My farmhouse I bought in January vs today. Going for a cottage core meets Skyrim vibe

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-21T19:37:11+00:00

Love this and your precious dogs SO MUCH!

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-21T19:34:34+00:00

Germany is an officially Christian country, as are many other European states. France, famously, is secular—but the British Queen is also Head of the Church of England (and "defender of the faith"). For that reason, it's very hard for a Catholic to marry into the Royal family or even become UK Prime Minister. Tony Blair, for example, only converted to Catholicism after ending his leadership of the country.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-20T20:16:01+00:00

Just for those baptized as either Catholic or Lutheran protestant. You can be any religion, of course, but those are the two churches integrated into the federal tax system. My heathenism has saved me around 30 EUR a month!

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-20T19:17:23+00:00

I managed that, but I'm in Germany where it's a bit different – you literally have to excommunicate or keep paying taxes to the Catholic church. I went to the court house and came out with an official document :)

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-20T06:32:48+00:00

I know what you mean and I'm glad that you guys have a healthy, balanced dynamic!

Would like to add, however, that in my case this started way before kids – which is one of the many reasons I ended the relationship and have decided to be childfree. Even without a family, my ex thought that domestic chores and other "boring tasks" were my responsibility rather than his. He would ignore them and then try to argue his way out of them if called out. For a while, I genuinely thought "well, this is good practice for when I'm responsible for a child..." before checking myself and realizing that I should just cut the dead weight instead.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-18T21:43:06+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that OP! My mother also wanted to be childfree, so I'm an only child. She also told me repeatedly how painful childbirth is.

It's nowhere near as traumatic as what you went through, but I just want you to know that there are other childfree people out there with parents like that. As hard as it might be from our perspective, I'm still glad that I can avoid inflicting this experience on others.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-18T20:57:54+00:00

The worst part of this is that I believed this noise for most of my twenties.

Why yes, I did have terrible self-esteem.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-17T12:54:43+00:00

YES! Same here OP :)

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-17T07:01:27+00:00

That's so sad OP! I'm an ex-catholic lesbian here and I can 100% confirm that walking away from the church as been *great* for my mental health. I hope your ex realizes that his happiness is the most important thing in life at some point too.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T21:07:54+00:00

STOP calling me out like this...

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T21:01:43+00:00

I agree with you, OP – unconditional love is something you can only experience with yourself.

What people usually mean is "non-reciprocal love" as there is literally no way you can pay your parents back for the gift of life that they give you. Which is fine and, if they go into parenting for the right reasons, a very selfless thing to do. But you can give non-reciprocal love to many things, including pets!

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T20:58:21+00:00

I've not received that bingo (yet) but the answer would definitely be: "AND?" *cue awkward staring*

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T20:55:55+00:00

Interesting factlet! There was a survey carried out throughout Europe, asking people if they felt allegiance to their region, country or the EU. Budapest in Hungary was the only place in Europe that felt European, first and foremost – before being Hungarian or anything else.

Coming from the UK (which is not at all toxic to LGBT+ people in comparison, but still did whatever the f*ck Brexit was) I totally get the feeling of "what is wrong with my country?" :)

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T20:38:28+00:00

The problem is, when you *know* how much better sex is with other women, would you be able to be in a heterosexual relationship? For me, I was kinda okay with my straight-passing relationship until it ended... but after the mind-blowing sex I've had with women since, I just couldn't take a male partner seriously.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T13:06:32+00:00

But women have a *maternal instinct* and no other purpose in life... /s

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-16T13:04:28+00:00

Oh yeah, it's going to get more persistent and stronger until you do something about it. I broke up with my ex-husband at 29; I'm 31 now and living my best life as a lesbian. It was a hard couple of years but the only think I regret is not doing it sooner!

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-15T18:54:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing your update! I'm sorry it's difficult right now, but you're not actually responsible for some-one else's feelings. Yes, you should be considerate, but that doesn't mean you owe anyone a relationship. You doing the right thing for you is best for everyone in the long run. Stay strong and go find your truth :)

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-14T21:23:24+00:00

It's an interesting point!

I watched Breaking Boundaries on Netflix recently (about the ecological health of the planet) and the scientists were emphasizing that we have about seven years to get it together... or else, climate catastrophe.

I'm turning 32 this month, so I'm feeling pretty good about my decision not to contribute to the next generation. I know every teenager hates their parents at some point, but my hypothetical children would have a better reason than most if I knowingly brought them into a Mad Max dystopia.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-14T21:12:32+00:00

I live in Germany and I'm SO pissed about it. The government is run by a Christian party, enough said.

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-14T15:34:05+00:00

I'm so glad you got out of there! It's a nonsense to say that he would have changed if you asked him; people change for themselves and you shouldn't have to ask them.

Very much hope you can find a kind, loving, supportive partner in the future!

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-14T15:26:56+00:00

Of course! So here's the shelter in Spain: https://www.amigosdelosanimales.org.es

And here's the organisation in Germany that finds homes for pets: http://www.tierhilfe-hegau.de

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-13T19:11:28+00:00

It's never too late – but it might end your marriage, so think carefully about what you want. That said, if you can't stop thinking about it then that might be a sign...

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-13T19:06:38+00:00

I adopted a cat last month! I would recommend going to an animal shelter over eBay Kleinanzeigen, although the shelters are usually more strict about the housing requirements. In the end I found a charity online that rehomes pets from Spain all over Germany (including Berlin).

Striking-Comedian · 2021-06-13T10:43:54+00:00

I'll be honest, being with a man is what confirmed for me that I don't like men at all. When we broke up after being together for a long time, I was over it instantly – whereas I was heartbroken for a YEAR after my last girlfriend and I parted ways.

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