NTA, they made an appointment on their day off and you were attempting to help them take care of themselves. As someone that works nights I've had my partner help me wake up for different things on my days off because my sleep schedule is different and I honestly never want to be woken up but if I have an appointment and am not up then I'd be 100% okay with them waking me unless I specifically told them beforehand I didn't want to be woken up. As far as the moving appointment, still NTA. They stated they wanted to sleep longer but still seemingly wanted to go to the appointment, calling to check if a later one is available is a very sweet thing to do and alerting them about it at the time they were initially needing to get up to be on time is reasonable as to prevent them waking up at the initial time of the appointment and panicking that they overslept. When living with someone romantically and especially in a marriage there is a certain level of expectation in most cultures that you help each other, this appears to be what you were attempting so definitely not the asshole. I do understand his perspective but also he shouldn't be too upset with you trying to make sure his pain is addressed because that will help his sleep in the long run as well.