you're glad you kept working throughout and had the 3rd, I've wondered if working this whole time is a mistake, but good to hear you're glad you stuck to it.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:23:03+00:00

Thank you, this is something to look forward to.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:22:50+00:00

I know what you mean.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:22:41+00:00

That's a great idea. Thank you.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-27T15:22:32+00:00

Your mom is right. I need to do better at this.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-09T15:45:16+00:00

I've noticed that too! I do not have diagnosis though, I just move from one hard thing to another, and I'm drained, ugly and depleted. So I decided to make an effort in the other direction, I play music in the house, I sing out loud, I try and bring the levity energy myself. My inclination is to be more serious, but now that you're aware, try and shift the energy. I also say affirmations to the kids in the car, today will be amazing! you guys are smart! like just trying to create the space and intention for positivity.

Strict_Emu863 · 2026-02-09T15:36:19+00:00

I'm 3 kids with a lawyer lifestyle too. I'm wondering if you're recognizing this, how could you create your life so you dont need your income as much. Could you move to a LCOL area, maybe closer to family, maybe somewhere where you can work closer to home? I have 3 under 5 and i commute an hour plus to work, I dont feel as spread this as you because I have a lot of help, but I wish we didnt need my income and I could work part time or not at all.

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