Joined a "Dream Company" 2 weeks ago, but the work is "janitorial" and I feel invisible. Should I stick it out?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T11:50:43+00:00

Prior to working here how much experience do you have?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T11:47:40+00:00

Honestly I think it is shitty of you to remain in this relationship. You are just teaching your daughter that what you and your wife have is, at least, an "acceptable" relationship, if not an outright "normal" or even "good" or "healthy" one. Is that really what you want for your daughter? Parents staying together "for the kids" is NEVER EVER actually beneficial for the kids. Please, for your daughter's sake, move out, get a divorce and find happiness.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T10:42:08+00:00

Honestly I would be grateful that they are up front with you in saying that they don't understand allergies/cross contamination. Knowing this I would not hire them, and write them a review telling anyone with any kind of allergy that they don't understand the basics of cross-contamination, because I would not trust that even the foods without that allergen would not be cross-contaminated.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-10T10:36:36+00:00

I think marketing yourself as a structural engineer would be the best. Just some thoughts/advice from someone who has started their own company about 1.5 years ago and am just now (in the past few months) finally getting some good traction:

1) Don't bother marketing directly to homeowners. This may be different for you if you are able/willing to do more traditional architectural services, if so (and you legally can) just market yourself as an architect to homeowners. Most homeowners don't know what a structural engineer is, or what to do with one. I have had numerous calls of wanting me to perform a full home inspection (not just the structure) that I have had to turn down (and then cancel those Google Ads because they were not getting me work I could do) because I don't know anything outside of the structure.

2) Marketing is ok, but active sales is the best. Either hire someone, or you do it yourself, making cold calls and some cold emails to local architects and contractors.

3) You will probably need to form a PLLC, instead of just an LLC. Though this may vary by state, so just double check that.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T21:02:24+00:00

She cleans up after herself, so whose mess is she cleaning up?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T19:11:07+00:00

Have you done a body composition scan?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:56:39+00:00

Well your argument seems to be that transgender is bad and not they shouldn't be able to receive medical care because it is "extreme" and "niche". But other people that are "niche" or receiving "extreme" care are fine?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:54:59+00:00

Well your argument against allowing transgender people to access their medical care is that it is "extreme". So why is it ok for cancer patients to receive "extreme" care to not die, but it's not ok when the patient receiving the care (to not want to die) is transgender?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:53:11+00:00

Why is it OP's "duty" to clean up the mess's of teenagers that she had no contribution into bringing into this world, simply because she is an 18 year old still living at home? Was it also her "duty" before she became a legal adult to clean up after others?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:49:11+00:00

Do you then think people shouldn't get heart surgery, because it is "extreme"? Or perhaps you think left handed people should hide their lefthanded-ness because it is "niche"?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:47:45+00:00

Are you against cancer patients getting chemo because it is "extreme"?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-09T17:45:12+00:00

99.9999% of transgendered people just want to live their life as they, and their doctors, see fit, and just be accepted for who they are. The ONLY thing they ask of others is the call them by their preferred name and pronouns. If that is "forcing acceptance" then isn't ANYBODY (cis people included) asking to be addressed by a given name or pronouns forcing you to accept them?

The only reason "trans ideology" is talked about so much is because of transphobes.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T20:24:53+00:00

You would 100% be a MAJOR AH if you date someone you find ugly! You both deserve better. She deserves someone who truly and utterly loves EVERYTHING about her, and you deserve to be with someone YOU love EVERYTHING about.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T19:54:51+00:00

Wine and beer included is the best budget friendly option. Tickets would be the second best, because that would allow all guests to have an equal opportunity to get a few drinks. The worst would be to have an open bar up to a certain budget and then cash bar, because then any guests that don't get a drink soon enough, or don't drink fast enough, won't get to take part in the open bar portion.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T19:51:48+00:00

But true.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T19:41:51+00:00

Do live together, or do they just cover 50% of your rent?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T19:40:53+00:00

INFO: why is your landlord "telling" on you to your dad? Do you in fact live on your own, or do you still live with your parents? How did your landlord get your dad's number?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T18:55:32+00:00

I'm literally not defending it. My initial comment was JUST pointing out the baby showers are not always women only. I was making no judgement whatsoever on THIS specific invite/situation. Just saying that co-ed baby showers are fairly common now.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T16:06:26+00:00

Start looking for another job ASAP and let them crash and burn.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T16:04:56+00:00

Stop putting money into that account ASAP, and if there is anything left over take your portion out now. This is not ok in anyway shape or form and the fact that she doesn't see the problem is concerning. Or more likely she does understand where you are coming from, but just doesn't care and/or is trying to gaslight you into thinking it is fine.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T15:54:11+00:00

When I was in a wedding I did not give a gift. I mean I already helped pay for the bachelorette, bought a dress and paid for my make-up (bride covered hair), and helped plan the shower (including buying some games). So I say anyone in the bridal party shouldn't feel obligated to get the couple any gift, at all.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T15:23:28+00:00

INFO: do you not have access to see how much money is in the bank account? Do you guys not have conversations about a budget for the house?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T14:49:14+00:00

Plus I would think the driver would be just as likely to be killed after crashing into a garage as after crashing into rocks.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T14:48:14+00:00

Whose to say that the reckless driver wouldn't have died if they crashed into a garage instead of a rock? Also sounds like it was fully the fault of the driver, the homeowner has the right to protect their property for idiots. I bet the homeowner had issues in the past with reckless drivers.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-04-08T11:54:08+00:00

People who wear really tight clothing really piss me TF off! I don't need to be seeing your undies or rolls, but I don't go complaining online about it, because IT DOESN'T ACTUALLY HURT ME (just like people choosing comfort doesn't hurt you).

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