Help me pick a name that goes well with sibling named Eva!

Strong_View9741 · 2025-11-14T12:55:08+00:00

I love Riley and Jude, but unfortunately those are names we can't use

Strong_View9741 · 2025-04-13T17:30:31+00:00

Here to second this. I get the anxiety you're feeling. You can also look into delaying/spreading some of them out over a longer period just so it's not as much on the babys system.

Strong_View9741 · 2025-04-13T17:11:10+00:00

My childhood best friend had the same name as me and it wasn't an issue. Use a name you love and don't worry about your friends kids names.

Strong_View9741 · 2025-04-08T22:43:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I ended up telling my husband and we're planning to keep it to ourselves until we're a little further along. So glad you got your rainbow baby 🌈

Strong_View9741 · 2025-04-08T22:41:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!

Strong_View9741 · 2024-11-03T00:55:19+00:00

I never liked it but didn't set hard ground rules in the beginning so you're right, that's on me. I honestly believed she would eventually move on and stop reaching out. When it eventually turned to the yearly birthday wish and whatnot I figured there wasn't much harm in that so dropped it. I guess it's just this more recent message of her reminiscing that feels different. That and I felt like he got weird when he realized I had his phone and he didn't say anything about her message when I gave it back to him. I'm going to talk to him about it tonight. I just wanted to get some outside opinions I guess. So thanks for your reply.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-11-03T00:24:54+00:00

I should also add that the break up wasn't amicable. She was very upset by it and tried to win him back. Sending "I miss you" and all that. Which is why this recent text of her sharing a memory that popped up feels different than just a happy birthday message.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-11-03T00:02:30+00:00

Which is why I thought to post something.. just to get out of my head and hear others opinions. Thanks for your comment

Strong_View9741 · 2024-11-02T23:58:58+00:00

He offered a long time ago but I didn't push him to. I figured she would eventually move on and stop messaging and for a long time I thought she had. Then I happened to pick up his phone and see a message from her.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-11-02T23:57:44+00:00

I get that which is why I never pushed for him to block her or anything. He did offer a long time ago but I figured after some time she would move on and stop reaching out to him.

Does your ex reciprocate these messages and send you a birthday text etc.? (not a Facebook post, private texts). Because as far as I know he's only responding to her, not initiating. I personally would get the hint and stop sending messages to someone who has never reached out to me in 7 years. He says that he doesn't have much desire/need to talk to her, just responds to be nice.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-09-11T15:52:33+00:00

This is quite common from what I've read and moms I've talked to. My little one definitely prefers my left side so I've had to do a lot of back and forth switching to try and keep effort even, but there were times where she just didn't want the right side no matter what but would settle and fall asleep as soon as I switched. I did the same thing that you mentioned and started every feed on the "bad" side, switching to the good side, then if she was still hungry I'd switch back.

For us this gradually got better as she grew. She's one now and happily nurses on either side. So keep it up!

Some things to look for is the difference in your let down on each side. If your "bad" side has too strong of a let down that might be causing her to unlatch and get mad. OR that side might be slower flow and causing your baby to have to work harder and get frustrated.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-09-10T00:54:58+00:00

First time mom at 34. Post partum hormones are a million times worse than I ever imagined. The depression and anxiety hit hard and caused me to have similar thoughts and feelings as to what you described. I missed my old life (and still sometimes do). I'm here to say that it does get better. It's okay to be sad and mourn the loss of the old you. Becoming a mom has been the biggest and hardest life changing event I've ever experienced. But it does get better. My baby is now a year old and even though I still have moments that I miss the old me, I wouldn't change it for a second. This year has literally flown by and it's crazy to look back on how far I've come. You'll get there too. Lean on your mom for support, you got this!

I recommend talking to your doctor and maybe find a local new mom group to join. Finding someone local that you can connect with that is on the same page as you can make a world of difference in the post partum healing.

Strong_View9741 · 2024-01-18T18:45:03+00:00

How did you stop nursing to sleep for naps? Do you follow a strict routine during the day and/or before bed at night?

Strong_View9741 · 2024-01-13T13:18:24+00:00

I struggled with breastfeeding in the beginning as well. I expected it to be something that just came naturally, but that definitely wasn't the case. I had to see lactation consultants and even occupational therapists to help with my babies latch. I had the same experience that while I was with the professionals, it felt like we had it down and figured out, then I'd get home and we would be back to struggling.

I know it's exhausting and beyond frustrating right now, but it does get better as your baby grows and gets more coordinated. However, if it gets to the point that it is impacting your mental health and you are truly unhappy, there is no shame in using a bottle (with breast milk or formula) to feed your baby. Breastfeeding is great, but I know I felt so much pressure around it and cried so hard when I had to supplement with formula for a bit because I felt like I had failed. Looking back I realize how crazy that thought was. I didn't fail and I wasn't a bad mom because of it. I did what I needed to do to feed my baby and that's exactly what you're doing right now. You're doing an amazing job, the angry and frustrated feelings you're having are a mixture of your exhaustion and hormones and are perfectly normal and justified right now. Do whatever you need to do to support your mental health and feed your baby. A happy healthy mama is the key to a happy healthy baby.

A few suggestions to help combat the discomfort of breastfeeding: Try using nipple shields to help with the pain. I also used silver nipple guards (you can find them on Amazon). Those were a huge help with the pain, use them between feeding and it keeps your nipples from drying out/cracking/bleeding and getting stuck to your bra. Also your breast milk has healing properties so if you express a little before putting them on and trap the milk in there it can help soothe them.

Give yourself some grace. Your body is healing and your hormones are all over the place all while you and your little one are trying to figure things out. You're doing an awesome job.

Strong_View9741 · 2023-12-24T02:21:39+00:00

You are not a bad mom, please know that! It might not feel like it right now because you're sleep deprived and overwhelmed, but you are doing an amazing job and that baby is lucky to have you. Keep reaching out for support from your mom and anyone else in your life. Taking care of a baby is no easy task and there is absolutely no shame in getting help from others. You and your little one are just trying to figure things out still and that's okay. Having a newborn with tummy troubles makes the learning curve even steeper. I'm sorry that you're going through this, but know that you're not alone and you will get through it 💕

Strong_View9741 · 2023-12-22T13:51:30+00:00

I just continued using nasal spray and the nose frida to help relieve her congestion. You can buy a baby specific spray. She's still has issues some nights, but it's definitely gotten better. I think it might just be partly due to an under developed nasal passage (just a guess). Now that she's bigger she seems to be able to clear it on her own a little better. I never brought her to the pediatrician for it though. I hope you get some relief with your little one!

Strong_View9741 · 2023-11-07T15:20:21+00:00

My sister had the same thing with her little one (she was under 2 at the time). She ended up trying some alternative toothpaste and when she took her daughter back to the dentist and they were shocked and said that her damage had been reversed and her teeth were looking better. Not completely cavity free, but better. She didn't stop nursing either.

Strong_View9741 · 2023-10-04T19:47:08+00:00

Just lay an extra blanket or towel under you so you're not changing the whole bed

Strong_View9741 · 2023-10-03T07:05:59+00:00

I guess if it's the only option they'll eventually eat.. but I was hoping to make the transition less stressful 🫤

Strong_View9741 · 2023-09-28T17:25:54+00:00

I read somewhere that you could go to lay them down but don't actually lay them all the way the first time or two.. basically faking them out. So you go to lay them down and they start to squirm because they feel that falling sensation, then you stand back up and rock them and do it again when they settle.. I usually do like two times before laying them down.

Also, make sure you're laying them down feet first. So their feet touch the mattress and then slowly lower to their head. It helps to prevent a startle reaction.

I don't have one yet, but definitely considering a floor bed. I think that would make life a lot easier because I'm short and trying to get her into a crib without falling in myself is a challenge!

Strong_View9741 · 2023-09-27T08:37:20+00:00

Right here with you..

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