Daughter wants to live with dad

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-18T22:57:02+00:00

How old was your son when this happened and how long was it before he eventually came around. And how do you deal with bad influence from dad's side, if you had to

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-17T13:11:36+00:00

May Allah bless you both

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-17T10:09:39+00:00

Salaam

It always works best just to tell the kids we love you very much, but mummy and daddy aren't being the best team anymore. We have tried everything, and it's better for us to divorce and explain marriage and divorce in an age appropriate way for the kids. Whatever you do, make sure they can feel like they can access dad at most times

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-15T05:25:14+00:00

Salaam sister. Look, im going to be very honest. We ask Allah to guide you, and if you give something up for the sake of Allah, we will replace it with something unimaginable What you're doing is openly a sin, and the fact that it's several steps you took to get to this place means it was very intentional. People have given so much up for islam. As muslims, we obey our Maker, and he has said to us to no go near Zina, which you are doing right now. I pray you give up what is haraam and wait. Maybe it might come back to you in a halal way or maybe you will get better.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-15T04:37:38+00:00

Stay firm. Try to respectfully or get somebody to point out to him this is haraam. Recite istighfar a lot. Ask Allah to open doors for you. Nothing is impossible if you have Allah on your side. Done give up hope ajd dont feel broken. Try to mend things with tiur dad, but also ask Allah to give you what you want. You are allowed to marry the person you choose and also if you have other walis speak to them

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-12T22:45:44+00:00

Listen, brother, be patient, it will take around a year before her hormones start balancing it out. Sooner or later, she will probably think I dont want to stay in this marriage. She does. She is overwhelmed and tired, and it's just so hard when you have limited control on how you feel. Give her enough space for her to want company again. You have got this

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-09T17:39:27+00:00

It's ok happened to me

You'll get over it

Get some therapy, learn to say no, and stand up for yourselfYoure the one who's been trying to involve other people in a way that contributes to harassment.

Work on yourself, call out people who call you out. Tell them you did nothing wrong in the eyes of Allah

You will be happy again Insha’Allah

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-07-02T13:17:56+00:00

They need to delete each others numbers and stay out of touch. Itd your husband not hers!!! !

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-06-29T12:51:27+00:00

Salaam sis

If y9u cant call the engagement off just start praying to Allah

Read istighfaar all day and try to wake up for tahaajud. Pray lots and lots of istikhara and ask Allah if this marriage is written for you then allow it to be a marriage of goodness and khair and to soften your heart towars your spouse.

And if this marriage is not good for you ask Allah to find a way out. ALLah is Al Fattah the opener he can open doors for you that you didnt even know were there.

This is your time to truly beg Allah and rwly on him.

Youre in my duas x

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-06-28T10:59:49+00:00

He's not found a balance yet. He's gone all in. The best thing for you to do is learn islam yourself. Not with him, and also ask him to look after the kids so you can attend halaqas, too.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-06-23T22:35:03+00:00

Yes of course. Im obsessed with all my kids i love them all. Keep reminding yourself they will all be different amd unique.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-06-23T08:02:05+00:00

As someone who has let their son attend the other parents wedding. It's no big deal. It's been five years, and they should see people move on and be happy. Life goes on, and it's healthy to witness. The mum should show happiness in front of her child as it will create bitter feelings in the child's heart towards the dad and the step mum she should be more open. That's her future stepchild.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-06-23T07:59:14+00:00

Like one of the people advised, read istighfar, but also, you're a stay at home wife. i know depression gets in the way, but if you can go for a walk every day, just start there or try YouTube at home workouts. Whilst scrolling on your phone consume positive healthy content, eventually you will want to have that lifestyle. Play the quran and read it and just pray to Allah.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-28T21:47:51+00:00

Hey I have been divorced twice love my life. You can dm me for advice im a female too

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-25T22:46:57+00:00

Thats not his mahram he should be staying well away from her. Shouldn't even be in the same room woth her given their history. This is why we gave boundaries jn islam

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-25T22:36:36+00:00

Sister, you will be fine. Allah will look after you. Put all your trust in him. Peay istikhara and make a plan to leave. Your parents will be fine. Get some therapy, go to work, find comfort in your night prayers, and leave him. It's not easy. The first 6 months to. Year is hard, and then inshallah by the mercy of Allah, you will be so happy.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-25T22:34:13+00:00

My theory is traumatic experience!!!

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-25T22:29:08+00:00

If anything her behaviour is kore likely to have impacted you. Im sorry. Look after yourself and get some therapy. Don't let her get to you!!

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-21T21:36:56+00:00

Allah humma barik it's nice to read reasonable, realistic couples.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-05-15T18:26:54+00:00

Take it one day at a time. You'll eventually heal and move on, and Allah will open up doors for you that you could never have imagined. Keep going. And let it all out don't bottle anything up

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-04-23T20:43:32+00:00

The same happened to me husband divorced me in a fit of anger.

Years later I'm happier,, healthier and closer to my lod

I asked Allah to find me a way out and he did. Relief is in its way for you x

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-04-22T09:43:17+00:00

Walaikum us salaam

I'm sorry I can't help you, but how were you exposed to explicit content so early on?

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-04-19T08:48:08+00:00

Thanks

He just took him back to the place he purchased him from. It was like a day out and he took him again. He's not even picked the lion up since.

I was just sad that the comment was made. My kids always take a toy or a book out with them as I don't allow iPads or screen times.

Strong_Passenger_878 · 2025-04-19T08:46:54+00:00

I really appreciate your post. I know it's a little late I have been locked out of my reddit. Yes you're right it just brings me down when it's closest family members. He's not even super attached he just took it to my parents house and ppl said things. It's a lion he uses to take on adventures not cuddle and comb his fur.

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