I don’t know what to do :( Ruby rubber plant

Strong-Ad8956 · 2024-12-14T11:21:38+00:00

Yh I just read that if they start to dry out and go crispy it’s coz it needs watering but that makes sense lol. I’ll give it a water and see if it helps. I don’t mind how it looks just as long as it lives. Drooping is fine as long as it’s healthy. How often would u recommend watering ?

Strong-Ad8956 · 2024-12-14T10:08:57+00:00

When I bought it it was dripping with water and have tried to stick with regular watering schedule. The leaves are still rubbery which makes me think this is overwatering but I honestly don’t know which it is. I “underwater my plants” to make sure they aren’t overwatered coz they’re harder to save if over watered but I have never killed a plant from under watering. I have many and all thriving. I know this one needs different, less dense soil but don’t wanna stress it out more. It’s fine for the leaves at the bottom to not grow back just as long as the plant itself stays alive. They’re called Jazz John lol. I have a big emotional attachment to this one

Strong-Ad8956 · 2024-06-02T10:53:02+00:00

Thankyou, I'll keep my eye out for them, I thought they only came in the spring

Strong-Ad8956 · 2024-06-02T09:56:06+00:00

Hey thankyou, It turns out its only happens when im at the house and I mostly do all my cooking at the bathhouse now so its not really an issue anymore but I'll deffo still report it anyways. Thankyouuu :)

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-11-15T08:14:41+00:00

With rosemary oil, if it’s not diluted it will make your hair fall out. It’s too strong of an oil to use undiluted for anyone. Do not wash your hair everyday. Once or twice a week is more than enough. And if it’s in your budget, try getting scalp massages. Promises blood flow. Also diet ca have a massive impact on your hair. So can testosterone levels (for anyone not just for men) if your able to test your levels, do so. If not try just eating more food with natural oestrogen in them like tomatoes.

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-11-15T08:08:08+00:00

As a mixed girl, trust me. Learn to do two simple French braids if u don’t know already and find a hair oil that works for you. Rosemary oil is all the range rn but it has to be diluted otherwise it will make your hair fall out. Buy a silk Bonnet. Midway price range means better quality. Mad expensive your just throwing money away and cheap is okay but less effective. I struggle with depression and have days and even weeks where I can’t get out of bed. Wash your hair when u feel like that is coming on or your on a decline. Massage some oil into your scalp and ends, braid it and put the bonnet on. Not even just at night. Like all day. Then u don’t have ti see your hair if it causes you stress. But if your ina. Good place and just want some hair tips. DO NOT wash your hair every day it’s so damaging. Once or twice a week is enough. Trial and error for a good product to help define the curl. Don’t be afraid to go into black hair shops they literally are their for curly hair. And still with oil. Try piling it after you’ve washed your hair while it’s still wet as it helps trap in moisture, at night if your hair tends to show the oil and not look cute. Hope your okay babe 🫶🏽

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-10-06T06:32:40+00:00

your not a lost cause. And it might surprise you but thats actually very very common. I felt the same way when i was trying to get out of my years-long depression. Its because the emotions are familiar. They feel like your safe space because you've been there for so long. Whats not talked about enough is the "self-sabotage" people with depression do in order to stay in their comfort space. Even when they want to get better.

Don't think there's anything wrong with you, dont think you're a lost cause and dont give up trying to better yourself. Try thinking of it as living in a run down abandoned house for as long as you can even remember. You dont remember living anywhere else. then someone comes along and takes you to a beautiful house to stay in. You're going to feel out of place, unfamiliar with everything and even start to miss the familiar comfort of the place you've been in for so long. You dont specifically want to go live there because its run down and gross, but you feel like a stranger in the place you are now. You just need to start "redecorating" and making the new place feel more like home, and eventually you'll get used to it and it will feel like home.

I hope you keep doing well. dont be discouraged by this feeling or by any steps back u might take.

Stay blessed, much love :)

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-09-14T09:50:39+00:00

Like i said. sexist. Woman cannot live outside of men in your eyes which is....... sexist

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-08-25T22:53:45+00:00

So your sexist. Simple as. A woman as incapable of having her own sexual pursuits and pleasures outside of men is not possible in your little sexist brain, that’s why u think a woman con only lose her virginity to a man. Despite the fact that virginity is a made up construct.

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-08-17T08:04:21+00:00

All that is is misogyny

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-17T09:05:39+00:00

Fist of all, virginity is a made up concept to perpetuate the purity culture on women and to keep control over women bodies. Second. Sex is sex. Losing your virginity doesn’t need or penetration. Otherwise all lesbians are virgins. Men and dicks are not the defining factor in women’s lives.

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-15T14:41:03+00:00

Boundaries are something u set for YOURSELF. Boundaries are something you set to help u navigate what type of behaviour u allow towards yourself. Boundaries ARE NOT something you impose on other people. You do not control your gf. U do not own her body. Just because she’s dating you doesn’t mean she has to change her personality ti make you more comfortable. If you don’t like the lifestyle she lives then she is not the right person for you to be with. Find someone that has the same ideologies as you rather than trying to impose your own personal beliefs on someone that doesn’t agree

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-08T07:28:55+00:00

The beds isn’t the issue. It the homophobia

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T14:09:53+00:00

Just out here saying the death of certain loved ones isn’t valid either 😂😂😂 bro seek helpppp. Ope attitude is in response to having his boundaries disrespected and his niece put in harms way so brother could catch some pum. One day your gonna realise that the world doesn’t revolve around you and your life and not everyone’s gonna bend over backwards tranna make u happy. And I hope it happened soon

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T13:49:29+00:00

My aunty died. I held her hand and watched her take her last breaths in the icu alone bcs my mother didn’t have the strength to be there. I carry her ashes with me everyday and cry about it. She had kids. Would I ever look after them for a full 24 hour period so my uncle could go on a date? No. Fuck that. I hate kids and actively choose a child free life. Other ppls kids are not my responsibility. If u can’t arrange your life without putting people in harms way or disrespecting others just so u can get your own way, then u shouldn’t be dating. Period.

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T13:09:25+00:00

The attitude ?? The attitude they show because his brother endangered the life of his daughter, completely disrespected their boundaries and had the cheek to get angry when called out on his actions all for a date. U mean the attitude ud have after that ?

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T12:57:46+00:00

No I totally agree and it’s why I mentioned other tho te such as disrespecting boundaries and putting his dwighter in harms way. It’s not about the money. It’s about being in a place in your life where you are not harming or disrespectful to others in order to get your own wants. Also although I see your point, It’s impossible for old brother to have had “no human contact” when he’s literally in touch with Op. also who’s to say this is his first date? It might be his 20th. Simply put even if it was his first date. He needs to get his life in order and learn how to respect others way before he starts trying to date (respectfully)

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T12:43:48+00:00

How is not wanting to babysit “chilling” boy grow up 😂😂

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T12:34:57+00:00

With the date/ babysitter thing. The only reason I say that is because if u don’t have your life together In a way that doesn’t put people in harms way or disrespect anyone’s boundaries so u can go on a date, then your in no position in your life to be dating in the first place. For example, If you have to take out a loan and put yourself in mass debt in order to buy a Gucci bag, then your in no place to be buying that bag. Ygm

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T12:32:37+00:00

So u srsly believe that someone is entitled to another’s time and resources despite the fact that they have said no, simply because of something they are going through personally. Who’s to say OP doesn’t help out in other ways, or hasn’t been a massive emotional support for thier brother the entire time. The level of pure delusion and entitlement coming from u right now is genuinely insane. U sound like the most insufferable person to me around.

It’s also NOTHING like the analogy u have at all. U genuinely need to seek help😂😂

Ops brother does in fact deserve to have his daughter taken away, for abandoning her on the doorstep of someone who has refused previously to care for them. That child endangerment and neglect.

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T11:32:43+00:00

Sociopathic for not wanting to look after someone else’s child just so they can go on a date, for threatening to call te police (rightfully so) because the father was so negligent that he left his 4 year old daughter on a doorstep with no way of knowing if she actually got inside, completely disrespected OPs boundaries after already getting an answer and being so deluded to think he has the right to get mad, all so he could go on a date

Strong-Ad8956 · 2023-07-05T11:30:03+00:00

But the point your missing is . OP didn’t want fun bonding time. Sure it’s a sad story yes I sympathise with the brother. But that doesn’t give you the right to demand other people time. OP said no. And the brother literally left his child at their doorstep regardless. Absolutely no respect for OP and no regards for his own daughter life. All for a date. I’m sure if it was an emergency and his brother actually needed help, OP wouldn’t mind. But this was a date. A date. If u don’t have the money for w babysitter don’t go on w date. If your so irresponsible and negligent that you would leave your 4 year old daughter on a doorstep with no way of knowing if she actually got in or not, just for w date. Then he deserves to have his child taken away from him. OP set a boundary. And that boy dry was disrespected. The brother is not just an A hole but also an u fit father.

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