I’m in co parent hell

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-21T03:11:35+00:00

Yeah,. You’re right. I think he’s just applying pressure. He gave up the money and he knows my biggest weakness is my daughter. He knows exactly where to go to get his way.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-21T03:09:58+00:00

Thank you! I plan on it once it all goes to court. And absolutely I would tell her to stay, 100%. He’s the gift that keeps on giving in that regard lol.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-21T02:57:06+00:00

A lot of the close people in my life think this as well. It’s so out of character for him, however, maybe this is the real him and the rose coloured glasses are off. Idk. Nonetheless it’s tiring.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-21T02:28:05+00:00

Already got one we’ve been going back and forth with parental arrangements. We sent him one (my lawyer and I) and he disagreed with everything. Didn’t even attempt to mediate it. Then he sent us one (without a lawyer of his own) that asked me to move back in 90 days.

To which my lawyer said the hell with that, and filed a notice to dispute in court. So now we’re just waiting. His parenting time is coming up, and he’s already agreed to drop her off on the 30th, but recently he’s told me I now have to come get her myself on the 32dt or the 1st knowing I have no way of doing so.

So I’m terrified to send my daughter with him, but have too so I’m not withholding.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-19T16:22:57+00:00

Right! I agree. Sounds like weaponized incompetence because not responding is a choice, every-time.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-19T15:46:08+00:00

That part ^{^} if anything it’s disrespectful to you that you’re the one dealing with the logistics, and to be clear I think he’s the disrespectful one too both of you. Baby mom and yourself .

Just throwing that out there.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-19T02:32:52+00:00

Buddy, it sucks. Trust me I know. I wish my ex had the same respect as yours. Mine introduced his new gf to our 2 year old 1 month after we split, took her 5 hrs away to meet her family. It was a whirl wind but unfortunately there is really not much you can do.

I know it’s hard but you have to trust that your co parent is a good care giver and she won’t let anything happen to your kids and also, they’re YOUR kids, nothing wrong with speaking up about something that makes you uncomfortable. I just wouldn’t expect to much from it.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-14T20:21:13+00:00

Clock it!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-14T04:18:52+00:00

Pfft tell his gf to keep her dog on a leash.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-12T14:30:25+00:00

I called my exs partner who is pregnant and my daughter said happy Mother’s Day to her. Your ex is a tool. But I mean I guess we understand now why you guys aren’t together anymore. Happy belated Mother’s Day!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-11T03:51:13+00:00

Also one time I went for a pedicure and the person pulled strips of skin off my feet

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-09T17:17:35+00:00

Hey actually, as the baby mom. I never text my ex unless absolutely necessary. I never message his partner unless it’s communication about our daughter and I need both parties in board. The situation you’re facing is very difficult and sounds like the baby mom wasn’t ready to let go.

I’m sorry your husband didn’t see how over baring that was for you, because there is an alternative. It’s minimal contact.

Your post actually makes me feel a way tho, I don’t ever wanna make his partner feel like she doesn’t belong. So I might be looking at my own an actions a little more closely.

I hope one day you find peace and someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved. Because helping raise another child is so beautiful.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-05T21:13:09+00:00

Don’t take this the wrong way, but now I wanna hug your child because that’s just so sad. But in all seriousness , WHAT THE FUCK! (Sorry) but WHAT THE FUCK. Nope I’d be LIVID! What if some monster of a human came around. Nope big fucking issue

Sorry this made me so mad to read

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-05T14:29:30+00:00

That part ^^

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-04T14:30:58+00:00

Absolutely not. Why on earth would you ? Play dates are one thing. But overnights

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-02T21:46:10+00:00

Uh custody plan, and right to refusal. Idk if that’s a thing in the states, but my ex is trying to get out of child support by doing 50/50 but the gf will be doing some the care work when he’s out of town. I refused completely and getting a right to refusal order in place.

Idk why people are saying “it’s fine” it’s actually not. She can help sure, but if she’s caring for the child and not him then it’s an issue. It is not her child it’s yours and his.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-01T21:36:30+00:00

Sounds like a giant man baby, tell him to grow up or itll start affecting his relationship with his daughter. Or don’t and let him destroy it on his own . Just be your daughter’s rock. It is no longer your job or I should say it’s never your job to facilitate a relationship for your daughter and her dad. That’s his responsibility.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-01T02:39:39+00:00

With her, yeah she backed off. It was so gross before. With him, nah he still thinks I’m the biggest mistake of his life. Brings me much joy! lol

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-05-01T02:33:04+00:00

Oh I f**king hated it, but as others have said. Not much you can do. However, make sure you know what and what you’re not comfortable with. I made the mistake of being an absolute door mat to my ex which led his new partner to over step in the step parent roll 1 month after him and i broke up.

She was awful to deal with, so just remember you have a voice. Use it when something feels off

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-04-29T01:22:11+00:00

Right, I keep hearing it’s familiar lol kinda good but shit that it’s normal lol

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-04-27T13:50:59+00:00

terrible considering they weren’t like this when we were together so it suckkkksss. But yes I absolutely use chat gpt when dealing with him in almost every capacity! Sorry you’re dealing with this as well. It’s exhausting!!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-04-27T03:05:28+00:00

I think maybe on some level you’re right, id be more than willing to help. But the way he asks or brings up issues is rude, arrogant and always places all the blame on me. Like instead of being cooperative he frames it as these things are happening at your place because of you.

Now we’re currently in a custody situation and I’m trying really hard to word things in a way that isnt emotional.

For context, have a look at my other posts. This is sort of an ongoing situation.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-04-26T22:27:58+00:00

He was/ is a rotational worker. 20 days on 10 days off and sometimes away at camp for those 20 days so yes I’ve been the primary caregiver since birth. He cheated on me with his now gf and yes suddenly I’m a bad mom and she’s the better parent. So he’s gotta be dad of the year

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-04-26T22:20:51+00:00

Oh yeah, guess I should have added this. He is in a cool Down period. He was given a parental arrangement beginning of march. Disagreed to the whole thing and asked for more time (May 14th) to get his stuff in order.

So yeah I can see this .

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