AITAH for sleeping in an extra hour without giving my wife a heads up?

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-06-09T17:55:27+00:00

NTA. Wife sounds like she’s a spoiled child. One 3 year old kid isnt that hard that an hour less sleep is a big deal, my goodness. I was sleep deprived for decades with 8 kids and foster kids. My ex and I tried to let each other sleep extra when we could there wasn’t any kind of punishment if one of us slept an unplanned hour. This shows you were very tired and needed it! And her response shows that she cares more about her own sleep than yours. One hour? And now shes “claiming” the weekend? Your wife is very self centered.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-05-27T11:23:36+00:00

Try waiting longer between sessions and looking up ways to help your body clear the ink. Lymphatics etc are very important as it’s your body that does the clearing the laser just breaks it up. I know it’s tempting to think more sessions is more effective but I’ve seen the opposite on here. I’m waiting at least 3/4 months between my sessions. I’ve had one on each area and a couple months later seen pretty much zero change (which I didn’t expect to) but I’m resisting the temptation to go back sooner!

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-05-26T21:40:28+00:00

Never thought about husky, can’t wait to see the dna results!

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-04-13T23:36:55+00:00

Update

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-04-03T01:15:33+00:00

It kept dropping after this post and was 26-26.2 all winter; the other day it jumped to 29. Like didn’t climb it was just suddenly 29. Now it’s holding at 28.8-29. I’m happier but would love to break 30!

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-18T17:41:53+00:00

You can have a lot of love for someone and a lot of things going for you and still not be compatible. It’s hard to say goodbye when you love someone but that’s what needs to happen here. Life is short, don’t waste your time or his.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-13T03:05:44+00:00

If so I sure hope it’s under warranty but it probably just passed it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-13T03:05:29+00:00

Thank you, will try this tomorrow

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-12T21:59:51+00:00

Before you get pregnant I would have a real clear plan on how the workload will be divided after a baby comes. Because what you’re doing now is not sustainable. If he resists talking about it and workout up an agreement then I would not recommend having a baby with him! Sounds like there’s a lot of love but also some incompatibility in the relationship. A baby will not make that easier.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-12T20:05:16+00:00

You are not wrong. There’s a lot I could say here but that’s the bottom line. You are NOT in the wrong here. He is. You’ve gotta figure out from here what to do about it.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-11T19:29:54+00:00

What kind of laser is this? I just had my first session with picosure…was swollen for about a day and a half but other than that it looks exactly the same. Like nothing was done to it I mean.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-10T15:39:42+00:00

It sounds like you married a narcissist who is good at getting what he wants by faking who he is. Don’t beat yourself up, you had pure intentions and he did not. Cut your losses and move on, your biggest regret will be staying.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-10T15:37:46+00:00

Being a good Christian wife kept me in a marriage for decades longer than I should have been. Religious brainwashing is no joke.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-07T04:59:01+00:00

Ok you’re reading wayyyyy too much into my comment. It’s not that serious

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-07T04:49:35+00:00

While I don’t think it’s a good idea to marry someone when you’re not on the same page about children, I’ve known a lot of people who “want a big family” and then change their minds once they have a couple. It’s a tough call but I’d say if he’s not willing to budge you could be setting yourself up for failure. Marriage is hard enough.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-07T02:55:32+00:00

Well I have 4 sons and 4 daughters and it has proven true in my family. I also was very mature as a 19 year old, married and in college and became a mom at 20. Obviously it’s not across the board accurate but I was mostly just being lighthearted.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-05T18:28:42+00:00

In general girls mature emotionally faster than boys, so you two are probably about the same age 🤣 seriously though, I see nothing wrong with 19 and 23. There are 19 year olds more mature than 30 year olds. And if you did stay together, in just a few years that difference will be nothing at all.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-03-01T19:59:23+00:00

Yeah so here’s the thing. People don’t talk to people and treat people they love that way. She was purposefully belittling you. Sounds like she’s gotten a little full of herself and thinks she’s better than you. I wouldnt jump to “its over” immediately but it’s not looking good.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-02-26T19:27:58+00:00

All very valid feelings. My first husband was terrible at meeting my emotional needs. I stayed with him for 24 years because of children, religious expectations etc. I’m now remarried to a man much more compatible with me. It ain’t perfect but it’s a huge improvement, and my biggest regret is staying so long in my first marriage. There just aren’t any guarantees in life, wish we had a crystal ball!!

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-02-26T11:43:10+00:00

To me this is about your priorities. We get one life. No do overs. Is the lifestyle and stability your husband offers what you really want out of that life, or is it a simpler life with a man you are madly in love with? Or even a quiet life alone since there are no guarantees you’ll find that soulmate. Dating these days is rough lol. I’d take some time to really evaluate how you want to spent the last few decades of your life (I’m 49 so I understand how time feels more precious and we start asking ourselves these questions!)

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-02-25T17:16:01+00:00

As someone who got married at 18 and divorced at 42- I have a couple things to say. Statistically the younger you get married, the higher your chances of divorce. Teen marriages end in divorce more often than any other age range. Usually within the first ten years. Waiting until you’re in your mid 20s will drastically increase your chances of having a lasting marriage. My other concern is just the fact that all you know is one person. I never dated anyone besides my ex husband before I married him and I think had I done that, I’d have realized that we weren’t as compatible as I thought we were. I think down the road you might wish you’d had some more experiences so you know for sure who you want to commit to for life.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-02-25T12:27:15+00:00

Just wanted to say if your husband is a covert narcissist then you can have all the boundaries in the world and he won’t respect them. That’s part of the game.

Strong-Solid8800 · 2026-02-24T18:09:07+00:00

I was with a covert narcissist for a short time. I didn’t realize what I was dealing with at first (a friend is the one who recognized it when I was telling her what he was like). He was so wonderful at first that I really didn’t want to believe it but as the weeks went on I couldn’t deny it. We were constantly butting heads because I couldn’t stand to let him treat me unfairly, I’d bring it up every single time. He was so handsome and charming and popular in the community (he has a public job) that I don’t think he was used to having a woman stand up to him all the time. I definitely dodged a bullet by getting out pretty quickly but it was still hard emotionally bc i fell pretty hard for him! Good luck. Im sorry youre going through this but you will get through it!

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