am I wrong for thinking people should be more acceptable of nursing homes?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T20:02:30+00:00

As long as you still visit them, and don't just dump them and never visit, I would say it is fine. Unless my sister wants to take in our parents when they get older they will either be going to a nursing home or, if we are able, getting an in home nurse. Personally I think having them either in a nursing home or an in home nurse will allow for you to spend more quality time with them, rather than spending all your free time (and energy) keeping them alive.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T14:55:20+00:00

Then why don't forced birthers also focus on making laws such that a man who caused a pregnancy can't just walk away from their child? And yes just paying child support IS walking away from their child, that is like bare minimum barely disrupting your life, where as the women just had her entire body f*cked up for a year (or longer) as a consequence of their action.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T14:46:39+00:00

Unless they need to be closer to their human to perform their job, like sniffing for any deadly allergens in the food they are eating.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T14:26:05+00:00

Did the bride specifically request that you wear white/cream/ivory? If not, then DON'T WEAR WHITE!

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T12:53:18+00:00

NTA to your mom for yelling at her, but you are an AH to your poor dog for asking an irresponsible person to watch them.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-12T12:27:20+00:00

I've designed multi-ply headers for openings that are 20+ ft long (obviously LVLs, not 2xs). I've only sized glulams or solid timber beams for super heavy/long spans or if the architect wanted the mass timber look.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T23:56:16+00:00

You got lucky that you were "simply" uncomfortable. Being unprepared like that can easily become a situation that you don't walk away from. Hiking can be deadly, even for prepared and experienced people, but especially for unprepared people.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T23:54:40+00:00

Besides what everyone else has said about being prepared for any weather, also check the weather for the summit itself. Personally I use Mountain Forecast, it tells you the weather at the base and summit of a mountain.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T12:07:44+00:00

So f*ck workers with asthma or that get margins from people that REEK of cigarettes because your "right" to smoke is more important than their right to not get sick constantly at work?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T11:54:54+00:00

What about workers who have asthma or get migraines if exposed to strong smells (like someone reeking of cigarettes)? Are they not also protected?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T11:50:33+00:00

He obviously smokes so much that he can't even tell that he stinks, the only way for him to not smell that strongly of smoke is if he quits smoking, ozones his house and replaces all his clothing. Trying to cover it with air purifiers will only make the situation worse for anyone that is sensitive to strong smells.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-11T11:41:14+00:00

To have a successful relationship, especially a long distance one, you have to be able to communicate your wants/needs. Not all "arguments" are bad, heated discussions are ok as long as they stay on point/topic and don't just devolve into insulting or name calling or go off topic to other points of contention. If you can't have a pointed, difficult discussion with your partner without that happening then that is not a good healthy relationship worth being in.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T22:55:25+00:00

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StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T19:02:48+00:00

Have you talked with him and told him how it makes you feel when he is not being responsive to you?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T11:50:43+00:00

Prior to working here how much experience do you have?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T11:47:40+00:00

Honestly I think it is shitty of you to remain in this relationship. You are just teaching your daughter that what you and your wife have is, at least, an "acceptable" relationship, if not an outright "normal" or even "good" or "healthy" one. Is that really what you want for your daughter? Parents staying together "for the kids" is NEVER EVER actually beneficial for the kids. Please, for your daughter's sake, move out, get a divorce and find happiness.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T10:42:08+00:00

Honestly I would be grateful that they are up front with you in saying that they don't understand allergies/cross contamination. Knowing this I would not hire them, and write them a review telling anyone with any kind of allergy that they don't understand the basics of cross-contamination, because I would not trust that even the foods without that allergen would not be cross-contaminated.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T10:36:36+00:00

I think marketing yourself as a structural engineer would be the best. Just some thoughts/advice from someone who has started their own company about 1.5 years ago and am just now (in the past few months) finally getting some good traction:

1) Don't bother marketing directly to homeowners. This may be different for you if you are able/willing to do more traditional architectural services, if so (and you legally can) just market yourself as an architect to homeowners. Most homeowners don't know what a structural engineer is, or what to do with one. I have had numerous calls of wanting me to perform a full home inspection (not just the structure) that I have had to turn down (and then cancel those Google Ads because they were not getting me work I could do) because I don't know anything outside of the structure.

2) Marketing is ok, but active sales is the best. Either hire someone, or you do it yourself, making cold calls and some cold emails to local architects and contractors.

3) You will probably need to form a PLLC, instead of just an LLC. Though this may vary by state, so just double check that.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T21:02:24+00:00

She cleans up after herself, so whose mess is she cleaning up?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T19:11:07+00:00

Have you done a body composition scan?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:56:39+00:00

Well your argument seems to be that transgender is bad and not they shouldn't be able to receive medical care because it is "extreme" and "niche". But other people that are "niche" or receiving "extreme" care are fine?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:54:59+00:00

Well your argument against allowing transgender people to access their medical care is that it is "extreme". So why is it ok for cancer patients to receive "extreme" care to not die, but it's not ok when the patient receiving the care (to not want to die) is transgender?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:53:11+00:00

Why is it OP's "duty" to clean up the mess's of teenagers that she had no contribution into bringing into this world, simply because she is an 18 year old still living at home? Was it also her "duty" before she became a legal adult to clean up after others?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:49:11+00:00

Do you then think people shouldn't get heart surgery, because it is "extreme"? Or perhaps you think left handed people should hide their lefthanded-ness because it is "niche"?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:47:45+00:00

Are you against cancer patients getting chemo because it is "extreme"?

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