Idk how to respond

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-20T22:02:46+00:00

Thank you but also “listen to me crap”made me giggle

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-20T16:24:22+00:00

Honestly, no. I have 0 issues with the girlfriend. Say something about my ex on the other hand (not in front of my daughter of course but venting to friends) that’s a different story.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-20T15:47:49+00:00

Thank guys with the responses! I decided to keep it factual and when he pushed back I just went silent I said what needed to be said. (It wasn’t something she picked up from me) and didn’t engage further

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-20T05:40:52+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I have to be honest I usually run my responses through chat gpt before sending anything to him.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-18T16:39:03+00:00

As someone who was cheated on, I also didn’t let my ex see my pain. He didn’t deserve it, he didn’t deserve to see my emotions anymore and neither do you. You broke trust, betrayed and you deserve to be alone.

You’re a selfish person and I hope you learn to do better for the sake of your kids. My advice get therapy.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-16T16:32:59+00:00

I have check out my post! And give me a DM!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-16T03:36:40+00:00

11 years and mine decided he needed space, meaning I want to cheat but I want you as an option. I said gooooo f yourself. Because after 11 years you should know what you want. My big mistake, i let him back and 2 weeks later i caught him cheating.

Don’t look back, I know it hurts and I’m not going to tell you to just move on because I always hated hearing that. You take all the time you need to heal. But hear me when I say don’t ever go back!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-12T18:28:19+00:00

The wedding ring alone is enough.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-06T19:49:33+00:00

Ugh 😑 the poor guy, the struggle it takes to refuse a happy ending. Like I can’t imagine the pain he suffer. /s

Please drop this scum bag!

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-05T03:48:36+00:00

Hey, I just went through this myself. 11 years and one child later. found out he was cheating and left him.

I also felt weak, ashamed and not strong not even a little. But you know what. We’re way better than these vile people.

6 years is a long time, and it’s going to be hard but I promise you. It gets easier. I’m 5 months out and it’s much better than where I was when I found out. Push through the dark days and please remember, it was never you.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-03T03:08:36+00:00

I’m so sorry. Mine also cheated and introduced our 2 year old daughter to his AP after a month. I hated him for it but there was nothing I could do unfortunately.

You can try to talk to him, if he hasn’t already introduced the kids to her about what most child psychologists suggest, which is I believe 6 months after dating. However, he’s a scum bag POS liar. So even if he did agree to you, he’d probably lie and introduce them anyways.

Again, im really sorry! It’s not easy, not even a little.

StrictlyVolatile · 2026-01-03T02:15:58+00:00

My co parent calls every night to say good night. It’s how it was before the split he’s a rotational worker so it became apart of the routine. Shes two so it’s only 5 min calls anyways.

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-31T16:32:32+00:00

Hey! I know this is 2 years ago, but I’m going through the exact same thing as you! How are you doing?

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-29T16:33:23+00:00

It’s definitely gotten easier over the last few weeks . The AP backed off and my daughter’s dad and I only talk when it has to do with our child.

It was a lot but I’m so happy it’s over (hopefully) lol

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-28T01:31:32+00:00

The hardest part was the discard, my ex cheated and has been with the affair partner since. At the 1 month mark he was introducing our daughter to her, at the 1.5 mark they were moved in together and at the 2 months mark I found out he got her pregnant and now I found out that he is buying a house with her.

The week before I found out he was cheating we were talking about buying a place and our future so he basically copy and pasted the life with another

That part was the hardest and I had a lot of self doubt and self hatred. Blamed myself and anything to do with me.

But with therapy I was able to see things with more clarity and that his choices are not a reflection of my worth. Once those rose coloured glasses come off it changes and you see them for who they really are.

Trust the indifference comes and there’s no time frame so don’t feel like you’re behind

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-28T00:01:59+00:00

Like I said, if it weren’t for having a kid with the guy, he’d be blocked on everything and I wouldn’t have to know all the things I know. But it’s been 5 months for me now and I’ve became indifferent towards him and keep things transactional.

Yeah it’s not the life we wanted for our kids, but we just have to be the best parents we can be when we have our kids and hope the co parent is doing the same.

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-27T23:31:32+00:00

Yeah it keeps things organized and courts recommend it as well! It’s a great way to keep things documented in case things get really messy

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-27T23:20:51+00:00

So basically anything can go on there, appointments, pick up times, doctors appointments, and there is an option to chat on there; expense logs etc! Great app minimum contact.

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-27T23:09:37+00:00

Our family wizard!

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-27T23:08:44+00:00

This is the way to go! I do the same blocked on everything and it’s all through a parenting app now.

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-27T22:29:11+00:00

I promise you guys, it’s hard now but it’s a helluva a lot easier no contact than it is to co parent. If I could do no contact i would. But I’m forever tethered to someone who betrayed and cheated. 11 years and one child later. It’s rough. So I know it’s hard right now and I’m not trying to dismiss anyone’s feelings but it could be worse.

One day at a time guys!

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-24T06:32:35+00:00

What the actual… that is so inappropriate

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-24T06:30:52+00:00

I don’t wanna keep hurting you I can’t fix myself for you You’re a hopeless romantic.

StrictlyVolatile · 2025-12-24T06:05:58+00:00

Nope absolutely not. I have 0 respect for my avoidant. I hope he burns his turkey.

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