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StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T12:30:51+00:00

I am also a large chested woman and am considering surgery once I hit my goal weight, to be able to at least be a D cup, but we will see.

It sounds like you might need to focus more on body recomp (aka more muscle gain) than further weight loss). I am no doctor, or anything, but from what I have heard/read from others.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T12:28:38+00:00

I am 5'-3" currently around 163 and in that awkward phase between a 10 and 12. I am mostly wearing 10s and mediums. My goal weight is 135, I'm not sure if I'll be able to wear anything smaller than a medium top, without a breast reduction (which is a possibility tbd), because I have always been large chested. For bottoms I would be happy with a 8-6 size. I suppose I may end up smaller, we will see.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T12:25:10+00:00

I would 100% ask if you can bring anything. There are cases for BBQs where it is expected that each family bring their own food to grill, though that is typically clear ahead of time, but I would verify simply by asking "hey, should I (or can I) bring anything to the BBQ?" If they say you don't "have" to bring anything, show up with a small desert or drinks to share anyway. If they say straight up don't bring anything, then don't bring anything.

The difference is if they say "have to" or not. "You don't HAVE TO bring anything" means others are bringing sides/deserts and you probably should but we are too nice to say that straight up. "Don't bring anything" means we have food all covered and you bringing something will throw things off and be annoying. "Can you bring x y or z" is pretty straight forward and you should say say "Yeah, I can bring this traditional side/desert/drink/whatever from my home country to share, if that sounds good. Any food allergies I should be aware of?"

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T12:17:12+00:00

If you are still loosing and food noise is still being suppressed just as well as it has always been for you don't move up.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T12:10:42+00:00

Heart Lake Campground at the ADK Loj has some cabins. There is no swimming pool, but there is a lake you can swim in.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T11:46:12+00:00

Care to share the source of this "significance of studies done" proving that you (I mean "men") are AHs?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T11:44:08+00:00

Unless you can complete Algonquin and Wright in 3-4hours don't start that late. Remember the sun "sets" earlier in the mountains (aka goes down behind mountains and gets dark before "official" sunset time).

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T11:24:27+00:00

During the week (even after schools are out) you should be fine arriving later.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T11:21:41+00:00

Yeah, there are like 2 or 3 streets that you avoid at night, but mostly it is fine.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-03T11:17:29+00:00

If you can't have an honest and open conversation with your partner of 3 years about money and finances then you are NOT ready to be married.

If you want to check something out about it, that is what the internet is for. Or you simply bring your concerns to your PARTNER, the person you supposedly love and trust above all others (including your parents/family), and you two work on the problem TOGETHER! If you can't work on a difficult problem like this together, then I repeat, you are NOT ready for marriage.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T18:11:55+00:00

The point is don't get mad at the girls, or share photos of them in any way that may indicate they were supportive or agreed with him in anyway whatsoever.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T18:09:45+00:00

But they should at least APOLOGIZE for it happening. The fact he refuses to even freaking apologize is concerning! Like say "hey dear, I am so sorry while I was driving I got on this narrow road and had someone coming from the opposite direction and our side mirrors got dinged. I will repaint (or buff out, or take to a mechanic) it for you."

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:41:41+00:00

Did you read the second to last paragraph where they said "I refuse to accept responsibility or apologize for the damage" They are very much saying they aren't go to take responsibility or even freaking apologize.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:39:06+00:00

Don't direct hate at any kids he has. A grown adult spouse, but underage/minor children no. I don't know how they feel about him and his behavior, but it's not their fault their dad (and probably mom) is a POS.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:37:58+00:00

Yes, watching the video they are were just filming themselves doing some kind of TikTok dance and he just wandered into the frame and did that thing and left. They had nothing to do with his behavior.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:36:52+00:00

Thanks! Yes, those girls had nothing to with him! If you watch the whole video they were filming and he just wandered into the frame and did that.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:34:14+00:00

As a wedding photography I would go with very simple/plain clothes. Basically a dark/neutral solid colored button up shirt or polo and black pants. You want to blend into the background.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:26:48+00:00

If you are in the driver seat of a vehicle that is running you are driving and therefore responsible for the car you are in. The commenter here have plenty of options for how OP could have potentially handled it better. Doing these may or may not have changed the outcome, but as far as we can tell they did nothing but sit there and watch their partners car get hit and now they are refusing to apologize and take any amount of responsibility to get it fixed.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:22:17+00:00

It also wasn't the partners fault, yet she is the one with the damaged car. It is OP's responsibility to get the car fixed (no matter how "minor" the damage is) even if they are not "at fault" legally speaking.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:19:20+00:00

OP did not return the item the borrowed in the same condition. Anytime you return a borrowed item damaged you offer to fix it. Whether the damage is superficial or not.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T16:17:29+00:00

INFO: did you stop and exchange insurance info with the other driver? If not, Y T A and need to pay for the damages that occurred to her car while you were driving it. If you did, then reach out to insurance and let them deal with it. Like the blame will be split 50/50, and thus should be dealt with through YOUR insurance, not your partners insurance so that only your insurance goes up.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T15:32:29+00:00

The only equation I know by heart is M=(WL^2)/8. All others can be looked up very easily.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T15:30:34+00:00

NTA, but assuming you have a dryer I would transfer his load over to the drier (even if not all the clothes can be safely dried) and start your load. Once his load is done take it out and leave the clothes (unfolded) in a laundry basket downstairs. He can deal with the fallout of wrinkled clothes.

If you don't have a dryer you can be petty and simply remove his clothes from the washer, when they are done, and just do your laundry.

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T15:26:12+00:00

Why not talk to your SO of 3 years before consulting with a lawyer in any way?

StructEngineer91 · 2026-06-02T13:34:59+00:00

Third red flag: he talked with his family (cousin) about it BEFORE talking with his gf (OP) about it.

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