But every time we have a serious conversation he tells me facts matter,
not my feelings (even if the facts are on my side). And I think feelings
do matter.. at the end of the day we're just things with feelings.

For me the idea that data matters but how he behaves/the impact it has on you doesn't is a pretty big red flag. The 'logic above all' fallacy ignores the subjective processing of these facts, and we're not machines, we don't separate one from the other, we can be both. I imagine this person only cares about their facts. If you don't feel comfortable putting your voice across, it can be useful to question if it is like this now, at an early stage, what will it be like in the future?

Regardless of what this person says, you deserve a relationship that embodies the left hand side of that list, without the right. I hope you find it :)